Confessions

[Anonymous]

Where do you live that you have to drive to the grocery store?

In DC there are lots of neighborhoods where you have to drive to the grocery store. Woodley Park, Forest Hills, most of Georgetown,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you read DCUM you quickly realize moms have two choices:

to SAHM and be uninteresting, bored, and growing stupider,

or to be WM and be money-hungry, unmaternal, and happy to have someone else raise her child.

What a great choice we are setting up for our daughters and future daughter-in-laws.

Great job ladies!

Except that as a SAHM, you can find ways to engage yourself, continue learning and gain new skills. It's harder if you're a WM to spend more time with your children.

You missed this poster's point. We all lose if we keep tearing each other down. But thanks for more negativity and WM-bashing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:am I the only happy woman in this forum? I don't own a house, I don't own a car, I work full time, I go to school full time and I love the man that I have by my side. is it a confession anyway?

you didn't mention a kid... maybe that's why you're the only happy woman in this forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:am I the only happy woman in this forum? I don't own a house, I don't own a car, I work full time, I go to school full time and I love the man that I have by my side. is it a confession anyway?

No, I'm really happy, too. In fact, I'm so happy that I sometimes worry that it's too good to last, and something terrible and out-of-our-control will happen. Like being hit by a bus or dying from cancer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:am I the only happy woman in this forum? I don't own a house, I don't own a car, I work full time, I go to school full time and I love the man that I have by my side. is it a confession anyway?

you didn't mention a kid... maybe that's why you're the only happy woman in this forum.

WOW! So the source of your misery is you kid(s)? You need help.

[Anonymous]

No, I'm really happy, too. In fact, I'm so happy that I sometimes worry that it's too good to last, and something terrible and out-of-our-control will happen. Like being hit by a bus or dying from cancer.

I feel the same way, and I wonder the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:am I the only happy woman in this forum? I don't own a house, I don't own a car, I work full time, I go to school full time and I love the man that I have by my side. is it a confession anyway?

you didn't mention a kid... maybe that's why you're the only happy woman in this forum.

WOW! So the source of your misery is you kid(s)? You need help.

lol simplify much? Children are not the source of misery (not for me at least) but they have certainly added to many couple's stress it seems. There are many couples that get divorced after they have kids and not before. You think this is a coincidence?

As far as I am concerned: I am neither happy nor unhappy. I am still striving for the right balance. There are days when I feel happy and days when I feel overwhelmed and unhappy. What I want is something in between.

Before I had kids, I considered myself a happy woman because my life was simple. I worked, went to school and loved my man. Now I need to balance everything, which is a completely different reality than pre-kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

No, I'm really happy, too. In fact, I'm so happy that I sometimes worry that it's too good to last, and something terrible and out-of-our-control will happen. Like being hit by a bus or dying from cancer.

I feel the same way, and I wonder the same thing.

I can so relate to this. I have a healthy child, great husband, great job that lets me spend lots of time with DD. I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop. What is ahead that will ruin everything?

I am truly happy but must say, before I had a child there was so much less to lose. The stress and what ifs can really get to me if I don't try to just enjoy each day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I confess that I suspect at least some of the lesbian lust threads were written by men.

I was part of it and 100% woman!!!!

[Anonymous]

I am young (22), pregnant with my second child by 2 different men, not married (soon to be engaged I am suspecting!), work full time, live pretty much paycheck to paycheck, rent the upstairs of my grandmothers old house and have 3 bedrooms, 1 1/2 bath and a big beautiful yard (uncle lives downstairs-but never see or hear from him), have no college education (and won't until the newest baby gets a little older), send my DD to a great private daycare acadamy for working lower income families (you couldn't tell this school from a school you would pay 17k a year for),and yet am happier and MORE GRATEFUL than 98% of these sahm and 1.2 mil dollar home owning moms!! What is with you guys? You have children, be blessed. Who cares if you work or sah? You do what it takes to care for your kids and everyone has different means of doing that! Just be lucky and thankful!!! I love my life and no matter how much it may be frustrating or trying to work and juggle kids and bills and everything else I can't wait ot have more. It's about LOVE-not money or status. Maybe all of you are the ones that shouldn't have kid, as ungrateful as you are. YOU MAKE ME SICK!

[Anonymous]

Since I had my son a few years ago, I have mostly been a SAHM (minus a one year stint back to work) not because I love being home with my kid but more as an escape from being in a career I hate. I'd rather be working doing something I love but can't figure out what that is.

At the same time, I have a wonderful husband but some days I resent that he's not willing to work more hours in a higher paying job (he makes about $150K now) so that I don't have pressure to go back to a job I hate in order for us to be able to afford the life that we've become accustomed to on two incomes. He's very smart and has a high(er) earning potential than what he makes now, but he just doesn't want to do it. So, my life is a daily struggle between being a temporary SAHM but never really getting into it because I always have the need/pressure to go back to my dreaded career hanging over my head, though I find constant excuses as to why I can't apply for jobs I see or am very lame about following up on them. Meanwhile, we are watching our savings start to dwindle which makes me feel horrible as well. I feel very jealous of people I know whose husbands make tons of money while they stay home and play with their kids with no pressure to work and can still go on vacations, drive nice cars, etc. I also feel very envious of moms who don't have a lot of trouble going back to work after kids because they love their jobs. I so wish that was me.

DH is so wonderful I feel awful even writing that stuff because I know he'd be very hurt if he knew I felt resentment in this way (and more that I wished him to be a money-making machine for our family) but I realized one day recently that this is what I truly feel sometimes.

[Anonymous]

where's your confession?

I am the mom who wrote about wanting balance. What some of the PPs feared actually happened to us: our child was not born healthy. What was supposed to be the happiest moment of our lives turned out to be one of the most crushing moments of our lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:where's your confession?

I am the mom who wrote about wanting balance. What some of the PPs feared actually happened to us: our child was not born healthy. What was supposed to be the happiest moment of our lives turned out to be one of the most crushing moments of our lives.

because your child wasn't born healthy, it crushed you? How about happy the baby was alive? How about being appriciative that you could actually have a baby unlike some who have to spend thousands on IVF and other treatments only to still not be able to have a baby and have to go with a surrogate or adopt? Seriously. Everyone, be positive. Why all the negativity?!?!?!

[Anonymous]

because your child wasn't born healthy, it crushed you? How about happy the baby was alive? How about being appriciative that you could actually have a baby unlike some who have to spend thousands on IVF and other treatments only to still not be able to have a baby and have to go with a surrogate or adopt? Seriously. Everyone, be positive. Why all the negativity?!?!?!

It shows a STAGGERING lack of compassion and empathy to tell a parent whose child isn't born healthy that they should just "be positive." Goodness gracious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:where's your confession?

I am the mom who wrote about wanting balance. What some of the PPs feared actually happened to us: our child was not born healthy. What was supposed to be the happiest moment of our lives turned out to be one of the most crushing moments of our lives.

because your child wasn't born healthy, it crushed you? How about happy the baby was alive? How about being appriciative that you could actually have a baby unlike some who have to spend thousands on IVF and other treatments only to still not be able to have a baby and have to go with a surrogate or adopt? Seriously. Everyone, be positive. Why all the negativity?!?!?!

I understand your frustration but remember this thread is for confessions. A fair number of people are confessing to negativity about their life situations which perhaps they usually keep deeply secret from the rest of the world.