Just got grief for bringing 5 yo DS into the women's locker room

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think anyone has a problem with a 4 year old, most probably don't have a problem with a 5 year old, but what about the 6, 7 & 8 year olds?

No one was suggesting that if what you are doing is within the rules it is a problem.

What I read is one group of people saying is that the club set an age limit and you should adhere to that age limit or go to another club and a second d saying I will bring my son I to the ladies' locker room for as long as I want regardless of his age and the rules.

Actually, yes, several people have suggested that. OP referenced her 5 year old. Many others have referenced 5 year olds and apparently all 5 year old boys are sex obsessed pervs who should be kept away from the bare flesh of any child or adult because apparently the parents of daughters are unable to teach them that there is nothing shameful about (the tiny flash of) their body that may possibly be visible if someone happens to glance the wrong way at precisely the wrong moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So, what's the problem with toweling off poolside and then throwing on sweats over the suit, like many PPs have suggested?

I'm a mom with a daughter. On the advice of DCUM, I tried this with my DD one day. She was miserable on the ride home. Her wet suit soaked through her sweatpants. We put a towel down over the car seat and the car seat still got wet--through the sweat and the towel. Add to that that she had to walk to the car in a wet suit and then get into a 32 degree car, it was terrible.

I would not recommend this solution for a mom with boys. And yes, I have a 4.5 yr boy. I am going to be facing this challenge very soon as our pool does not have a family dressing room. I'm not sure what I'm going to do if he is unable to manage to get his wet suit off his body, towel off, get his dry clothes out of his backpack, put them on, put his wet clothes into his backpack and come out an meet me outside the mens locker room. At 4.5, he is not able to accomplish these things on his own. Maybe in 6 months, he will be able to--who knows.

For the summer, I don't see an issue with going home in a wet suit. It's the winter swimming where it really becomes an issue.

The straps of a seat cannot get wet, so be careful. Just change your kid and ignore the comments. They clearly do not have young boys. I have got looks changing my kid in public when we were in a hurry and none in the women's room, which was filled with boys. Why would you place a wet child in a 32 degree car? That makes no sense. One thing to have wet hair, but have wet clothing on your body is not ok.

Ok, seriously, it's not ok for your son to be uncomfortable for a few moments because he's wearing a damp suit under sweats, but it's ok for him to make every girl in the locker room uncomfortable while they're changing?

1) He won't be making anyone uncomfortable changing. For fucks sake, he's 5. If you or your daughters have a problem with this YOU CAN GO SWIM ELSEWHERE. If you complain about me, it is YOU who will be thrown out, not me.
2) It's not a matter of him being uncomfortable because he's wet, it's a matter of getting hypothermia. It would be severe neglect to take a wet child outside in freezing weather. You know that so stop being deliberately obstinate.

Sorry lady. You don't rule the world. If the club says no kids above 5, then you need to do something else.

And nobody gets hypothermia from walking to a car with a wet swimsuit underneath sweats.

LADY, with respect, YOU don't get to rule the world. Not one single poster has mentioned a club that says the rule excludes 5 year olds from opposite sex changing rooms. Not a single one. A common cut off, like that of OP's is SIX.

Yes, it is dangerous in winter weather to leave a pool in wet clothes. You do understand, don't you, that the heating doesn't immediately heat up a car? And that actually some people have to use public transport? I guess not, because after all, you are far too self obsessed to think about anyone but yourself and your fucked up daughters with severe issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think anyone has a problem with a 4 year old, most probably don't have a problem with a 5 year old, but what about the 6, 7 & 8 year olds?

No one was suggesting that if what you are doing is within the rules it is a problem.

What I read is one group of people saying is that the club set an age limit and you should adhere to that age limit or go to another club and a second d saying I will bring my son I to the ladies' locker room for as long as I want regardless of his age and the rules.

No, this poster is saying her kid is 5 now but when her kid is 6, 7, etc., she'll still bring him in the women's room even though she knows it is against the rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So, what's the problem with toweling off poolside and then throwing on sweats over the suit, like many PPs have suggested?

I'm a mom with a daughter. On the advice of DCUM, I tried this with my DD one day. She was miserable on the ride home. Her wet suit soaked through her sweatpants. We put a towel down over the car seat and the car seat still got wet--through the sweat and the towel. Add to that that she had to walk to the car in a wet suit and then get into a 32 degree car, it was terrible.

I would not recommend this solution for a mom with boys. And yes, I have a 4.5 yr boy. I am going to be facing this challenge very soon as our pool does not have a family dressing room. I'm not sure what I'm going to do if he is unable to manage to get his wet suit off his body, towel off, get his dry clothes out of his backpack, put them on, put his wet clothes into his backpack and come out an meet me outside the mens locker room. At 4.5, he is not able to accomplish these things on his own. Maybe in 6 months, he will be able to--who knows.

