women who don't work or raise kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:" On the other hand, his stories about his job are just SOOOOOOO interesting. "Honey, tell me again how you couldn't use the break room because they were painting it?" "

Does he ever talk to you about the meat of his actual work performance? DH and I discuss, as much as we can without violating employer confidences, the substance of our jobs.

Riveting! *snicker*

[Anonymous]

" I'm a SAHM but I have many interests including current events, politics, travel, culture, reading, tennis, yoga and a charity of which I'm a board member. "

How do you get your information on current events and politics? I get mine through my job, not Fox or CNN. It's more interesting to be involved in making news and policy that hearing about it in the press. Your DH loves to discuss "reading" and your tennis and yoga with you?

[Anonymous]

Do the SAHMs who judge WOHMs have female doctors with kids? Female lactation consultants with kids? Do you judge them, too? Imagine every elementary school teacher at your precious snowflake's school is a male... or a female without kids. The school nurse is a guy, too. How would you like that?

I'm so thankful for the diversity of roles in our society. working moms. I can't imagine interacting with a world where the entire workforce was men or women without kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:" I'm a SAHM but I have many interests including current events, politics, travel, culture, reading, tennis, yoga and a charity of which I'm a board member. "

How do you get your information on current events and politics? I get mine through my job, not Fox or CNN. It's more interesting to be involved in making news and policy that hearing about it in the press. Your DH loves to discuss "reading" and your tennis and yoga with you?

Are you for real? Sigh.

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Anonymous wrote:Looks like angry feminism is alive and well in DC!

Yes! It's posts like this that wake up the side of me that's usually dormant as I go through my weekdays on autopilot. Thanks, OP, and all the SAHWs for taking the place of caffeine this morning! I am so thankful for my job, my kids, my husband, and interesting friends who do more than eat bon bons all day or take pride in being trophy wives.

Says the bitter lady who's secretly pissed her husband doesn't make enough for her to SAH

He does, and I still choose to work. Did I just blow your mind?

No, different priorities. You'd rather parent PT and work FT, rather than vice versa. No sweat off my back.

Nope, just because a parent has a full time job in no way means that they parent PT. Why would you think that? It's not a matter of quantity.

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Anonymous wrote:What I want to know is how long these stay at home wives have been doing this? I assume the DH is expecting them to become SAHM's. I have no beefs with SAHM for the record. I do wonder if the husband would one day give an ultimatum to have children or get to work. I also wonder what happens if these women find they can't have children. Would that impact the relationship any differently than say a wife that is working a full-time job?

This happened to a good friend of mine. Got married at 20 right before finishing college and her husband didn't want her to work or go to graduate school, so she didn't. All the volunteering/shopping/housekeeping fun ended when she was found to be infertile. After 3 years or so going through fertility treatments, surgeries, and eventually an unsuccessful adoption attempt, he divorced her for another woman and left her with NOTHING. With a liberal arts BA and ZERO work experience 5 years after college she was completely unable to obtain a decent job and support herself. She worked at car dealerships, clothing stores, restaurants, etc. Her family was poor and not at all supportive so she was completely on her own. Now at age 35 she works as a preschool teacher and rents an apartment with a roommate. Much different than her nice little 3BD house she had at age 20 when everything seemed perfect! Hard way to learn that lesson!

Crap happens. We all know that. The odd thing is that on DCUM, the crap is the rule rather than the exception. Wonder what their early lives must have been like to have this worldview.

You think it's unusual to get divorced if you get married at 20 years old?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:" On the other hand, his stories about his job are just SOOOOOOO interesting. "Honey, tell me again how you couldn't use the break room because they were painting it?" "

Does he ever talk to you about the meat of his actual work performance? DH and I discuss, as much as we can without violating employer confidences, the substance of our jobs.

Riveting! *snicker*

It is. I guess you SAH or work by necessity? It's a joy to enjoy your life's work. Sorry that hasn't been your personal experience.

