Purdue President’s Op-Ed

[Anonymous]

Just lay back and enjoy the ride, ladies.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s an important read for many on DCUM — don’t be like the moms he references. Let your college kids figure stuff out on their own!

https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2022/05/06/mothers-day-helicopter-parenting/

OP, are you a woman? You shoud be ashamed of yourself if you are. We have got to take the country and our lives back from these sexist, mysoginist pigs. What a hateful, horrible

man. If my kid were at Purdue (he's not, he's at a top 10 university, t thankfully), I would not pay another dime of tuition until this man releases a apology. Shameful.

OP here. Yes, I am a woman. Do you think the actual requests and commands that he mentions are appropriate? I hear this type of thing over and over from people who work in colleges and even at workplaces. The infantalizing of our adult children has to stop.

If he had a (D) by his name, they'd be cheering him on. This site says "park the helicopter" every time a parent asks a reasonable question on here about how to help their kids.

+1,000
The outrage is right on cue and totally predictable. Can't have a Republican man stating truths! But a Democrat? Bring it on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The level of hysteria in this thread makes me think he hit a nerve.

Why wouldn’t blatant misogyny hit a nerve among intelligent women?

Cute use of the world’s most misogynistic word, btw.

Good catch! Purdue is in Indiana which is the birthplace of the KKK. Daniels is a douche in a long line of Republican Indiana douches

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Like the one who insisted, without ever providing any documentation, that her child was allergic to all nonorganic food."

Funny, I don't recall Mitch writing an op-ed about the mother of the "QAnon Shaman" insisting that he could only eat organic food in the DC jail after being arrested for participating in the January 6th attack. If he wanted to complain about overbearing moms maybe that would have been the better time to do it instead of Mother's Day weekend. Sure, there are some overbearing moms out there that can't seem to help themselves, but the vast majority aren't calling or sending emails to college presidents.

Yup. And her son is in his 30s, not away at school for the first time at age 18. Weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s an important read for many on DCUM — don’t be like the moms he references. Let your college kids figure stuff out on their own!

https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2022/05/06/mothers-day-helicopter-parenting/

OP, are you a woman? You shoud be ashamed of yourself if you are. We have got to take the country and our lives back from these sexist, mysoginist pigs. What a hateful, horrible

man. If my kid were at Purdue (he's not, he's at a top 10 university, t thankfully), I would not pay another dime of tuition until this man releases a apology. Shameful.

OP here. Yes, I am a woman. Do you think the actual requests and commands that he mentions are appropriate? I hear this type of thing over and over from people who work in colleges and even at workplaces. The infantalizing of our adult children has to stop.

If he had a (D) by his name, they'd be cheering him on. This site says "park the helicopter" every time a parent asks a reasonable question on here about how to help their kids.

+1,000

Oh please.
The outrage is right on cue and totally predictable. Can't have a Republican man stating truths! But a Democrat? Bring it on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s an important read for many on DCUM — don’t be like the moms he references. Let your college kids figure stuff out on their own!

https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2022/05/06/mothers-day-helicopter-parenting/

OP, are you a woman? You shoud be ashamed of yourself if you are. We have got to take the country and our lives back from these sexist, mysoginist pigs. What a hateful, horrible

man. If my kid were at Purdue (he's not, he's at a top 10 university, t thankfully), I would not pay another dime of tuition until this man releases a apology. Shameful.

OP here. Yes, I am a woman. Do you think the actual requests and commands that he mentions are appropriate? I hear this type of thing over and over from people who work in colleges and even at workplaces. The infantalizing of our adult children has to stop.

If he had a (D) by his name, they'd be cheering him on. This site says "park the helicopter" every time a parent asks a reasonable question on here about how to help their kids.

If he had a D by his name we’d be unhappy to discover another Joe Manchin in our party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The level of hysteria in this thread makes me think he hit a nerve.

Why wouldn’t blatant misogyny hit a nerve among intelligent women?

Cute use of the world’s most misogynistic word, btw.

Good catch! Purdue is in Indiana which is the birthplace of the KKK. Daniels is a douche in a long line of Republican Indiana douches

Isn’t Pence from Indiana? So, yeah…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s an important read for many on DCUM — don’t be like the moms he references. Let your college kids figure stuff out on their own!

https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2022/05/06/mothers-day-helicopter-parenting/

OP, are you a woman? You shoud be ashamed of yourself if you are. We have got to take the country and our lives back from these sexist, mysoginist pigs. What a hateful, horrible

man. If my kid were at Purdue (he's not, he's at a top 10 university, t thankfully), I would not pay another dime of tuition until this man releases a apology. Shameful.

OP here. Yes, I am a woman. Do you think the actual requests and commands that he mentions are appropriate? I hear this type of thing over and over from people who work in colleges and even at workplaces. The infantalizing of our adult children has to stop.

If he had a (D) by his name, they'd be cheering him on. This site says "park the helicopter" every time a parent asks a reasonable question on here about how to help their kids.

If he had a D by his name we’d be unhappy to discover another Joe Manchin in our party.

