Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No

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Anonymous wrote:You people are so weird. I don’t have kids of college age but I love seeing updates on where my friend’s kids are going. Why else be on FB if you don’t want to see the highlights of people’s lives? Who has the energy to read all this other crap into it?

Dogs and babies: great.

Where Larla is going to college: not great

LOL. Now I know you’re just trolling.

I absolutely am not. When you're bored at work or chilling at home and want something to smile at, what would you rather look at: a friend being silly with their cute dog or baby, or a friend bragging about their kid's college choice?

If I can smile at a friend's cute baby, why wouldn't I smile at that child's joy 17 years later when their parent shares where he/she is going to college?

Some people on here are just weird about college. Why is any "hey my kid is going to X next year" post automatically "bragging"? Is any vacation photo a brag? If you are having trouble getting pg, maybe those cute baby pictures are perceived as "bragging".

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

No. I'm posting about it because I have a supportive large network of friends who want to know about each other and their families' lives, and who celebrate their exciting news and support each other through the tough times. If anything is pathetic, it's that you don't have that.

The suggestion that it is even reasonable to believe that any of these things could be viewed as obnoxious is the kind of outlook that leads to raising fragile children.

Fragile children my a$$! It is exactly as the prior poster before you said— self-centered and pathetic. We are cringing and embarrassed for you. This has nothing to do with how we raise our children. It’s reality. Most people cringe when parents post this crap. You can think all the high and mighty on your high horse stuff you want. The reality is that most people don’t care to read self-centered brags. That’s really what it is.

I don't know what world you are living in, but it isn't mine. Calling it a self-centered brag is just more conclusory question begging.

I'm sorry for your sake that you apparently don't have a network of friends on social media where people share exciting family news and celebrate each with other.

Are you a nun? A librarian? Have you ever gone to happy hour, or do your friends gather for tea instead?

My friends live all over the country from childhood summers, K-12 school, college, grad school, and a job I had in another city. One of the only good things about social media in my opinion is how it helped me re-connect with many friends I had lost touch with. As for my college friends specifically, we had a rocking reunion of more than 50 of us just before the pandemic started, that was enabled by Facebook. So while I appreciate your concern for my social life, I'm doing just fine.

And why is the PP calling you a nun? You have a network of friends on fb. Is that reserved for nuns and librarians only?

A "rocking reunion?" Wow.

Lady, if you had been there you would know. But you might not remember it anyway. It would probably be a new experience for you.

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

No. I'm posting about it because I have a supportive large network of friends who want to know about each other and their families' lives, and who celebrate their exciting news and support each other through the tough times. If anything is pathetic, it's that you don't have that.

The suggestion that it is even reasonable to believe that any of these things could be viewed as obnoxious is the kind of outlook that leads to raising fragile children.

Fragile children my a$$! It is exactly as the prior poster before you said— self-centered and pathetic. We are cringing and embarrassed for you. This has nothing to do with how we raise our children. It’s reality. Most people cringe when parents post this crap. You can think all the high and mighty on your high horse stuff you want. The reality is that most people don’t care to read self-centered brags. That’s really what it is.

I don't know what world you are living in, but it isn't mine. Calling it a self-centered brag is just more conclusory question begging.

I'm sorry for your sake that you apparently don't have a network of friends on social media where people share exciting family news and celebrate each with other.

Are you a nun? A librarian? Have you ever gone to happy hour, or do your friends gather for tea instead?

My friends live all over the country from childhood summers, K-12 school, college, grad school, and a job I had in another city. One of the only good things about social media in my opinion is how it helped me re-connect with many friends I had lost touch with. As for my college friends specifically, we had a rocking reunion of more than 50 of us just before the pandemic started, that was enabled by Facebook. So while I appreciate your concern for my social life, I'm doing just fine.

And why is the PP calling you a nun? You have a network of friends on fb. Is that reserved for nuns and librarians only?

A "rocking reunion?" Wow.

You know what they say about what you should do when you don’t have anything helpful to add?

Anyway, it was an appropriate response to pp’s (presumably you) idiotic and sarcastic question “have you ever gone to happy hour, or do your friends gather for tea instead?”

Well aren’t you superior.

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

No. I'm posting about it because I have a supportive large network of friends who want to know about each other and their families' lives, and who celebrate their exciting news and support each other through the tough times. If anything is pathetic, it's that you don't have that.