For the summer, I don't see an issue with going home in a wet suit. It's the winter swimming where it really becomes an issue.

The straps of a seat cannot get wet, so be careful. Just change your kid and ignore the comments. They clearly do not have young boys. I have got looks changing my kid in public when we were in a hurry and none in the women's room, which was filled with boys. Why would you place a wet child in a 32 degree car? That makes no sense. One thing to have wet hair, but have wet clothing on your body is not ok.

Ok, seriously, it's not ok for your son to be uncomfortable for a few moments because he's wearing a damp suit under sweats, but it's ok for him to make every girl in the locker room uncomfortable while they're changing?

1) He won't be making anyone uncomfortable changing. For fucks sake, he's 5. If you or your daughters have a problem with this YOU CAN GO SWIM ELSEWHERE. If you complain about me, it is YOU who will be thrown out, not me.
2) It's not a matter of him being uncomfortable because he's wet, it's a matter of getting hypothermia. It would be severe neglect to take a wet child outside in freezing weather. You know that so stop being deliberately obstinate.

Sorry lady. You don't rule the world. If the club says no kids above 5, then you need to do something else.

And nobody gets hypothermia from walking to a car with a wet swimsuit underneath sweats.

LADY, with respect, YOU don't get to rule the world. Not one single poster has mentioned a club that says the rule excludes 5 year olds from opposite sex changing rooms. Not a single one. A common cut off, like that of OP's is SIX.

Yes, it is dangerous in winter weather to leave a pool in wet clothes. You do understand, don't you, that the heating doesn't immediately heat up a car? And that actually some people have to use public transport? I guess not, because after all, you are far too self obsessed to think about anyone but yourself and your fucked up daughters with severe issues.

Don't lie. At least two clubs (mine and Turkey something have been mentioned on here with a cut-off at 3 years old for opposite sex changing rooms.

[Anonymous]

Dangerous to leave the pool in wet clothes? Why on earth are you taking your child to such a dangerous activity?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So, what's the problem with toweling off poolside and then throwing on sweats over the suit, like many PPs have suggested?

I'm a mom with a daughter. On the advice of DCUM, I tried this with my DD one day. She was miserable on the ride home. Her wet suit soaked through her sweatpants. We put a towel down over the car seat and the car seat still got wet--through the sweat and the towel. Add to that that she had to walk to the car in a wet suit and then get into a 32 degree car, it was terrible.

I would not recommend this solution for a mom with boys. And yes, I have a 4.5 yr boy. I am going to be facing this challenge very soon as our pool does not have a family dressing room. I'm not sure what I'm going to do if he is unable to manage to get his wet suit off his body, towel off, get his dry clothes out of his backpack, put them on, put his wet clothes into his backpack and come out an meet me outside the mens locker room. At 4.5, he is not able to accomplish these things on his own. Maybe in 6 months, he will be able to--who knows.

For the summer, I don't see an issue with going home in a wet suit. It's the winter swimming where it really becomes an issue.

The straps of a seat cannot get wet, so be careful. Just change your kid and ignore the comments. They clearly do not have young boys. I have got looks changing my kid in public when we were in a hurry and none in the women's room, which was filled with boys. Why would you place a wet child in a 32 degree car? That makes no sense. One thing to have wet hair, but have wet clothing on your body is not ok.

Ok, seriously, it's not ok for your son to be uncomfortable for a few moments because he's wearing a damp suit under sweats, but it's ok for him to make every girl in the locker room uncomfortable while they're changing?

1) He won't be making anyone uncomfortable changing. For fucks sake, he's 5. If you or your daughters have a problem with this YOU CAN GO SWIM ELSEWHERE. If you complain about me, it is YOU who will be thrown out, not me.
2) It's not a matter of him being uncomfortable because he's wet, it's a matter of getting hypothermia. It would be severe neglect to take a wet child outside in freezing weather. You know that so stop being deliberately obstinate.

(1) Sorry, hon, he is. You may not like that he is, but he is. And me and my daughters are the one obeying the rules. The rest of the world is not going to bend to your whims. And I'll bet all the money in my pockets that I'm in no danger of being thrown out for asking that pool members obey the rules.

(2) Hypothermia?! BWAH! That's awesome. I don't think you understand how, you know, physics works.

[Anonymous]

And nobody gets hypothermia from walking to a car with a wet swimsuit underneath sweats.

