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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Over the last few years, I have witnessed a trend that is very surprising to me: ridiculously well compensated men who have some how achieved the ability to get MORE time with their families at the height of their careers.  I am talking managing partners of major law firms, developers, high end lobbyists, CEOs of mid sized businesses and large publicly traded ones - all making seven figures and up - who are simply AROUND for their kids.  Coaching, volunteering, attending games, taking sons and daughters on trips, driving them to and from stuff.  All very successful men who absolutely make time above and beyond the norm to be present for their kids.  They all also appear to have strong marriages and do a lot of things with their wives.  I am sure they all have help to take a lot of the running around out of their lives and to get chores done but they don't appear to use the time saved for more work or golf or what have you.  The new "goal" for the DC super achievers that I know is to use their time well with their families, careers, communities and their hobbies.  These are not man-children at all.     [/quote]
When you are that high up, you have more flexibility in your job schedule. Think Marissa Mayer and building a nursery next to her office.  Middle management type who earn a solid living don't have as much flexibility.

I think there are two types of very high earning men -- one that uses the flexibility they have in their  position to be an involved parent [b]or uses their position as an excuse to shirk their duties as a parent/spouse (aka Trump).[/b]

It doesn't matter how much the man earns. What it comes down to is, "Is he willing and wanting to be a fully engaged partner and parent".  You can have a low earning man not want to fully engage, too. It's not about money. It's about the man.[/quote]

And yet Trump's kids all seem to adore him. [/quote]
Yes, they are looking for affirmation, and because he gives them money and positions in his company.  Duh.   Per his exwife, he was never involved with his kids until they  hit college.   How sad.

Would you be ok with your DH not being involved with your kids until they hit 18? Or I guess if you are a man that is what you would like to do but your wife probably forces you to be involved in your children's lives. How sad for your children.[/quote]

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