Purdue President’s Op-Ed

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Anonymous wrote:Yawn. He's right.

Yes you should not impersonate your adult child in a zoom call. Thanks!
Happy Mother’s Day to all

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I guarantee the WaPo editorial board loved handing this doofus the noose to hang himself on the eve of Mother’s Day. They probably couldn’t believe their luck when he pitched this op-Ed. I bet publishing on Mothers Day was his brilliant idea.

Such a dumbf#ck.

[Anonymous]

Quite an honor-

https://www.wrtv.com/news/local-news/tippecanoe-county/new-virus-named-after-former-governor-purdue-president-mitch-daniels

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yawn. He's right.

Yes you should not impersonate your adult child in a zoom call. Thanks!
Happy Mother’s Day to all

Has anyone who criticized him said they disagreed with the extreme examples he cherrypicked? Nobody is saying this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love all the womansplaining going on.

Your wife asked us to give it a try before she gave you an you hav to parent your own kids every other week. Start condo hunting buddy.

PS she also says you are over compensating for small… hands.

[Anonymous]

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Quite an honor-

https://www.wrtv.com/news/local-news/tippecanoe-county/new-virus-named-after-former-governor-purdue-president-mitch-daniels

Amazing!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Helicopter criticism is just like everything else: find a way to blame women for everything.

While also talking about how much you love them.

And get them hating each other.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s an important read for many on DCUM — don’t be like the moms he references. Let your college kids figure stuff out on their own!

https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2022/05/06/mothers-day-helicopter-parenting/

OP, are you a woman? You shoud be ashamed of yourself if you are. We have got to take the country and our lives back from these sexist, mysoginist pigs. What a hateful, horrible

man. If my kid were at Purdue (he's not, he's at a top 10 university, t thankfully), I would not pay another dime of tuition until this man releases a apology. Shameful.

OP here. Yes, I am a woman. Do you think the actual requests and commands that he mentions are appropriate? I hear this type of thing over and over from people who work in colleges and even at workplaces. The infantalizing of our adult children has to stop.

But not a single mention of men. It's mean-spirited at best but more accurately a reflection of the diretion this country is headed. We are no longer moving forward as women. I feel it in my life everyday. Being belittled and looked down on by men. So some moms can't let go. Of course I believe that. But so the hell what? Why do I care? I don't do that. What I do see everyday is my husband leaving every single aspect of parenting to me. Treating me as if I'm the hire help, even as I hold down a full-time, WOH job, and he doesn't. This guy is a sexist and is joining the whilte men chorus in taking women back down. Wake up.

Did you read the op-ed? He does mention men and fathers and says they do not submit anywhere near the number of questions as mothers.

That was kind of the point of PP isn't it? So many men still opt out of parenting even as women are often working/earning more. So these men get to not worry about it--and get to not be considered "helicopters" (but are praised when they do more than the minimum!) Look at the stats on who figures out who schedules things like dentists, doctors, childcare etc when both parents are working full-time. Is that helicoptering? And then suddenly the guys are good because they continue to be as hands-off on the big picture stuff as much as they always were? I think we need to consider whether some styles of parenting are necessary or "helicoptering" --but a man condemning women for this given all that's going on? It's tone deaf. Or worse.

Preach!

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s an important read for many on DCUM — don’t be like the moms he references. Let your college kids figure stuff out on their own!

https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2022/05/06/mothers-day-helicopter-parenting/

OP, are you a woman? You shoud be ashamed of yourself if you are. We have got to take the country and our lives back from these sexist, mysoginist pigs. What a hateful, horrible

man. If my kid were at Purdue (he's not, he's at a top 10 university, t thankfully), I would not pay another dime of tuition until this man releases a apology. Shameful.

OP here. Yes, I am a woman. Do you think the actual requests and commands that he mentions are appropriate? I hear this type of thing over and over from people who work in colleges and even at workplaces. The infantalizing of our adult children has to stop.

If he had a (D) by his name, they'd be cheering him on. This site says "park the helicopter" every time a parent asks a reasonable question on here about how to help their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s an important read for many on DCUM — don’t be like the moms he references. Let your college kids figure stuff out on their own!

https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2022/05/06/mothers-day-helicopter-parenting/

OP, are you a woman? You shoud be ashamed of yourself if you are. We have got to take the country and our lives back from these sexist, mysoginist pigs. What a hateful, horrible

man. If my kid were at Purdue (he's not, he's at a top 10 university, t thankfully), I would not pay another dime of tuition until this man releases a apology. Shameful.

OP here. Yes, I am a woman. Do you think the actual requests and commands that he mentions are appropriate? I hear this type of thing over and over from people who work in colleges and even at workplaces. The infantalizing of our adult children has to stop.

But not a single mention of men. It's mean-spirited at best but more accurately a reflection of the diretion this country is headed. We are no longer moving forward as women. I feel it in my life everyday. Being belittled and looked down on by men. So some moms can't let go. Of course I believe that. But so the hell what? Why do I care? I don't do that. What I do see everyday is my husband leaving every single aspect of parenting to me. Treating me as if I'm the hire help, even as I hold down a full-time, WOH job, and he doesn't. This guy is a sexist and is joining the whilte men chorus in taking women back down. Wake up.

Did you read the op-ed? He does mention men and fathers and says they do not submit anywhere near the number of questions as mothers.

And guess what, they also never attended parent-teacher conferences, made doctor's appointments, filled out schol and camp forms, picked up prescriptions. hired babysitters, cooked, cleaned, helped with homework. There is absolutely no reason for a high profile op-ed trashing mothers over one aspect he sees. No reason. Men do not contribution to the lives of their chldren and instead treat women like the hired help. I don't if this guy is married or a parent, but if so, I feel deeply sorry for his wife.

What? From where do you draw these rash generalizations? My DH did all of those things. At certain points during my career, he did them a LOT more than I did.

If your DH didn't do these things, that's YOUR problem.

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Anonymous wrote:Looks like a lot of defanging is in order around here based on this thread.. uggh! You dames are unreal!

The dude is right and I've no idea is if he's republican, democract, trumpt*rd, or whatever.. Don't care. He's right.

Says the person totally missing the point of the thread.

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Anonymous wrote:My mom didn't know my major in college...I didn't have texting to alert her to my daily travails but I called her on the hall phone maybe once a week... my cafeteria food sucked, my dorm sucked, some professors sucked, but I did just fine. I follow(ed) my four kids college facebook groups and see the moms'...all moms, no dads.. posts, and I am sometimes tempted, but always decline, to chime in, on some grievence...and am so happy I resisted. The only thing I will say is that one mom called out a carbon monoxide detection her kids monitor found that identified a real issue...that, I do agree with. But, most things, as the kid, I would be mortified if my parent stepped in.

Do you think most moms are like you or those few examples? And which would you choose to celebrate if you you had one shot at at a major Mothers Day op Ed?

[Anonymous]

The level of hysteria in this thread makes me think he hit a nerve.

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Anonymous wrote:The level of hysteria in this thread makes me think he hit a nerve.

Hysteria? I see you are equally tone deaf as Daniels>

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The level of hysteria in this thread makes me think he hit a nerve.

Why wouldn’t blatant misogyny hit a nerve among intelligent women?

Cute use of the world’s most misogynistic word, btw.