Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

No. I'm posting about it because I have a supportive large network of friends who want to know about each other and their families' lives, and who celebrate their exciting news and support each other through the tough times. If anything is pathetic, it's that you don't have that.

The suggestion that it is even reasonable to believe that any of these things could be viewed as obnoxious is the kind of outlook that leads to raising fragile children.

Fragile children my a$$! It is exactly as the prior poster before you said— self-centered and pathetic. We are cringing and embarrassed for you. This has nothing to do with how we raise our children. It’s reality. Most people cringe when parents post this crap. You can think all the high and mighty on your high horse stuff you want. The reality is that most people don’t care to read self-centered brags. That’s really what it is.

I don't know what world you are living in, but it isn't mine. Calling it a self-centered brag is just more conclusory question begging.

I'm sorry for your sake that you apparently don't have a network of friends on social media where people share exciting family news and celebrate each with other.

Are you a nun? A librarian? Have you ever gone to happy hour, or do your friends gather for tea instead?

My friends live all over the country from childhood summers, K-12 school, college, grad school, and a job I had in another city. One of the only good things about social media in my opinion is how it helped me re-connect with many friends I had lost touch with. As for my college friends specifically, we had a rocking reunion of more than 50 of us just before the pandemic started, that was enabled by Facebook. So while I appreciate your concern for my social life, I'm doing just fine.

And why is the PP calling you a nun? You have a network of friends on fb. Is that reserved for nuns and librarians only?

Yes, it is very strange. I think she is saying that nuns and librarians might need Facebook to communicate with their network, while everyone else can see their friends at happy hours and don't need Facebook. It leaves me confused about whether PP uses FB herself though?

Anyway, I will be sure to let my friends in San Francisco, LA and Chicago know about this and ask them when the next happy hour is so I can see them and tell them my exciting news.

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

No. I'm posting about it because I have a supportive large network of friends who want to know about each other and their families' lives, and who celebrate their exciting news and support each other through the tough times. If anything is pathetic, it's that you don't have that.

The suggestion that it is even reasonable to believe that any of these things could be viewed as obnoxious is the kind of outlook that leads to raising fragile children.

Fragile children my a$$! It is exactly as the prior poster before you said— self-centered and pathetic. We are cringing and embarrassed for you. This has nothing to do with how we raise our children. It’s reality. Most people cringe when parents post this crap. You can think all the high and mighty on your high horse stuff you want. The reality is that most people don’t care to read self-centered brags. That’s really what it is.

I don't know what world you are living in, but it isn't mine. Calling it a self-centered brag is just more conclusory question begging.

I'm sorry for your sake that you apparently don't have a network of friends on social media where people share exciting family news and celebrate each with other.

Are you a nun? A librarian? Have you ever gone to happy hour, or do your friends gather for tea instead?

My friends live all over the country from childhood summers, K-12 school, college, grad school, and a job I had in another city. One of the only good things about social media in my opinion is how it helped me re-connect with many friends I had lost touch with. As for my college friends specifically, we had a rocking reunion of more than 50 of us just before the pandemic started, that was enabled by Facebook. So while I appreciate your concern for my social life, I'm doing just fine.

And why is the PP calling you a nun? You have a network of friends on fb. Is that reserved for nuns and librarians only?

A "rocking reunion?" Wow.

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Anonymous wrote:If everyone boycotted FB, then it wouldn't have the outsize disinformation influence on politics and vaccines that it currently has.

So no, no posting on FB.

+1000 — get off Facebook!

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You people are so weird. I don’t have kids of college age but I love seeing updates on where my friend’s kids are going. Why else be on FB if you don’t want to see the highlights of people’s lives? Who has the energy to read all this other crap into it?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow this thread amazes ! You do know the kids post on social media instantly and start looking for roommates the next day right? But you are going to hold back until May because …
Other parents might be nauseated?
DCUM has such a faux old money pretense. “We Cabot’s and Lodge’s NEVER announce because of course it’s all Ivy and we are still in the 19th century here.”

Well...our DCs' school forbids social media posts as well as wearing any school gear until after May 1. So yeah, I am going to hold back until May 1 at the earliest. If they can do it, so can I.

This is illustrative of the unhealthy significance placed on college admissions and choices in certain places.

Yeah, I am curious whether the school places any restrictions on social media posts regarding other topics... say sweet 16th celebrations or travels. My guess is not.

college admissions is pretty charged. while no restrictions on the other, they do talk about being mindful. not really sweet 16s at their school; can't remember if there was a bar/bat mitzvah policy.

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I love the happy posts sharing where the kid will spend their next four years. That’s a bigger deal than most FB posts. Plus, if my kid is interested in the school, I know who to contact now.

