Would you look the other way on cheating if everything else was perfect?

[Anonymous]

My DH is a handsome and charming high earner who travels for work as the president of a mid size company. I have no idea if he has cheated, he has given me no reason to suspect but I am not naive and he has countless opportunity.

I wouldn't leave if he did it and it was a one time thing but I would be pissed if he was too stupid to cover his tracks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is a handsome and charming high earner who travels for work as the president of a mid size company. I have no idea if he has cheated, he has given me no reason to suspect but I am not naive and he has countless opportunity.

I wouldn't leave if he did it and it was a one time thing but I would be pissed if he was too stupid to cover his tracks

My husband is incredibly handsome, very fit/muscular and very high earner.

I do NOT feel the same

But, I am also very attractive and fit and have a great career myself.

Monogamy and faithfulness and HONESTY were part of the deal when we got married 22 years ago.

We still have a great sex life. I see a trend with the women that never worked that are more likely to turn a blind eye as finances and gendered divisions are part of their marriage. Most of my friends that contribute to family finances won’t put up with that sh@t or with a husband that isn’t equally invested in home life/kids.

[Anonymous]

People need to mind their own business.

[Anonymous]

[uote=Anonymous]My DH is a high earner, spends tons of 1:1 time with the kids, great partner, and I have the choice to be a SAHM indefinitely. We have a good life.

I would look the other way if there was an occasional one night stand, out of town. Sex is a biological need. I don’t take it as a perp


Are you and he having enough sex, or are you one of these women who won't go out on a nice date he's planned because he leaves the toilet seat up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[uote=Anonymous]My DH is a high earner, spends tons of 1:1 time with the kids, great partner, and I have the choice to be a SAHM indefinitely. We have a good life.

I would look the other way if there was an occasional one night stand, out of town. Sex is a biological need. I don’t take it as a perp


Are you and he having enough sex, or are you one of these women who won't go out on a nice date he's planned because he leaves the toilet seat up?

DUDE, give it a rest

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe there are women okay with this. Get some self respect ladies! Would you tell your daughter or your sister to be okay with this? How about your mom or your friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe there are women okay with this. Get some self respect ladies! Would you tell your daughter or your sister to be okay with this? How about your mom or your friend?

Look, after 25 years together, he can get a free pass for a ONS. That's just sex. Not that much more offensive than a massage. Falling in love is a deal-breaker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe there are women okay with this. Get some self respect ladies! Would you tell your daughter or your sister to be okay with this? How about your mom or your friend?

Look, after 25 years together, he can get a free pass for a ONS. That's just sex. Not that much more offensive than a massage. Falling in love is a deal-breaker.

You sound very stupid. You have no idea what the nature of a cheating husband’s rship affairs are. What if he has multiple ONSs? How would you know if he’s fallen in love with an AP? Sounds like you have very low standards for yourself. I hope you’re raising your kids to have higher standards.

Would you tell your daughter or sister or best friend to stay with a cheating husband who “only” had a ONS? You’d never know how many other ONS they’ve really had.

[Anonymous]

Probably but, I don't think I could have sex with the cheating spouse anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe there are women okay with this. Get some self respect ladies! Would you tell your daughter or your sister to be okay with this? How about your mom or your friend?

Look, after 25 years together, he can get a free pass for a ONS. That's just sex. Not that much more offensive than a massage. Falling in love is a deal-breaker.

You sound very stupid. You have no idea what the nature of a cheating husband’s rship affairs are. What if he has multiple ONSs? How would you know if he’s fallen in love with an AP? Sounds like you have very low standards for yourself. I hope you’re raising your kids to have higher standards.

Would you tell your daughter or sister or best friend to stay with a cheating husband who “only” had a ONS? You’d never know how many other ONS they’ve really had.

DP. Honestly I would probably take is as carte blanche to do the same thing. I am not sure what I would do in the moment if it actually happened, but that's what I think I would do.

I would never tell my sister, daughter, or best friend how to handle their relationship. Everyone has different dealbreakers. Some people (as well evidenced on this site) put up with husbands who don't lift a finger around the house and consider child-rearing to be their wife's job, whether or not she works outside of the home. We all deserve what we tolerate.