Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

No. I'm posting about it because I have a supportive large network of friends who want to know about each other and their families' lives, and who celebrate their exciting news and support each other through the tough times. If anything is pathetic, it's that you don't have that.

The suggestion that it is even reasonable to believe that any of these things could be viewed as obnoxious is the kind of outlook that leads to raising fragile children.

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honestly looked to see if this was an original post from 2009 that somehow got bumped into 2022.

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

No. I'm posting about it because I have a supportive large network of friends who want to know about each other and their families' lives, and who celebrate their exciting news and support each other through the tough times. If anything is pathetic, it's that you don't have that.

The suggestion that it is even reasonable to believe that any of these things could be viewed as obnoxious is the kind of outlook that leads to raising fragile children.

Fragile children my a$$! It is exactly as the prior poster before you said— self-centered and pathetic. We are cringing and embarrassed for you. This has nothing to do with how we raise our children. It’s reality. Most people cringe when parents post this crap. You can think all the high and mighty on your high horse stuff you want. The reality is that most people don’t care to read self-centered brags. That’s really what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:honestly looked to see if this was an original post from 2009 that somehow got bumped into 2022.

hahahahahahahaha so true

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

No. I'm posting about it because I have a supportive large network of friends who want to know about each other and their families' lives, and who celebrate their exciting news and support each other through the tough times. If anything is pathetic, it's that you don't have that.

The suggestion that it is even reasonable to believe that any of these things could be viewed as obnoxious is the kind of outlook that leads to raising fragile children.

Fragile children my a$$! It is exactly as the prior poster before you said— self-centered and pathetic. We are cringing and embarrassed for you. This has nothing to do with how we raise our children. It’s reality. Most people cringe when parents post this crap. You can think all the high and mighty on your high horse stuff you want. The reality is that most people don’t care to read self-centered brags. That’s really what it is.

I don't know what world you are living in, but it isn't mine. Calling it a self-centered brag is just more conclusory question begging.

I'm sorry for your sake that you apparently don't have a network of friends on social media where people share exciting family news and celebrate each with other.

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

No. I'm posting about it because I have a supportive large network of friends who want to know about each other and their families' lives, and who celebrate their exciting news and support each other through the tough times. If anything is pathetic, it's that you don't have that.

The suggestion that it is even reasonable to believe that any of these things could be viewed as obnoxious is the kind of outlook that leads to raising fragile children.

Fragile children my a$$! It is exactly as the prior poster before you said— self-centered and pathetic. We are cringing and embarrassed for you. This has nothing to do with how we raise our children. It’s reality. Most people cringe when parents post this crap. You can think all the high and mighty on your high horse stuff you want. The reality is that most people don’t care to read self-centered brags. That’s really what it is.

So true.

We have old friends from college who every year send one of those newsletter Christmas cards. All they do in the annual letter is make fun of themselves and their kids, without revealing a single "accomplishment," and throw in a deliberately terrible family photo. THAT'S what people want. Love them for it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:honestly looked to see if this was an original post from 2009 that somehow got bumped into 2022.

hahahahahahahaha so true

Me too!

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

No. I'm posting about it because I have a supportive large network of friends who want to know about each other and their families' lives, and who celebrate their exciting news and support each other through the tough times. If anything is pathetic, it's that you don't have that.

The suggestion that it is even reasonable to believe that any of these things could be viewed as obnoxious is the kind of outlook that leads to raising fragile children.

Fragile children my a$$! It is exactly as the prior poster before you said— self-centered and pathetic. We are cringing and embarrassed for you. This has nothing to do with how we raise our children. It’s reality. Most people cringe when parents post this crap. You can think all the high and mighty on your high horse stuff you want. The reality is that most people don’t care to read self-centered brags. That’s really what it is.

Meet the poster whose social media posts are not self-centered brags! I bet your $hit doesn't smell either.

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

No. I'm posting about it because I have a supportive large network of friends who want to know about each other and their families' lives, and who celebrate their exciting news and support each other through the tough times. If anything is pathetic, it's that you don't have that.

The suggestion that it is even reasonable to believe that any of these things could be viewed as obnoxious is the kind of outlook that leads to raising fragile children.

Fragile children my a$$! It is exactly as the prior poster before you said— self-centered and pathetic. We are cringing and embarrassed for you. This has nothing to do with how we raise our children. It’s reality. Most people cringe when parents post this crap. You can think all the high and mighty on your high horse stuff you want. The reality is that most people don’t care to read self-centered brags. That’s really what it is.

I don't know what world you are living in, but it isn't mine. Calling it a self-centered brag is just more conclusory question begging.

I'm sorry for your sake that you apparently don't have a network of friends on social media where people share exciting family news and celebrate each with other.