The suggestion that it is even reasonable to believe that any of these things could be viewed as obnoxious is the kind of outlook that leads to raising fragile children.

Fragile children my a$$! It is exactly as the prior poster before you said— self-centered and pathetic. We are cringing and embarrassed for you. This has nothing to do with how we raise our children. It’s reality. Most people cringe when parents post this crap. You can think all the high and mighty on your high horse stuff you want. The reality is that most people don’t care to read self-centered brags. That’s really what it is.

I don't know what world you are living in, but it isn't mine. Calling it a self-centered brag is just more conclusory question begging.

I'm sorry for your sake that you apparently don't have a network of friends on social media where people share exciting family news and celebrate each with other.

Are you a nun? A librarian? Have you ever gone to happy hour, or do your friends gather for tea instead?

My friends live all over the country from childhood summers, K-12 school, college, grad school, and a job I had in another city. One of the only good things about social media in my opinion is how it helped me re-connect with many friends I had lost touch with. As for my college friends specifically, we had a rocking reunion of more than 50 of us just before the pandemic started, that was enabled by Facebook. So while I appreciate your concern for my social life, I'm doing just fine.

And why is the PP calling you a nun? You have a network of friends on fb. Is that reserved for nuns and librarians only?

A "rocking reunion?" Wow.

Lady, if you had been there you would know. But you might not remember it anyway. It would probably be a new experience for you.

There’s really no need to be sooo defensive. Chill.

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Here's what is ok to do:

Announce on Facebook where your kid decided to go. Totally appropriate, and most people love seeing these posts.

Here's what is not ok:

Announce on Facebook all the schools that admitted your kid.

Announce on Facebook merit awards received.

Announce on Facebook SAT or ACT scores.

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Anonymous wrote:You people are so weird. I don’t have kids of college age but I love seeing updates on where my friend’s kids are going. Why else be on FB if you don’t want to see the highlights of people’s lives? Who has the energy to read all this other crap into it?

Dogs and babies: great.

Where Larla is going to college: not great

LOL. Now I know you’re just trolling.

I absolutely am not. When you're bored at work or chilling at home and want something to smile at, what would you rather look at: a friend being silly with their cute dog or baby, or a friend bragging about their kid's college choice?

If I can smile at a friend's cute baby, why wouldn't I smile at that child's joy 17 years later when their parent shares where he/she is going to college?

Some people on here are just weird about college. Why is any "hey my kid is going to X next year" post automatically "bragging"? Is any vacation photo a brag? If you are having trouble getting pg, maybe those cute baby pictures are perceived as "bragging".

"Joy?" Seriously? Who talks like that?

Yea, you're not a nun or librarian. Sure.

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Anonymous wrote:You people are so weird. I don’t have kids of college age but I love seeing updates on where my friend’s kids are going. Why else be on FB if you don’t want to see the highlights of people’s lives? Who has the energy to read all this other crap into it?

Dogs and babies: great.

Where Larla is going to college: not great

Why not? It is a major milestone in a child's life. You post birthdays, graduations, engagements, weddings, etc. Why not college admits. I see many announcements on my feed and enjoy knowing where people are going.

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Anonymous wrote:Here's what is ok to do:

Announce on Facebook where your kid decided to go. Totally appropriate, and most people love seeing these posts.

Here's what is not ok:

Announce on Facebook all the schools that admitted your kid.

Announce on Facebook merit awards received.

Announce on Facebook SAT or ACT scores.

Parent of a kid in DC's class taped the 1600 SAT to refrigerator, took a pic, and then pasted on FB. Yes, the parent may be proud, but they are not doing their kid any favors.

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I wish more would post the reaction videos of their kids finding out! I have a really touching one that I decided not to post, but I did share it with close friends. Instead I just posted his photo with the portal page open on the computer. People were happy for him. Most of my friends did the same. I don't know why you people are so sensitive, other than you feel jilted your kid didn't get into their top choice. Too bad. So sad.

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

No. I'm posting about it because I have a supportive large network of friends who want to know about each other and their families' lives, and who celebrate their exciting news and support each other through the tough times. If anything is pathetic, it's that you don't have that.

The suggestion that it is even reasonable to believe that any of these things could be viewed as obnoxious is the kind of outlook that leads to raising fragile children.

Fragile children my a$$! It is exactly as the prior poster before you said— self-centered and pathetic. We are cringing and embarrassed for you. This has nothing to do with how we raise our children. It’s reality. Most people cringe when parents post this crap. You can think all the high and mighty on your high horse stuff you want. The reality is that most people don’t care to read self-centered brags. That’s really what it is.