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Anonymous wrote:You people are so weird. I don’t have kids of college age but I love seeing updates on where my friend’s kids are going. Why else be on FB if you don’t want to see the highlights of people’s lives? Who has the energy to read all this other crap into it?

Dogs and babies: great.

Where Larla is going to college: not great

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

No. I'm posting about it because I have a supportive large network of friends who want to know about each other and their families' lives, and who celebrate their exciting news and support each other through the tough times. If anything is pathetic, it's that you don't have that.

The suggestion that it is even reasonable to believe that any of these things could be viewed as obnoxious is the kind of outlook that leads to raising fragile children.

Fragile children my a$$! It is exactly as the prior poster before you said— self-centered and pathetic. We are cringing and embarrassed for you. This has nothing to do with how we raise our children. It’s reality. Most people cringe when parents post this crap. You can think all the high and mighty on your high horse stuff you want. The reality is that most people don’t care to read self-centered brags. That’s really what it is.

I don't know what world you are living in, but it isn't mine. Calling it a self-centered brag is just more conclusory question begging.

I'm sorry for your sake that you apparently don't have a network of friends on social media where people share exciting family news and celebrate each with other.

Are you a nun? A librarian? Have you ever gone to happy hour, or do your friends gather for tea instead?

My friends live all over the country from childhood summers, K-12 school, college, grad school, and a job I had in another city. One of the only good things about social media in my opinion is how it helped me re-connect with many friends I had lost touch with. As for my college friends specifically, we had a rocking reunion of more than 50 of us just before the pandemic started, that was enabled by Facebook. So while I appreciate your concern for my social life, I'm doing just fine.

And why is the PP calling you a nun? You have a network of friends on fb. Is that reserved for nuns and librarians only?

A "rocking reunion?" Wow.

You know what they say about what you should do when you don’t have anything helpful to add?

Anyway, it was an appropriate response to pp’s (presumably you) idiotic and sarcastic question “have you ever gone to happy hour, or do your friends gather for tea instead?”

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Anonymous wrote:You people are so weird. I don’t have kids of college age but I love seeing updates on where my friend’s kids are going. Why else be on FB if you don’t want to see the highlights of people’s lives? Who has the energy to read all this other crap into it?

Dogs and babies: great.

Where Larla is going to college: not great

LOL. Now I know you’re just trolling.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t do FB but I announced my kids’ athletic commitment after they had announced it. I don’t think it made many waves though because people ask me if DC has thought about college yet.

I know one person whose posts are so nauseating I predict the college one will be the absolute worst. Class rank is mentioned consistently in other posts. Scholarships have been mentioned in past as well. Bracing myself now for the deluge.

Wait! You posted YOUR kids accomplishment but other peoples posts make you nauseated. I think if you are so fragile maybe FB too rough for you.

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FWIW, I love hearing on Facebook which schools kids have chosen. However, if your add the scholarship angle, it gets a little braggy.

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Anonymous wrote:You people are so weird. I don’t have kids of college age but I love seeing updates on where my friend’s kids are going. Why else be on FB if you don’t want to see the highlights of people’s lives? Who has the energy to read all this other crap into it?

Dogs and babies: great.

Where Larla is going to college: not great

OMG is anything more boring than dogs and babies on FB? That makes collage acceptances almost a cure for nausea.

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Anonymous wrote:You people are so weird. I don’t have kids of college age but I love seeing updates on where my friend’s kids are going. Why else be on FB if you don’t want to see the highlights of people’s lives? Who has the energy to read all this other crap into it?

Dogs and babies: great.

Where Larla is going to college: not great

LOL. Now I know you’re just trolling.

I absolutely am not. When you're bored at work or chilling at home and want something to smile at, what would you rather look at: a friend being silly with their cute dog or baby, or a friend bragging about their kid's college choice?

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Anonymous wrote:You people are so weird. I don’t have kids of college age but I love seeing updates on where my friend’s kids are going. Why else be on FB if you don’t want to see the highlights of people’s lives? Who has the energy to read all this other crap into it?

Dogs and babies: great.

Where Larla is going to college: not great

OMG is anything more boring than dogs and babies on FB? That makes collage acceptances almost a cure for nausea.

You just lost all credibility. There's nothing on earth better than dogs and babies.

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Anonymous wrote:You people are so weird. I don’t have kids of college age but I love seeing updates on where my friend’s kids are going. Why else be on FB if you don’t want to see the highlights of people’s lives? Who has the energy to read all this other crap into it?

Dogs and babies: great.

Where Larla is going to college: not great

LOL. Now I know you’re just trolling.

I absolutely am not. When you're bored at work or chilling at home and want something to smile at, what would you rather look at: a friend being silly with their cute dog or baby, or a friend bragging about their kid's college choice?

Why are you so insecure that you consider it bragging? You have a pretty dim view of your friends.