Would you look the other way on cheating if everything else was perfect?

[Anonymous]

Say your husband was a very high earner, kind and attentive, good with the kids, supportive, you could work or pursue something else, etc. would you even care if he was getting some on the side occasionally? What if he was seeing another man?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would, as long as the affair wasn’t taking up family time. We have a lot of marriage in front of us and behind us. In my mind there are much greater sins.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would look the other way. Sex is sex. He better be using protection though.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Loyalty and honesty are important to me. Unless you’ve authorized it in the side, hes not being honest.

[Anonymous]

No because eventually his heart may get involved and could ruin our relationship. People like to act as though men can have sex with no strings attached and this isn’t always true. Also it puts the family at risk and the wife could end up with HPV which you can still contract with a condom

[Anonymous]

The very definition of everything's perfect is not possible if one person is cheating...

[Anonymous]

Nope

[Anonymous]

I would, but I also don’t consider cheating sexually the absolute deal breaker that some people do.

I also agree with the PP about family time, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Say your husband was a very high earner, kind and attentive, good with the kids, supportive, you could work or pursue something else, etc. would you even care if he was getting some on the side occasionally? What if he was seeing another man?

I have self respect so no.

[Anonymous]

I don’t like the lying and sneaking. If I found out about it I would have to talk about it. I think it’s the pretending that hollows out a marriage.

[Anonymous]

If we had an clear agreement about the parameters and we were both free to see people on the side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If we had an clear agreement about the parameters and we were both free to see people on the side.

+1. Yes, speak openly, and open up the marriage. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Say your husband was a very high earner, kind and attentive, good with the kids, supportive, you could work or pursue something else, etc. would you even care if he was getting some on the side occasionally? What if he was seeing another man?

I have self respect so no.

If he was great with kids, he wouldn’t be cheating on their mom

[Anonymous]

Yes I'd care. But if he was cheating and didn't then want to have sex with me, and then I could have the same open relationship? Yes, I'd look the other way.

So I'd recommend talking about it with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Say your husband was a very high earner, kind and attentive, good with the kids, supportive, you could work or pursue something else, etc. would you even care if he was getting some on the side occasionally? What if he was seeing another man?

I have self respect so no.

If he was great with kids, he wouldn’t be cheating on their mom

No that’s not true. I know women who are great with the kids but end up cheating.