Men in your 50s, do you find women in their 50s attractive?

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Anonymous wrote:Some men feel threatened by a mature, confident woman who shrugs off a man who's not attracted to her. It doesn't mean she's incapable of an intense, in-love relationship. It means she's not desperate, and she doesn't care about your approval. Mind-boggling concept to some men.

This is so true. Since I am threatened by the mature, confident women, I have to settle for young, tight women. Sometimes life is cruel.

You realize we're all tight if you're not tiny, right?

Sometimes life is cruel.

I’m the PP you’re insulting and I must say, “brilliant!”

[Anonymous]

I don’t get why everyone is arguing the attractiveness of 30 year olds vs 50 year olds. The question was do men find 50 year old women attractive.

The answer is yes. Men will have sex with almost anything that has two X chromosomes. Doesn’t matter if she’s 25 or 55, if she takes reasonable care of herself, men will gladly take them both. Know why nursing homes have high STD rates? Because people like sex and will do it regardless of how wrinkly and saggy the other person is.

It’s like when women argue over the attractiveness of curvy vs strong vs skinny. Truth is, men would bang any of them. Preferably at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why everyone is arguing the attractiveness of 30 year olds vs 50 year olds. The question was do men find 50 year old women attractive.

The answer is yes. Men will have sex with almost anything that has two X chromosomes. Doesn’t matter if she’s 25 or 55, if she takes reasonable care of herself, men will gladly take them both. Know why nursing homes have high STD rates? Because people like sex and will do it regardless of how wrinkly and saggy the other person is.

It’s like when women argue over the attractiveness of curvy vs strong vs skinny. Truth is, men would bang any of them. Preferably at the same time.

I guess. But there is a difference. I don’t fantasize about the 55 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some men feel threatened by a mature, confident woman who shrugs off a man who's not attracted to her. It doesn't mean she's incapable of an intense, in-love relationship. It means she's not desperate, and she doesn't care about your approval. Mind-boggling concept to some men.

Sounds like she's cranky, serves no purpose to me, and should be avoided.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some men feel threatened by a mature, confident woman who shrugs off a man who's not attracted to her. It doesn't mean she's incapable of an intense, in-love relationship. It means she's not desperate, and she doesn't care about your approval. Mind-boggling concept to some men.

This is so true. Since I am threatened by the mature, confident women, I have to settle for young, tight women. Sometimes life is cruel.

You realize we're all tight if you're not tiny, right?

Sometimes life is cruel.

I’m the PP you’re insulting and I must say, “brilliant!”

That was pretty good. Can't really say anything to that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is truly nasty even for DCUM standards. Seething with bitterness.

It's pretty much right in line with DCUM nasty standards. and as usual, most of the nasty is coming from the women in this thread.

I have a great loving relationship with a woman 15 years younger than me. We have a lot of the same life experiences in common that are hard for others to understand if they haven't lived it. She isn't crazy or desperate and could easily date any number of men closer to her age, or even younger. She is attractive, fit, and not surprisingly, she gets a lot of offers.

If this weren't such a nasty place, maybe one or two woman might say, I'm happy for you both that you found each other and enjoy such a great relationship. But this isn't the place for that. Even those who say they are happily married, most of them, somehow feel very threatened by the idea of men dating younger. Some of the guys get it, but this is more of a a board for women to vent their unhappiness and bitterness and project it on to the men why feel are responsible for it.

I don't feel at all threatened by an older man dating a younger woman. I used to be attracted to older men, but that was when I was in my 20s. I'm in my late 40's now, and don't find 99% of 60 yr old men attractive at all.