Ok, I have no intention of bringing my kid into the women's locker room once he is 6 (our pool's rule is kids over 5 can't be in the opposite gender changing room, and that's fine), but I would absolutely never have my kid walk to the car and ride in it with a wet swimsuit under sweats. That just sounds awful and incredibly uncomfortable. Once he's 6, he's going to have to change in the men's locker room, or in the area right in front of the men's locker room with a towel around his waist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So, what's the problem with toweling off poolside and then throwing on sweats over the suit, like many PPs have suggested?

I'm a mom with a daughter. On the advice of DCUM, I tried this with my DD one day. She was miserable on the ride home. Her wet suit soaked through her sweatpants. We put a towel down over the car seat and the car seat still got wet--through the sweat and the towel. Add to that that she had to walk to the car in a wet suit and then get into a 32 degree car, it was terrible.

I would not recommend this solution for a mom with boys. And yes, I have a 4.5 yr boy. I am going to be facing this challenge very soon as our pool does not have a family dressing room. I'm not sure what I'm going to do if he is unable to manage to get his wet suit off his body, towel off, get his dry clothes out of his backpack, put them on, put his wet clothes into his backpack and come out an meet me outside the mens locker room. At 4.5, he is not able to accomplish these things on his own. Maybe in 6 months, he will be able to--who knows.

For the summer, I don't see an issue with going home in a wet suit. It's the winter swimming where it really becomes an issue.

The straps of a seat cannot get wet, so be careful. Just change your kid and ignore the comments. They clearly do not have young boys. I have got looks changing my kid in public when we were in a hurry and none in the women's room, which was filled with boys. Why would you place a wet child in a 32 degree car? That makes no sense. One thing to have wet hair, but have wet clothing on your body is not ok.

Ok, seriously, it's not ok for your son to be uncomfortable for a few moments because he's wearing a damp suit under sweats, but it's ok for him to make every girl in the locker room uncomfortable while they're changing?

1) He won't be making anyone uncomfortable changing. For fucks sake, he's 5. If you or your daughters have a problem with this YOU CAN GO SWIM ELSEWHERE. If you complain about me, it is YOU who will be thrown out, not me.
2) It's not a matter of him being uncomfortable because he's wet, it's a matter of getting hypothermia. It would be severe neglect to take a wet child outside in freezing weather. You know that so stop being deliberately obstinate.

Sorry lady. You don't rule the world. If the club says no kids above 5, then you need to do something else.

And nobody gets hypothermia from walking to a car with a wet swimsuit underneath sweats.

LADY, with respect, YOU don't get to rule the world. Not one single poster has mentioned a club that says the rule excludes 5 year olds from opposite sex changing rooms. Not a single one. A common cut off, like that of OP's is SIX.

Yes, it is dangerous in winter weather to leave a pool in wet clothes. You do understand, don't you, that the heating doesn't immediately heat up a car? And that actually some people have to use public transport? I guess not, because after all, you are far too self obsessed to think about anyone but yourself and your fucked up daughters with severe issues.

Oh, I'm definitely going to need a citation supporting the claim that you will get hypothermia from wearing a damp suit under dry clothes and a jacket for the time it takes for a car to heat up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

And nobody gets hypothermia from walking to a car with a wet swimsuit underneath sweats.

Ok, I have no intention of bringing my kid into the women's locker room once he is 6 (our pool's rule is kids over 5 can't be in the opposite gender changing room, and that's fine), but I would absolutely never have my kid walk to the car and ride in it with a wet swimsuit under sweats. That just sounds awful and incredibly uncomfortable. Once he's 6, he's going to have to change in the men's locker room, or in the area right in front of the men's locker room with a towel around his waist.

Great! Awesome! Thanks for obeying the rules and considering that other people are people too!

[Anonymous]

Don't lie. At least two clubs (mine and Turkey something have been mentioned on here with a cut-off at 3 years old for opposite sex changing rooms.

If you don't like the rules, change your membership. Or lobby to have the rules changed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So, what's the problem with toweling off poolside and then throwing on sweats over the suit, like many PPs have suggested?

I'm a mom with a daughter. On the advice of DCUM, I tried this with my DD one day. She was miserable on the ride home. Her wet suit soaked through her sweatpants. We put a towel down over the car seat and the car seat still got wet--through the sweat and the towel. Add to that that she had to walk to the car in a wet suit and then get into a 32 degree car, it was terrible.

I would not recommend this solution for a mom with boys. And yes, I have a 4.5 yr boy. I am going to be facing this challenge very soon as our pool does not have a family dressing room. I'm not sure what I'm going to do if he is unable to manage to get his wet suit off his body, towel off, get his dry clothes out of his backpack, put them on, put his wet clothes into his backpack and come out an meet me outside the mens locker room. At 4.5, he is not able to accomplish these things on his own. Maybe in 6 months, he will be able to--who knows.

