If DH is a law firm partner, must I be the default parent?

[Anonymous]

To the pp who said wait 30 years to see how the kids feel about having a nanny - I had a nanny until I was five and I loved her. Then my mom quit and had two more kids. I preferred the nanny and weekends with a calm mother to a constantly stressed sahm. By a mile.

[Anonymous]

Answer: yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BigLaw wife here: Most of the wives of partners have low hour jobs. Or they do not work at all, especially when the kids are young. Very few double partner couples with children. Those who do, have a LOT of extra help. Female BigLaw partners often do not have children. Check it out -- there are not that many female Biglaw partners in the first place.

Yes, we are like the mythical Bigfoot. Who knows if we really even exist? (Sorry, but having a husband who works for a law firm doesn't make you an expert on the legal industry. Especially not an expert on WOMEN in the legal industry.)

Honestly, I think a lot of people posting comments about how hard it is to be in BigLaw and have kids are being fed a bunch of baloney by their spouses. Yes, it's a lot of work to be a litigation partner at an international law firm. No, it doesn't mean that you get to abdicate being a parent, too.

I think most of us posting about working in big law have worked in big law, tthanks for the lovely helping of condescension thoughw, very charming,

The PP specifically said she was a BigLaw WIFE. Nice try though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BigLaw wife here: Most of the wives of partners have low hour jobs. Or they do not work at all, especially when the kids are young. Very few double partner couples with children. Those who do, have a LOT of extra help. Female BigLaw partners often do not have children. Check it out -- there are not that many female Biglaw partners in the first place.

Yes, we are like the mythical Bigfoot. Who knows if we really even exist? (Sorry, but having a husband who works for a law firm doesn't make you an expert on the legal industry. Especially not an expert on WOMEN in the legal industry.)

Honestly, I think a lot of people posting comments about how hard it is to be in BigLaw and have kids are being fed a bunch of baloney by their spouses. Yes, it's a lot of work to be a litigation partner at an international law firm. No, it doesn't mean that you get to abdicate being a parent, too.

I think most of us posting about working in big law have worked in big law, tthanks for the lovely helping of condescension thoughw, very charming,

The PP specifically said she was a BigLaw WIFE. Nice try though.

There have been several posters who posted about biglaw, most of whom referenced working there themselves. I am one of them and I am not a Biglaw wife. Nor am I anywhere near as arrogant as you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thread's synopsis: if you're DH is a big law partner, you are the default parent (even if you are a big law partner as well).

So, yes.