He was a big timer once-

https://www.politico.com/story/2011/05/behind-the-daniels-family-veto-055459

[Anonymous]

Wonder how this will play on campus.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I read it. Just what we need-- a gross right winged nut job mansplaining motherhood. Gross Indiana sexist pig.

I’m not Mitch Daniel’s fan. But just because I happen to disagree with him on pretty much everything politically does not mean he’s wrong here.

It amazes me how many seemingly intelligent people are unable to set aside their feelings about a person and focus on the content of what's being said. It's so childish and illogical.

+1 million

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s an important read for many on DCUM — don’t be like the moms he references. Let your college kids figure stuff out on their own!

https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2022/05/06/mothers-day-helicopter-parenting/

OP, are you a woman? You shoud be ashamed of yourself if you are. We have got to take the country and our lives back from these sexist, mysoginist pigs. What a hateful, horrible

man. If my kid were at Purdue (he's not, he's at a top 10 university, t thankfully), I would not pay another dime of tuition until this man releases a apology. Shameful.

OP here. Yes, I am a woman. Do you think the actual requests and commands that he mentions are appropriate? I hear this type of thing over and over from people who work in colleges and even at workplaces. The infantalizing of our adult children has to stop.

But not a single mention of men. It's mean-spirited at best but more accurately a reflection of the diretion this country is headed. We are no longer moving forward as women. I feel it in my life everyday. Being belittled and looked down on by men. So some moms can't let go. Of course I believe that. But so the hell what? Why do I care? I don't do that. What I do see everyday is my husband leaving every single aspect of parenting to me. Treating me as if I'm the hire help, even as I hold down a full-time, WOH job, and he doesn't. This guy is a sexist and is joining the whilte men chorus in taking women back down. Wake up.

Yeah, sorry but that is your issue. And I mean that in the gentlest way possible.

You decide how people treat you. You have control over what kind of behavior you accept from your spouse. If you are unhappy (clearly you are), then you should change it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read it. Just what we need-- a gross right winged nut job mansplaining motherhood. Gross Indiana sexist pig.

I’m not Mitch Daniel’s fan. But just because I happen to disagree with him on pretty much everything politically does not mean he’s wrong here.

It amazes me how many seemingly intelligent people are unable to set aside their feelings about a person and focus on the content of what's being said. It's so childish and illogical.

+1 million

It's the context.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s an important read for many on DCUM — don’t be like the moms he references. Let your college kids figure stuff out on their own!

https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2022/05/06/mothers-day-helicopter-parenting/

OP, are you a woman? You shoud be ashamed of yourself if you are. We have got to take the country and our lives back from these sexist, mysoginist pigs. What a hateful, horrible

man. If my kid were at Purdue (he's not, he's at a top 10 university, t thankfully), I would not pay another dime of tuition until this man releases a apology. Shameful.

OP here. Yes, I am a woman. Do you think the actual requests and commands that he mentions are appropriate? I hear this type of thing over and over from people who work in colleges and even at workplaces. The infantalizing of our adult children has to stop.

If he had a (D) by his name, they'd be cheering him on. This site says "park the helicopter" every time a parent asks a reasonable question on here about how to help their kids.

If he had a D by his name we’d be unhappy to discover another Joe Manchin in our party.

He was a big timer once-

https://www.politico.com/story/2011/05/behind-the-daniels-family-veto-055459

Interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read it. Just what we need-- a gross right winged nut job mansplaining motherhood. Gross Indiana sexist pig.

I’m not Mitch Daniel’s fan. But just because I happen to disagree with him on pretty much everything politically does not mean he’s wrong here.

It amazes me how many seemingly intelligent people are unable to set aside their feelings about a person and focus on the content of what's being said. It's so childish and illogical.

+1 million

We were focused on the content AND the logic. I didn't know who Mitch Daniels was other than the college president--others here told me more details. I just found the op-ed sexist and poor reasoning to throw out some extreme examples of overparenting out of the tens of thousands of parents at his school and act like it tells you anything meaningful about mothers. It's dumb. That he turns out to say other dumb, outdated things (e.g. praising a black scholar by calling him "the rarest of creatures") just adds to the picture. NO ONE is saying the crazy examples he gives aren't bad. But he's been a college president of a school of 42 k for over a decade. That is over 100000 moms who have supported students at his school. That there are a handful of overbearing, over-the-top examples out of over 100,000 people is expected, not something to write an op-ed about moms about. I really don't understand how you cannot understand this basic point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wonder how this will play on campus.

It’s not going to matter for the most part and won’t have much impact. He isn’t getting fired; he personally appointed the men who would fire him. Students won’t care because they don’t read the Washington Post. Women faculty can’t take risks with him in charge and will keep their mouths shut.

Mostly what will happen is that any serial sexual harassers on the Purdue staff will be relieved to see that they can continue harassing young women students because they have more messaging from leadership on how women are second-class citizens. (They probably already understood that about the president, I am sure, but additional data points are always useful to harassers looking to see how far they can push things.) A few tenured women professors might quietly start looking to transfer. Faculty recruitment of women might take a little hit, but with tenure so difficult, no woman will turn down a tenure spot even with an obvious misogynist in charge.

Nothing significant will happen.