For the summer, I don't see an issue with going home in a wet suit. It's the winter swimming where it really becomes an issue.

The straps of a seat cannot get wet, so be careful. Just change your kid and ignore the comments. They clearly do not have young boys. I have got looks changing my kid in public when we were in a hurry and none in the women's room, which was filled with boys. Why would you place a wet child in a 32 degree car? That makes no sense. One thing to have wet hair, but have wet clothing on your body is not ok.

Ok, seriously, it's not ok for your son to be uncomfortable for a few moments because he's wearing a damp suit under sweats, but it's ok for him to make every girl in the locker room uncomfortable while they're changing?

1) He won't be making anyone uncomfortable changing. For fucks sake, he's 5. If you or your daughters have a problem with this YOU CAN GO SWIM ELSEWHERE. If you complain about me, it is YOU who will be thrown out, not me.
2) It's not a matter of him being uncomfortable because he's wet, it's a matter of getting hypothermia. It would be severe neglect to take a wet child outside in freezing weather. You know that so stop being deliberately obstinate.

Sorry lady. You don't rule the world. If the club says no kids above 5, then you need to do something else.

And nobody gets hypothermia from walking to a car with a wet swimsuit underneath sweats.

LADY, with respect, YOU don't get to rule the world. Not one single poster has mentioned a club that says the rule excludes 5 year olds from opposite sex changing rooms. Not a single one. A common cut off, like that of OP's is SIX.

Yes, it is dangerous in winter weather to leave a pool in wet clothes. You do understand, don't you, that the heating doesn't immediately heat up a car? And that actually some people have to use public transport? I guess not, because after all, you are far too self obsessed to think about anyone but yourself and your fucked up daughters with severe issues.

Oh my god, you are a riot!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So, what's the problem with toweling off poolside and then throwing on sweats over the suit, like many PPs have suggested?

I'm a mom with a daughter. On the advice of DCUM, I tried this with my DD one day. She was miserable on the ride home. Her wet suit soaked through her sweatpants. We put a towel down over the car seat and the car seat still got wet--through the sweat and the towel. Add to that that she had to walk to the car in a wet suit and then get into a 32 degree car, it was terrible.

I would not recommend this solution for a mom with boys. And yes, I have a 4.5 yr boy. I am going to be facing this challenge very soon as our pool does not have a family dressing room. I'm not sure what I'm going to do if he is unable to manage to get his wet suit off his body, towel off, get his dry clothes out of his backpack, put them on, put his wet clothes into his backpack and come out an meet me outside the mens locker room. At 4.5, he is not able to accomplish these things on his own. Maybe in 6 months, he will be able to--who knows.

For the summer, I don't see an issue with going home in a wet suit. It's the winter swimming where it really becomes an issue.

The straps of a seat cannot get wet, so be careful. Just change your kid and ignore the comments. They clearly do not have young boys. I have got looks changing my kid in public when we were in a hurry and none in the women's room, which was filled with boys. Why would you place a wet child in a 32 degree car? That makes no sense. One thing to have wet hair, but have wet clothing on your body is not ok.

Ok, seriously, it's not ok for your son to be uncomfortable for a few moments because he's wearing a damp suit under sweats, but it's ok for him to make every girl in the locker room uncomfortable while they're changing?

1) He won't be making anyone uncomfortable changing. For fucks sake, he's 5. If you or your daughters have a problem with this YOU CAN GO SWIM ELSEWHERE. If you complain about me, it is YOU who will be thrown out, not me.
2) It's not a matter of him being uncomfortable because he's wet, it's a matter of getting hypothermia. It would be severe neglect to take a wet child outside in freezing weather. You know that so stop being deliberately obstinate.

Sorry lady. You don't rule the world. If the club says no kids above 5, then you need to do something else.

And nobody gets hypothermia from walking to a car with a wet swimsuit underneath sweats.

LADY, with respect, YOU don't get to rule the world. Not one single poster has mentioned a club that says the rule excludes 5 year olds from opposite sex changing rooms. Not a single one. A common cut off, like that of OP's is SIX.

Yes, it is dangerous in winter weather to leave a pool in wet clothes. You do understand, don't you, that the heating doesn't immediately heat up a car? And that actually some people have to use public transport? I guess not, because after all, you are far too self obsessed to think about anyone but yourself and your fucked up daughters with severe issues.

Don't lie. At least two clubs (mine and Turkey something have been mentioned on here with a cut-off at 3 years old for opposite sex changing rooms.

