What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.

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My parents came from a very community oriented culture that is very different from American culture. There are a lot of “rules” for how you treat other people that Americans don’t really follow. I am trying to raise my kids that way because living in community seems much more healthy and normal than the dysfunction and loneliness I am seeing in American society.

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Anonymous wrote:Eat sausage, fries, bacon, and sugar-full pastries for breakfast.

Who eats fries for breakfast? Where did you notion of Americans come from?

If you get breakfast at a diner and order eggs, they will generally offer French fries with it. Or at least some sort of potato.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why out of all things, the preventing dating/sex thing is the biggest problem. Who wants their teen kids having sex? Most UMC white parents do not. So why judge immigrants for not letting their kids date?

Because it’s simply not preventable. You can talk to your kids about how you “forbid” it all day long. It’s much more predictive to make sure your kids know hot to be smart and safe about it if/when they may choose to engage in sex. Unless you lock your kids in the house and never let them out, they will find a way if they want to.

My husband grew up in another culture. There was a little bit of dating in high school but most people here would consider it very, very innocent. Then in college people generally paired up. It’s not this absurd thing to expect high school kids not to date.

Yes teenagers tell their parents everything and always tell the truth. I’m sure your husband is being 100% truthful about his teenage years as well. And yes, it is absurd to expect high school kids not to date. It’s normal and it’s healthy.

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Anonymous wrote:Eat sausage, fries, bacon, and sugar-full pastries for breakfast.

Who eats fries for breakfast? Where did you notion of Americans come from?

If you get breakfast at a diner and order eggs, they will generally offer French fries with it. Or at least some sort of potato.

You think all potatoes are French fries?

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Anonymous wrote:TLDR but got the gist from skimming --

Here are the American things I don't do or allow my kids to do (deleted the "cultural" because WTF) --

- Abandoning democracy
- Racism
- Misogyny
- Homophobia
- Blaming others for your own failings
- Not valuing those doing jobs you don't want to do
- Abandoning courtesy
- Abandoning graciousness
- Abandoning the actual words of the Bible
- Abandoning the Constitution
- Believe everything you hear without research
- Follow a cult

Just a few for example...

Please expand on how these are “American” things.

Um, I'm not sure we have the bandwidth on this forum to host the media, court decision docs, federal agency RIFs, X and Truth Social posts, etc. to explain how these are our current American things. But if there is a need for me to produce videos, news articles, publicly accessible federal court and Supreme Court decisions, etc., I am happy to do so. In the meantime, your local news, Google, Instagram, colleagues, and friends can also provide context.

Please take your garbage to the political forum. That’s what it’s for, not here. Also, please move out of the US since you hate it so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Skimpy clothing for my DDs. Nope. And yes, I control what they buy because I pay for it.

She’ll borrow trendy stuff from her friends and change once she’s at school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why out of all things, the preventing dating/sex thing is the biggest problem. Who wants their teen kids having sex? Most UMC white parents do not. So why judge immigrants for not letting their kids date?

Most UMC white parents are fine with later in high school kids having sex with girlfriends and boyfriends actually. Do you have a teenager?

Why don’t UMC parents allow beach week, or sleepovers or vacations with boyfriends?

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why out of all things, the preventing dating/sex thing is the biggest problem. Who wants their teen kids having sex? Most UMC white parents do not. So why judge immigrants for not letting their kids date?

It’s mostly weird that these judgy immigrants ITT think teen dating is somehow exclusively an American behavior. Ignorant and frankly weird.

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Anonymous wrote:Refusing these on principle is bizarre.

My kids have each done one sleepover in their lives, I believe. They're not dating as teens and young adults. And my second did have a yearlong carpool at some point.

But we didn't set off to refuse those things. It just happened that way.

Why don't you live your life in a more organic way? You seem extremely mentally rigid.

TBH - I see no value in them while my kids are young. There are many other things that I do for the socialization of my kids, so I don't think they are missing anything but dangerous situations. I do not want to normalize these things or distract them from their academics, ECs, traveling and having fun with similar kids.

In my interactions with American families, I have not walked away with feeling that I want them be around my kids when I am not around. I don't want to do the detective work to find out what the intentions of people around me are especially when it comes to the safety of my children.

My kids and I do have these discussions all the time, and I feel I will be more comfortable when they are adults and able to have their own boundaries.

You're exactly the kind of person that makes Americans wish immigrants would have stayed in their country of origin, and also wonder why they didn't. Congrats.

Totally different poster. Why are you assuming this person is an immigrant?

DP. Because they're slamming Americans...

Plenty of Americans slam Americans. You must be very limited.

People on this board get very butt hurt when they sense foreigners are looking down at them. I guess it is insecurity or resentment that someone doesn’t come to America and feel beholden to the people who are already here.

But, boy do those foreigners get butt hurt with all their micro aggressions and perceived slights. They have very thin skins.

Do we now? I’m Eastern European and no one makes fun of Eastern Europeans harder than us; for example. Very rarely do I encounter an American on this board (or in life really) that hears a criticism of anything American that isn’t immediately followed up with “why don’t you go back to where you came from.”