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Anonymous wrote:" I'm a SAHM but I have many interests including current events, politics, travel, culture, reading, tennis, yoga and a charity of which I'm a board member. "

How do you get your information on current events and politics? I get mine through my job, not Fox or CNN. It's more interesting to be involved in making news and policy that hearing about it in the press. Your DH loves to discuss "reading" and your tennis and yoga with you?

Are you for real? Sigh.

No no, I'm made up. Didn't answer the questions. Love to know how you access your news.

[Anonymous]

"Then please elaborate on your reasons! We heard from one who chose to become a status symbol, and others who thought they'd get pregnant right away. Who are the others? I can honestly say I think staying home to become a status symbol for your husband is being a waste of space. If you're staying home because you were burned out in your field, and want time to figure out something else, I can understand that. If it's to take care of a disabled or ill family member, I can understand that too. And if it's because your career was too stressful and you fear it was impacting your fertility, then maybe that's the right choice for you. What I cannot identify with are the status symbol wives. Everyone else, my opinions don't apply to you. My opinions shouldn't bother you anyway. It seems you all certainly have strong opinions about us bitches who do work. "

I work, and I'll add my bias. I know a lot of women who SAH, even before kids though they are planning to have them, or stay home once their kids are all in school, because working and running a household involves stress. That's a way lame excuse unless you can't really make much money to contribute to the family's income anyway. And I don't know any SAHMs whose husbands regard them as full partners in major decisions, such as where to live. Ultimately, the house the family buys has to work for the earner's commute, right?

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Anonymous wrote:" I'm a SAHM but I have many interests including current events, politics, travel, culture, reading, tennis, yoga and a charity of which I'm a board member. "

How do you get your information on current events and politics? I get mine through my job, not Fox or CNN. It's more interesting to be involved in making news and policy that hearing about it in the press. Your DH loves to discuss "reading" and your tennis and yoga with you?

Are you for real? Sigh.

Really? You sound awful. I was in the business of policy making for 10+ years, and TRUST ME, it wasn't that interesting! Yes, DH and I discuss reading as we are both avid readers. I read biographies and non-fiction. I subscribe to the Economist. God forbid I be well-rounded and enjoy things like yoga and tennis as well! And why is your comment all about impressing my husband? I have many friends with whom I dicuss varied topics.

[Anonymous]

If you'd followed the thread, you'd see the reference to your husband was a reference to an earlier post re: husbands being bored with SAHWs.

[Anonymous]

Remember the SATC episode when Charlotte quits her job at the gallery because she was getting married? I just remember all the awkwardness of when she told people, and the blank stares she received. Ladies, what did your peers say when you told them you were going to become SAHWs...for no good reason? Inquiring minds want to know!

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Anonymous wrote:" I'm a SAHM but I have many interests including current events, politics, travel, culture, reading, tennis, yoga and a charity of which I'm a board member. "

How do you get your information on current events and politics? I get mine through my job, not Fox or CNN. It's more interesting to be involved in making news and policy that hearing about it in the press. Your DH loves to discuss "reading" and your tennis and yoga with you?

Are you for real? Sigh.

Really? You sound awful. I was in the business of policy making for 10+ years, and TRUST ME, it wasn't that interesting! Yes, DH and I discuss reading as we are both avid readers. I read biographies and non-fiction. I subscribe to the Economist. God forbid I be well-rounded and enjoy things like yoga and tennis as well! And why is your comment all about impressing my husband? I have many friends with whom I dicuss varied topics.

And by the way - I'm sure there are many women here that are not in public policy careers. How do you think they get their information? Ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you'd followed the thread, you'd see the reference to your husband was a reference to an earlier post re: husbands being bored with SAHWs.

Well, I am not a SAHW, I'm a SAHM who has had a long career in a high-powered job. My point is that you do not have to have a career to be "interesting". It's a matter of personality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do the SAHMs who judge WOHMs have female doctors with kids? Female lactation consultants with kids? Do you judge them, too? Imagine every elementary school teacher at your precious snowflake's school is a male... or a female without kids. The school nurse is a guy, too. How would you like that?

I'm so thankful for the diversity of roles in our society. working moms. I can't imagine interacting with a world where the entire workforce was men or women without kids.

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