Oh forgive me that I haven't read all 17 pages in great detail (though everything I've seen has concentrated on the rule of 6 year olds). Seriously, you think it's justifiable to let a 3 year old into a changing room on his own? Or are there family changing rooms there? In which case this discussion is moot. If you mean Turkey Thicket as the other one, that is a DCPR pool and the cut off is most certainly 6. Please can you share a link showing that a pool requires that a 3 year old go into the locker room on his own and that there isn't a family changing room? Because I'm calling bullshit.

Here's the link to the DCPR rules that make it clear that not only can 5 year olds go into the changing room with their opposite sex parent but that it is against the rules to either 1) change them pool side or 2) leave kids under the age of 6 unsupervised at ANY point. Sending a 5 year old alone into the locker room is prohibited. http://dpr.dc.gov/service/pool-rules-and-safety

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So, what's the problem with toweling off poolside and then throwing on sweats over the suit, like many PPs have suggested?

I'm a mom with a daughter. On the advice of DCUM, I tried this with my DD one day. She was miserable on the ride home. Her wet suit soaked through her sweatpants. We put a towel down over the car seat and the car seat still got wet--through the sweat and the towel. Add to that that she had to walk to the car in a wet suit and then get into a 32 degree car, it was terrible.

I would not recommend this solution for a mom with boys. And yes, I have a 4.5 yr boy. I am going to be facing this challenge very soon as our pool does not have a family dressing room. I'm not sure what I'm going to do if he is unable to manage to get his wet suit off his body, towel off, get his dry clothes out of his backpack, put them on, put his wet clothes into his backpack and come out an meet me outside the mens locker room. At 4.5, he is not able to accomplish these things on his own. Maybe in 6 months, he will be able to--who knows.

For the summer, I don't see an issue with going home in a wet suit. It's the winter swimming where it really becomes an issue.

The straps of a seat cannot get wet, so be careful. Just change your kid and ignore the comments. They clearly do not have young boys. I have got looks changing my kid in public when we were in a hurry and none in the women's room, which was filled with boys. Why would you place a wet child in a 32 degree car? That makes no sense. One thing to have wet hair, but have wet clothing on your body is not ok.

Ok, seriously, it's not ok for your son to be uncomfortable for a few moments because he's wearing a damp suit under sweats, but it's ok for him to make every girl in the locker room uncomfortable while they're changing?

1) He won't be making anyone uncomfortable changing. For fucks sake, he's 5. If you or your daughters have a problem with this YOU CAN GO SWIM ELSEWHERE. If you complain about me, it is YOU who will be thrown out, not me.
2) It's not a matter of him being uncomfortable because he's wet, it's a matter of getting hypothermia. It would be severe neglect to take a wet child outside in freezing weather. You know that so stop being deliberately obstinate.

Sorry lady. You don't rule the world. If the club says no kids above 5, then you need to do something else.

And nobody gets hypothermia from walking to a car with a wet swimsuit underneath sweats.

LADY, with respect, YOU don't get to rule the world. Not one single poster has mentioned a club that says the rule excludes 5 year olds from opposite sex changing rooms. Not a single one. A common cut off, like that of OP's is SIX.

Yes, it is dangerous in winter weather to leave a pool in wet clothes. You do understand, don't you, that the heating doesn't immediately heat up a car? And that actually some people have to use public transport? I guess not, because after all, you are far too self obsessed to think about anyone but yourself and your fucked up daughters with severe issues.

Oh my god, you are a riot!

I know! It's hilarious that some people actually travel by bus!! I'm sure you are looking down on the poors from your MacMansion in the exurbs. But some of us are just regular people you know, not stuck up prudes with hang ups about nudity around very young children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think anyone has a problem with a 4 year old, most probably don't have a problem with a 5 year old, but what about the 6, 7 & 8 year olds?

No one was suggesting that if what you are doing is within the rules it is a problem.

What I read is one group of people saying is that the club set an age limit and you should adhere to that age limit or go to another club and a second d saying I will bring my son I to the ladies' locker room for as long as I want regardless of his age and the rules.

No, this poster is saying her kid is 5 now but when her kid is 6, 7, etc., she'll still bring him in the women's room even though she knows it is against the rules.

If you mean me when you say "this poster", and I'm the one who I think you are currently arguing with (though there are others joining in too) I have never said anything of the sort. Some others have said that about special needs kids, primarily, but I have not said that.

You nuts are now trying to claim that 3 year olds make their daughters uncomfortable. That just beggars belief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe these aren't the best years for you to be taking your male children to the pool. Don't you have a husband?[/quote