I guess if you go by this board, a lot of women are bitter and angry at having to take on the primary duties for childcare/housechore AND work at the same time. And actually, stats show that this is indeed true - women are the primary caregivers, even for elderly parents. That's a lot of stress and pressure on women.Most of the posts in the relationship forum by women are about how their DHs don't pull their weight at home. They are married to man-babies. They wasted their youth on a man-baby, and now that their kids are grown, older men don't want them. That's probably where the bitterness comes in. Just a guess. I'm happily married to a man six years older than me who pulls his weight at home, and then some. And we do have sex regularly now that my stress level has gone down (not so when I was stressed out with work, kids, etc). Honestly, I don't think some of you men realize how stress on a women will kill her libido in a heart beat. But, I digress. This thread isn't about why your DWs won't have sex with you.

Nope. It's not "stress". And choreplay won't solve it.

As soon as you move in with a woman, the countdown clock to sexual boredom begins. You've usually got maybe 2-5 years. Do all the chores you want, her libido will go away anyway.

This PP is still in the 2-5 year excitement window. It's only a matter of time before she rediscovers her "stress" and stops having sex with her poor DH.

The PP is 46, married for 14 years. The 2-5 year "excitement" window went out the door 13 years ago. But yes, we have regular sex now, more than 10 years ago when my stress level was high because we had a toddler, baby and I was working full time doing most of the mental work regarding childcare. DH finally recognized how stressed I was. We made some life changes, kids are older, and I have more free time to relax, get more sleep. And the sex is more fun now, too. I'm much more comfortable in my skin and with my body now than when the kids were just born. Even when I'm not that in the mood, I'll give DH a HJ at the least because I see how much he appreciates and loves me, and does things for me even when he doesn't feel like it.

Sorry your sex life sucks with your long term SO. If I were you, I'd take a hard look at what you could be doing wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:30 is the magic number for women. It's down hill (very slowly) from there. Once they hit 40 it's like a runaway truck flying down the mountain.

BAHAHAHA! I love when people say nonsense like this.

BTW the men I've known who date younger are usually gross in general: too much tanning bed, an immature "dude" attitude that doesn't suit, sex insecurities, or want to be hero worshipped because their egos are fragile.

Mature men worth their salt generally have no issue dating women 50+.

I’m a 61 YO man & I agree with you.
Harvey Weinstein is a perfect example.

Trump is another good example.

Perfect examples of what? Weinstein, and in a better world Trump, are not in trouble for dating younger women. They are in trouble for harassing women. Very different. Harassment is wrong, period. Age (of an adult) has nothing to do with it.

? Did you post on the wrong thread, or maybe you have reading comprehension skills. They are perfect examples of old men dating young women because of the bolded above.. this part "too much tanning bed, an immature "dude" attitude that doesn't suit, sex insecurities, or want to be hero worshipped because their egos are fragile".

[Anonymous]

So hoping this thread doesn't go off the rails now into a Trump-Weinstein monologue. I've actually taken some useful information from this discussion so far and learned a few things.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in her 50s who gets a lot of offers from men in their 20s and 30s. I look a lot younger than my age, most people assume I am in my early 30s. So if a man in his 50s thinks I am attractive, he isn't thinking "wow, what an attractive 50 something."

LOL those 20 and 30 year olds aren't fooled. They don't think you're 32. If they approach you, it's to get a good laugh or to strike "Cougar" off their sexual bucket list.

It's more basic than that. For any woman, no matter how old, fat, or ugly, there are many men out there who will hit that. They know you're in your 50s, they just don't care.

Many men will, but many men won't. I won't, I'm very picky.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some men feel threatened by a mature, confident woman who shrugs off a man who's not attracted to her. It doesn't mean she's incapable of an intense, in-love relationship. It means she's not desperate, and she doesn't care about your approval. Mind-boggling concept to some men.

This is so true. Since I am threatened by the mature, confident women, I have to settle for young, tight women. Sometimes life is cruel.

You realize we're all tight if you're not tiny, right?

Sometimes life is cruel.

No, you aren't all tight. I'm really well-endowed, and I can tell the difference.

[Anonymous]

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Having written this I guess this thread is about women over fifty but frankly if you are willing to date divorced men with kids there seems to be plenty of availability.

