Childhood friend will stay with me for a week. What do you think will happen?

[Anonymous]

OP is that sad and pathetic 40 year old who is trying to convince herself and everyone else that she LOVES her life. No one is buying it. Someone who is actually happy with their life wouldn't post everything you have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Late 40s trash.

Yup

[Anonymous]

OP you need to address your low self esteem with therapy, not with an old flame who is pretty clearly using you for an ego boost at the minimum. You have the hots for him and there’s no way he hasn’t picked up on that. He is toying with you (else he’d stay in a hotel and meet you up for lunch or something neutral).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you need to address your low self esteem with therapy, not with an old flame who is pretty clearly using you for an ego boost at the minimum. You have the hots for him and there’s no way he hasn’t picked up on that. He is toying with you (else he’d stay in a hotel and meet you up for lunch or something neutral).

+100

[Anonymous]

Girl… You’re messy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess:

The guy knows you have the hots for him and is telling himself he won’t make a move but he’s open to the possibility if you do. Which you will, even if you’re telling us you won’t.

So yes you two will sleep together and then he’ll go back home to his wife. Doesn’t matter if you’re overweight and/or not beautiful, most guys aren’t turning down free sex, married or otherwise. Not saying I agree with it, just keeping it real.

Twenty years ago when I was actively dating I’ve seen plenty of men turning down “free sex”, and not from ugly women. Different reasons but yes it does happen and not just with married men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you need to address your low self esteem with therapy, not with an old flame who is pretty clearly using you for an ego boost at the minimum. You have the hots for him and there’s no way he hasn’t picked up on that. He is toying with you (else he’d stay in a hotel and meet you up for lunch or something neutral).

I don’t mind giving him an ego boost but I suspect he just wants to save money (which is also ok in and of itself).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't you have any other prospects? Go on Tinder or Bumble and set up some dates while he is here.

He’s the easiest target.
Too much trouble vetting new guys and who knows if I’ll get someone equally hot?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have integrity and would never hook up with a guy who is married. I am a girl's girl, and would never be that person. If he made a move on him I'd rebuff him and tell him it's best he go stay in a hotel. We would no longer be friends, because I'd have lost respect for him.

PS. Being overweight doesn't automatically make you less good looking than someone skinny. There are plenty of ugly women and guys who are fit.

Might be worth adding that we are from a culture where a woman’s looks mean a lot!

Are you from a culture that is ok with having affairs with married men?

It’s generally more acceptable than here but also frowned upon.

I’m sorry I’m trying to figure out what culture this is

There are many. It’s not unique to any one culture

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess:

The guy knows you have the hots for him and is telling himself he won’t make a move but he’s open to the possibility if you do. Which you will, even if you’re telling us you won’t.

So yes you two will sleep together and then he’ll go back home to his wife. Doesn’t matter if you’re overweight and/or not beautiful, most guys aren’t turning down free sex, married or otherwise. Not saying I agree with it, just keeping it real.

Yep, and then you won’t understand why he’s not answering your cute texts and nudes. Mostly the latter part because you think that you’re above having any feelings about it. That it’s a one off. I say this because you’re thinking too much about it beforehand. It’s IS sad and desperate.

Nudes?! Are you 15? I mean I get it you are trying to look at things thru your lens but not everyone is hung up on their partner after sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you need to address your low self esteem with therapy, not with an old flame who is pretty clearly using you for an ego boost at the minimum. You have the hots for him and there’s no way he hasn’t picked up on that. He is toying with you (else he’d stay in a hotel and meet you up for lunch or something neutral).

I don’t mind giving him an ego boost but I suspect he just wants to save money (which is also ok in and of itself).

Yep. Ok. ✅

[Anonymous]

I'm not saying I agree with OP.
I'm saying I understand OP.

[Anonymous]

Oh, I had missed the part where you said you were receptive to his advances. Gross.

I am guessing you posted this shite to get a reaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't you have any other prospects? Go on Tinder or Bumble and set up some dates while he is here.

He’s the easiest target.
Too much trouble vetting new guys and who knows if I’ll get someone equally hot?

Feel like this is rage bait at this point.

[Anonymous]

Do we have a date for his arrival?