Why do women let motherhood destroy their marriages...

[Anonymous]

I confess I have not read the 13+ pages of posts here. So what I'm going to write may have been said already.

Many women feel a lot of pressure to be perfect moms, very devoted, always there, etc. I saw some threads about this pressure. It may seem excessive but it is real that expectations on mothers have skyrocketed. Think of how modest birthday parties used to be and how extravagant they now are. etc.

As a mom and a wife, generally speaking, it is a LOT more rewarding to do things for my DS than my DH. Doesn't mean I don't try to do things for him, but to get down to it: DS is super happy and excited if I make him a dessert, loves his birthday parties, digs Christmas with an enthusiasm that delights me every year. He loves it if I come to his school and join him for lunch. I love my DH and I believe he loves me, but he might give me a pat on the tush and say "nice dinner babe" before leaving me with a stack of dishes to clean up if I make him his favorite dinner. For his 40th, I made him a cake and ordered him a very cool personalized gift that I had to select and then order and then pick up and needless to say for these labors he said "honey I love it" and let me clean up the dinner and cake and wrapping paper.

BTW: I'm not resentful, he's a jaded and tired grown up and he can't act like he's 7 yo about homemade chocolate pudding for dessert. And I'd bet if you asked him if I respond with as much excitement about getting to go to a game or the pool, he'd say that I am not as much fun as our DS!

So there is a real way that kids can easily eclipse the adult partners in a family and I guess we just all have to try hard to look at the good in our partners and think the best of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I confess I have not read the 13+ pages of posts here. So what I'm going to write may have been said already.

Many women feel a lot of pressure to be perfect moms, very devoted, always there, etc. I saw some threads about this pressure. It may seem excessive but it is real that expectations on mothers have skyrocketed. Think of how modest birthday parties used to be and how extravagant they now are. etc.

As a mom and a wife, generally speaking, it is a LOT more rewarding to do things for my DS than my DH. Doesn't mean I don't try to do things for him, but to get down to it: DS is super happy and excited if I make him a dessert, loves his birthday parties, digs Christmas with an enthusiasm that delights me every year. He loves it if I come to his school and join him for lunch. I love my DH and I believe he loves me, but he might give me a pat on the tush and say "nice dinner babe" before leaving me with a stack of dishes to clean up if I make him his favorite dinner. For his 40th, I made him a cake and ordered him a very cool personalized gift that I had to select and then order and then pick up and needless to say for these labors he said "honey I love it" and let me clean up the dinner and cake and wrapping paper.

BTW: I'm not resentful, he's a jaded and tired grown up and he can't act like he's 7 yo about homemade chocolate pudding for dessert. And I'd bet if you asked him if I respond with as much excitement about getting to go to a game or the pool, he'd say that I am not as much fun as our DS!

So there is a real way that kids can easily eclipse the adult partners in a family and I guess we just all have to try hard to look at the good in our partners and think the best of them.

You're completely mental and immature if you expect a 40-something husband to respond to you in the same way as a 7 year old son.

Also, if you expected the poor man to do the dishes on his own birthday, you are really lame.

[Anonymous]

Wow, so mean pp. I get what she is saying. She would like a little positive response. That's not too much to ask. Geeze.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because once the kids reach the age of survivability, there is no biological imperative to keep you around. In fact, we need a new partner to diversify the gene pool. Feel free to move on to do the same.

The biological imperative is to raise the existing kids to successful, stable adulthood so that they reproduce. As a woman, you need the man for this much more than he needs you.

You're confused. Mother nature doesn't care about your success lol does your uterus work? Good enough.

She does care about success. Otherwise you'd just walk away from the baby the instant you gave birth.

Sigh. You need to read what you respond to. The point is--she cares until the child is about 5. Chances are she'll make it to 15 in a social setting, produce several offspring, and die at 25. The younger children's future is iffy, but the older ones stand to repeat the cycle. Mother Nature is not very complicated in that regard.

Sigh. You are stupid if you think that will happen, especially in 2016 America.

If you refuse to read or make an effort to comprehend, STFU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cause women figure out that besides being a sperm donar men aren't necessary.

Damn straight

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Anonymous wrote:Women don't marry for love, they marry for the paycheck the man can provide and babies.

You don't need a husband to have either of these things. Why bother?

If you have babies without a man around, you're signing up to do a shitload of work all by yourself. Not a good idea.

And that leaves aside the fact that kids are much better off raised by their mother and father.

I do a shitload of work all by myself even though I'm married! I do MORE because I cook his food and do his laundry and pay his bills too!