Are you a nun? A librarian? Have you ever gone to happy hour, or do your friends gather for tea instead?

[Anonymous]

I don’t do FB but I announced my kids’ athletic commitment after they had announced it. I don’t think it made many waves though because people ask me if DC has thought about college yet.

I know one person whose posts are so nauseating I predict the college one will be the absolute worst. Class rank is mentioned consistently in other posts. Scholarships have been mentioned in past as well. Bracing myself now for the deluge.

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

No. I'm posting about it because I have a supportive large network of friends who want to know about each other and their families' lives, and who celebrate their exciting news and support each other through the tough times. If anything is pathetic, it's that you don't have that.

The suggestion that it is even reasonable to believe that any of these things could be viewed as obnoxious is the kind of outlook that leads to raising fragile children.

Fragile children my a$$! It is exactly as the prior poster before you said— self-centered and pathetic. We are cringing and embarrassed for you. This has nothing to do with how we raise our children. It’s reality. Most people cringe when parents post this crap. You can think all the high and mighty on your high horse stuff you want. The reality is that most people don’t care to read self-centered brags. That’s really what it is.

Meet the poster whose social media posts are not self-centered brags! I bet your $hit doesn't smell either.

I don’t participate with Facebook and the like because I got tired of reading a bunch of brags. Cause that’s all people do is brag on Facebook and similar sites.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t do FB but I announced my kids’ athletic commitment after they had announced it. I don’t think it made many waves though because people ask me if DC has thought about college yet.

I know one person whose posts are so nauseating I predict the college one will be the absolute worst. Class rank is mentioned consistently in other posts. Scholarships have been mentioned in past as well. Bracing myself now for the deluge.

LOL and how did you "announce" it? A press release?

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

No. I'm posting about it because I have a supportive large network of friends who want to know about each other and their families' lives, and who celebrate their exciting news and support each other through the tough times. If anything is pathetic, it's that you don't have that.

The suggestion that it is even reasonable to believe that any of these things could be viewed as obnoxious is the kind of outlook that leads to raising fragile children.

Fragile children my a$$! It is exactly as the prior poster before you said— self-centered and pathetic. We are cringing and embarrassed for you. This has nothing to do with how we raise our children. It’s reality. Most people cringe when parents post this crap. You can think all the high and mighty on your high horse stuff you want. The reality is that most people don’t care to read self-centered brags. That’s really what it is.

I don't know what world you are living in, but it isn't mine. Calling it a self-centered brag is just more conclusory question begging.

I'm sorry for your sake that you apparently don't have a network of friends on social media where people share exciting family news and celebrate each with other.

Are you a nun? A librarian? Have you ever gone to happy hour, or do your friends gather for tea instead?

My friends live all over the country from childhood summers, K-12 school, college, grad school, and a job I had in another city. One of the only good things about social media in my opinion is how it helped me re-connect with many friends I had lost touch with. As for my college friends specifically, we had a rocking reunion of more than 50 of us just before the pandemic started, that was enabled by Facebook. So while I appreciate your concern for my social life, I'm doing just fine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

You make a lot of judgments of other people you don't know. Why not reserve that judgment and let them assess whether posting would be "pathetic" or not. Also, use of extremes like this suggest unnecessary drama as well as unnecessary judgment.

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

No. I'm posting about it because I have a supportive large network of friends who want to know about each other and their families' lives, and who celebrate their exciting news and support each other through the tough times. If anything is pathetic, it's that you don't have that.

The suggestion that it is even reasonable to believe that any of these things could be viewed as obnoxious is the kind of outlook that leads to raising fragile children.

Fragile children my a$$! It is exactly as the prior poster before you said— self-centered and pathetic. We are cringing and embarrassed for you. This has nothing to do with how we raise our children. It’s reality. Most people cringe when parents post this crap. You can think all the high and mighty on your high horse stuff you want. The reality is that most people don’t care to read self-centered brags. That’s really what it is.

I don't know what world you are living in, but it isn't mine. Calling it a self-centered brag is just more conclusory question begging.

I'm sorry for your sake that you apparently don't have a network of friends on social media where people share exciting family news and celebrate each with other.

Are you a nun? A librarian? Have you ever gone to happy hour, or do your friends gather for tea instead?

My friends live all over the country from childhood summers, K-12 school, college, grad school, and a job I had in another city. One of the only good things about social media in my opinion is how it helped me re-connect with many friends I had lost touch with. As for my college friends specifically, we had a rocking reunion of more than 50 of us just before the pandemic started, that was enabled by Facebook. So while I appreciate your concern for my social life, I'm doing just fine.

And why is the PP calling you a nun? You have a network of friends on fb. Is that reserved for nuns and librarians only?