Vent: Invited to 4 child-free weddings this summer
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Anonymous
Another one to skip. |
Anonymous
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Most weddings are not truly childfree as in no child can come through the doors. Most I have gone to are childfree to guests but the bride/groom's nieces and nephews are there, particularly if they are in the bridal party. Very weird to ask someone to be your flower girl and then not even invite her to dinner.
Either way, childfree weddings are nice. Just went to one over the weekend and it was great. The only kid there was the bride's nephew who was a nursing infant. He was very quiet and slept most of the time. |
Anonymous
I can believe that there is a lot of overlap between the kind of people who use wedding planners and the kind of people who choose child free weddings. The people having informal wedding parties in their backyards are doing neither. |
Anonymous
No but I'm getting ads for Crate & Barrel's wedding registry, I assume for the same reason. |
Anonymous
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I find it annoying. I have one kid at home not yet adult other two were at college. They kept inviting me to out of state weddings. I literally responded no every time. I never asked to include kid.
One cousin said just take your 14 year old drive 6 hours to wedding, you can take her to church then during reception she can sit in hotel room alone 5 hours than you can drive home 6 hours next day. Exactly why does my kid on a weekend want to drive a 12 hour roundtrip to sit in a hotel room by herself for 5 hours? |
Anonymous
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I was the first of my friends and cousins to get married and I remember thinking that kids at weddings were the worst thing ever. Funny how that's changed now that I'm mid 30s. I LOVE to see my cousins babies at weddings. I really love to see their kids too. My friends and family have well behaved kids for the most part too. My very best friend who is the godmother/godfather to my DD, was at her birth and regularly invites just her over to play, didn't invite her to the wedding. DD was really crushed actually. I talked her through it, but she didn't get it.
I think the big issue is the cost to the bride and groom. Why should a kid at a kid table cost $100? Surely their plates could be like $25? I do decline often if my kids aren't invited. 6 hours of babysitting just to attend a friend's wedding adds up ($100). |
Anonymous
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My kids are great. They’re quiet, well behaved, and polite. And they won’t get drunk at your cheapskate cash bar and make an ass of themselves and ruin the reception.
If I can’t bring them, I’m not coming. |
Anonymous
So you don’t like your friends and family and they don’t like you or your kids either. Seems like skipping is the outcome everyone wants. This is what an obligatory invite is. |
Anonymous
Really, they should include this in the "Save the date" so you know not to. |
Anonymous
Look, kids or no kids, this is a really gross way to talk about your friends. I wouldn't invite you and your dc to my reception, childfree or not because you sound nasty and tacky. |
Anonymous
I'm fine with childfree weddings but yeah, this is a step too far for me. |
Anonymous
I just wanted to say this is such a shitty take. Women can care about the aesthetic of an event and the meaning behind it. People have this mentality that any wedding more fancy than a backyard BBQ with $25 rings being exchanged is "all for show." And sure, that may be the case for some people who have fancy weddings, but not all of them. Just saying it reeks of jealousy. |
Anonymous
No, Hon. Nasty and tacky is having a party, inviting people and expecting them to bring you gifts or cash, and THEN making those people pay for their drinks at the party you invited them to. Not only do I not attend receptions with cash bars, but I don’t get gifts for them either. |
Anonymous
DP It’s totally true. Totally. |
Anonymous
100% agreed. Or I love the invite that no your kids aren't invited but some people's kids are invited. |