I just turned 48 and my only child is 20 and away at college. I would much, much prefer to date a 60 plus guy whose kids are grown than another 50 year old who still has kids that live with him most or all of the time.

And I'm the 61 year old guy who dates women in their 40s. Some with children but not toddlers, some who never had children (I don't get along as well with them). They typically have older teens or young adults maybe still living with them while mine are long out of the house. They are looking for a good relationship with a man who has time to devote to her and isn't looking for her mother his children, or deal with XW issues. At the same time, she isn't looking for a new daddy for her kids, or another guy to marry and support them while she quits working. It's more of a real relationship than most I read about here.

Is that because at your age, you're looking for a second mommy who will take care of you and wipe your little bottom? The childless women won't put up with that?

In my family it's been the men who took care of their elderly spouses (or mothers) when they got old and had cancer, broken hips, dementia. The men seem to die fast, going from healthy, to a week in the hospital, to gone. Seeing how you value caregivers, PP, I hope when you get to that point you have no one to care for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some men feel threatened by a mature, confident woman who shrugs off a man who's not attracted to her. It doesn't mean she's incapable of an intense, in-love relationship. It means she's not desperate, and she doesn't care about your approval. Mind-boggling concept to some men.

This is so true. Since I am threatened by the mature, confident women, I have to settle for young, tight women. Sometimes life is cruel.

You realize we're all tight if you're not tiny, right?

Sometimes life is cruel.

No, you aren't all tight. I'm really well-endowed, and I can tell the difference.

No, you aren't sweetie. And you know it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some men feel threatened by a mature, confident woman who shrugs off a man who's not attracted to her. It doesn't mean she's incapable of an intense, in-love relationship. It means she's not desperate, and she doesn't care about your approval. Mind-boggling concept to some men.

This is so true. Since I am threatened by the mature, confident women, I have to settle for young, tight women. Sometimes life is cruel.

You realize we're all tight if you're not tiny, right?

Sometimes life is cruel.

No, you aren't all tight. I'm really well-endowed, and I can tell the difference.

Well despite being “really well endowed,” (yeah, sure grandpa ), you have no sense of humor, so you fail.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some men feel threatened by a mature, confident woman who shrugs off a man who's not attracted to her. It doesn't mean she's incapable of an intense, in-love relationship. It means she's not desperate, and she doesn't care about your approval. Mind-boggling concept to some men.

This is so true. Since I am threatened by the mature, confident women, I have to settle for young, tight women. Sometimes life is cruel.

You realize we're all tight if you're not tiny, right?

Sometimes life is cruel.

No, you aren't all tight. I'm really well-endowed, and I can tell the difference.

Well despite being “really well endowed,” (yeah, sure grandpa ), you have no sense of humor, so you fail.

ouch!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some men feel threatened by a mature, confident woman who shrugs off a man who's not attracted to her. It doesn't mean she's incapable of an intense, in-love relationship. It means she's not desperate, and she doesn't care about your approval. Mind-boggling concept to some men.

This is so true. Since I am threatened by the mature, confident women, I have to settle for young, tight women. Sometimes life is cruel.

You realize we're all tight if you're not tiny, right?

Sometimes life is cruel.

No, you aren't all tight. I'm really well-endowed, and I can tell the difference.

Well despite being “really well endowed,” (yeah, sure grandpa ), you have no sense of humor, so you fail.

ouch!

I think I'm the grandpa of this thread and that is not me making those claims about my endowment, or commenting on anyone being tight.

BTW, I've never seen any correlation at all in tightness between older, younger, never had children, or had a few. I think I've only been with one woman who really had an issue there, like a huge issue (and sure, she could just say I have a small issue) and she never had children. Another I remember was really young and thin, when I was really young, and hadn't had any children yet. As for the rest, all but two were just average which is to say they were great. Those two, who were extraordinarily tight, both had two children. Both had a tilted uterus too so I assume there is some connection there. I could be wrong.