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Anonymous wrote:Eat sausage, fries, bacon, and sugar-full pastries for breakfast.

Who eats fries for breakfast? Where did you notion of Americans come from?

If you get breakfast at a diner and order eggs, they will generally offer French fries with it. Or at least some sort of potato.

You think all potatoes are French fries?

I think this person has never actually been to a diner or read a breakfast menu and gets all their information about American culture from social media.

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Anonymous wrote:Refusing these on principle is bizarre.

My kids have each done one sleepover in their lives, I believe. They're not dating as teens and young adults. And my second did have a yearlong carpool at some point.

But we didn't set off to refuse those things. It just happened that way.

Why don't you live your life in a more organic way? You seem extremely mentally rigid.

TBH - I see no value in them while my kids are young. There are many other things that I do for the socialization of my kids, so I don't think they are missing anything but dangerous situations. I do not want to normalize these things or distract them from their academics, ECs, traveling and having fun with similar kids.

In my interactions with American families, I have not walked away with feeling that I want them be around my kids when I am not around. I don't want to do the detective work to find out what the intentions of people around me are especially when it comes to the safety of my children.

My kids and I do have these discussions all the time, and I feel I will be more comfortable when they are adults and able to have their own boundaries.

You're exactly the kind of person that makes Americans wish immigrants would have stayed in their country of origin, and also wonder why they didn't. Congrats.

Totally different poster. Why are you assuming this person is an immigrant?

DP. Because they're slamming Americans...

Plenty of Americans slam Americans. You must be very limited.

People on this board get very butt hurt when they sense foreigners are looking down at them. I guess it is insecurity or resentment that someone doesn’t come to America and feel beholden to the people who are already here.

But, boy do those foreigners get butt hurt with all their micro aggressions and perceived slights. They have very thin skins.

Do we now? I’m Eastern European and no one makes fun of Eastern Europeans harder than us; for example. Very rarely do I encounter an American on this board (or in life really) that hears a criticism of anything American that isn’t immediately followed up with “why don’t you go back to where you came from.”

You wouldn't know how they act when you're not around. Every culture makes fun of its own.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why out of all things, the preventing dating/sex thing is the biggest problem. Who wants their teen kids having sex? Most UMC white parents do not. So why judge immigrants for not letting their kids date?

It’s mostly weird that these judgy immigrants ITT think teen dating is somehow exclusively an American behavior. Ignorant and frankly weird.

Especially when they come from a place with teen brides.

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Anonymous wrote:Refusing these on principle is bizarre.

My kids have each done one sleepover in their lives, I believe. They're not dating as teens and young adults. And my second did have a yearlong carpool at some point.

But we didn't set off to refuse those things. It just happened that way.

Why don't you live your life in a more organic way? You seem extremely mentally rigid.

TBH - I see no value in them while my kids are young. There are many other things that I do for the socialization of my kids, so I don't think they are missing anything but dangerous situations. I do not want to normalize these things or distract them from their academics, ECs, traveling and having fun with similar kids.

In my interactions with American families, I have not walked away with feeling that I want them be around my kids when I am not around. I don't want to do the detective work to find out what the intentions of people around me are especially when it comes to the safety of my children.

My kids and I do have these discussions all the time, and I feel I will be more comfortable when they are adults and able to have their own boundaries.

You're exactly the kind of person that makes Americans wish immigrants would have stayed in their country of origin, and also wonder why they didn't. Congrats.

Totally different poster. Why are you assuming this person is an immigrant?

DP. Because they're slamming Americans...

Plenty of Americans slam Americans. You must be very limited.

People on this board get very butt hurt when they sense foreigners are looking down at them. I guess it is insecurity or resentment that someone doesn’t come to America and feel beholden to the people who are already here.

But, boy do those foreigners get butt hurt with all their micro aggressions and perceived slights. They have very thin skins.

Do we now? I’m Eastern European and no one makes fun of Eastern Europeans harder than us; for example. Very rarely do I encounter an American on this board (or in life really) that hears a criticism of anything American that isn’t immediately followed up with “why don’t you go back to where you came from.”

You wouldn't know how they act when you're not around. Every culture makes fun of its own.

I don’t even know what that means.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why out of all things, the preventing dating/sex thing is the biggest problem. Who wants their teen kids having sex? Most UMC white parents do not. So why judge immigrants for not letting their kids date?

It’s mostly weird that these judgy immigrants ITT think teen dating is somehow exclusively an American behavior. Ignorant and frankly weird.

Especially when they come from a place with teen brides.

Mormons anyone? Plenty of child brides down south too.

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Anonymous wrote:Eat sausage, fries, bacon, and sugar-full pastries for breakfast.

Who eats fries for breakfast? Where did you notion of Americans come from?

If you get breakfast at a diner and order eggs, they will generally offer French fries with it. Or at least some sort of potato.

I have never seen French fries with a breakfast in a diner or in a hotel with a free breakfast. I’ve seen hash browns, but never French fries.