I don't know what world you are living in, but it isn't mine. Calling it a self-centered brag is just more conclusory question begging.

I'm sorry for your sake that you apparently don't have a network of friends on social media where people share exciting family news and celebrate each with other.

Are you a nun? A librarian? Have you ever gone to happy hour, or do your friends gather for tea instead?

My friends live all over the country from childhood summers, K-12 school, college, grad school, and a job I had in another city. One of the only good things about social media in my opinion is how it helped me re-connect with many friends I had lost touch with. As for my college friends specifically, we had a rocking reunion of more than 50 of us just before the pandemic started, that was enabled by Facebook. So while I appreciate your concern for my social life, I'm doing just fine.

And why is the PP calling you a nun? You have a network of friends on fb. Is that reserved for nuns and librarians only?

A "rocking reunion?" Wow.

Lady, if you had been there you would know. But you might not remember it anyway. It would probably be a new experience for you.

There’s really no need to be sooo defensive. Chill.

I don't think anyone is being defensive, as opposed to pushing back against an obnoxious person and her sarcastic and meaningless posts.

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Anonymous wrote:Here's what is ok to do:

Announce on Facebook where your kid decided to go. Totally appropriate, and most people love seeing these posts.

Here's what is not ok:

Announce on Facebook all the schools that admitted your kid.

Announce on Facebook merit awards received.

Announce on Facebook SAT or ACT scores.

Parent of a kid in DC's class taped the 1600 SAT to refrigerator, took a pic, and then pasted on FB. Yes, the parent may be proud, but they are not doing their kid any favors.

Yikes! My kid got a 36 on the ACT along with another kid in his school and there was an article in the school paper that another parent shared and tagged me. I was mortified.

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Anonymous wrote:You people are so weird. I don’t have kids of college age but I love seeing updates on where my friend’s kids are going. Why else be on FB if you don’t want to see the highlights of people’s lives? Who has the energy to read all this other crap into it?

Dogs and babies: great.

Where Larla is going to college: not great

Why not? It is a major milestone in a child's life. You post birthdays, graduations, engagements, weddings, etc. Why not college admits. I see many announcements on my feed and enjoy knowing where people are going.

Because you're obsessed with colleges.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here's what is ok to do:

Announce on Facebook where your kid decided to go. Totally appropriate, and most people love seeing these posts.

Here's what is not ok:

Announce on Facebook all the schools that admitted your kid.

Announce on Facebook merit awards received.

Announce on Facebook SAT or ACT scores.

Parent of a kid in DC's class taped the 1600 SAT to refrigerator, took a pic, and then pasted on FB. Yes, the parent may be proud, but they are not doing their kid any favors.

Yikes! My kid got a 36 on the ACT along with another kid in his school and there was an article in the school paper that another parent shared and tagged me. I was mortified.

Who are you trying to fool? You loooved posting right now that your kid got a 36. Fail.

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Anonymous wrote:You people are so weird. I don’t have kids of college age but I love seeing updates on where my friend’s kids are going. Why else be on FB if you don’t want to see the highlights of people’s lives? Who has the energy to read all this other crap into it?

Dogs and babies: great.

Where Larla is going to college: not great

Why not? It is a major milestone in a child's life. You post birthdays, graduations, engagements, weddings, etc. Why not college admits. I see many announcements on my feed and enjoy knowing where people are going.

Seriously, the anti-announcement posters sound deranged. What is so sensitive or braggy about a college decision? Why does it upset you so much when other aspects of life don't? I'd rather see that once-a-year wave of college info than all the vacation photos.

I'll continue to be happy to see those announcements in my feed (whether that's Harvard or a college I've never heard of) and will share when DD makes her decision.

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Anonymous wrote:You people are so weird. I don’t have kids of college age but I love seeing updates on where my friend’s kids are going. Why else be on FB if you don’t want to see the highlights of people’s lives? Who has the energy to read all this other crap into it?

Dogs and babies: great.

Where Larla is going to college: not great

Why not? It is a major milestone in a child's life. You post birthdays, graduations, engagements, weddings, etc. Why not college admits. I see many announcements on my feed and enjoy knowing where people are going.

Because you're obsessed with colleges.

I think the people who can't handle hearing where kids are going to college are the ones obsessed. Why so upsetting?