Would you look the other way on cheating if everything else was perfect?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is a high earner, spends tons of 1:1 time with the kids, great partner, and I have the choice to be a SAHM indefinitely. We have a good life.

I would look the other way if there was an occasional one night stand, out of town. Sex is a biological need. I don’t take it as a personal offense as long as it is just sex and not him keeping a second wife/family.

You better hope he wraps his d@ck or enjoy your STIs and kids’ half sibling.

[Anonymous]

I know it's a cardinal sin on DCUM to apply generalities.

I thought I could live like this and I did, for awhile. If your spouse is nothing more to you than a friend/roommate, or a meal ticket, you might be able to look the other way. Will your spouse look the other way if you choose to do the same? These cheaters want their cake, especially men. They don't want their wives sleeping around, of course. And they'll probably leave you if you do, even if they're throwing their dck all over town.

Do you like feeling less-than? Do you enjoy wondering what-if? Does living on pins and needles waiting for them to leave you, have another child, etc., give you a thrill? How about getting a message from an AP, or an AP's spouse?

You don't want this. Your children don't want this. You're not doing them any favors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know it's a cardinal sin on DCUM to apply generalities.

I thought I could live like this and I did, for awhile. If your spouse is nothing more to you than a friend/roommate, or a meal ticket, you might be able to look the other way. Will your spouse look the other way if you choose to do the same? These cheaters want their cake, especially men. They don't want their wives sleeping around, of course. And they'll probably leave you if you do, even if they're throwing their dck all over town.

Do you like feeling less-than? Do you enjoy wondering what-if? Does living on pins and needles waiting for them to leave you, have another child, etc., give you a thrill? How about getting a message from an AP, or an AP's spouse?

You don't want this. Your children don't want this. You're not doing them any favors.

Yeah. I contacted AP’s husband. She had multiple affairs. I don’t know how he can live like that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DH is a high earner, spends tons of 1:1 time with the kids, great partner, and I have the choice to be a SAHM indefinitely. We have a good life.

I would look the other way if there was an occasional one night stand, out of town. Sex is a biological need. I don’t take it as a personal offense as long as it is just sex and not him keeping a second wife/family.

You better hope he wraps his d@ck or enjoy your STIs and kids’ half sibling.

He has had a vasectomy. I don't suspect he is cheating or has ever..this is hypothetical. Even so, I guess you enjoy insulting people who take a different view.

[Anonymous]

No. I don't want an STI that can lead to cancer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is a high earner, spends tons of 1:1 time with the kids, great partner, and I have the choice to be a SAHM indefinitely. We have a good life.

I would look the other way if there was an occasional one night stand, out of town. Sex is a biological need. I don’t take it as a personal offense as long as it is just sex and not him keeping a second wife/family.

I feel the same as you. Not sure why it causes such an extreme reaction with some women.

My DH is fixed so no half siblings

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I don't want an STI that can lead to cancer.

And when you get divorced are you going to live a sexless life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. I don't want an STI that can lead to cancer.

And when you get divorced are you going to live a sexless life?

She can use condoms unlike her spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. I don't want an STI that can lead to cancer.

And when you get divorced are you going to live a sexless life?

No, I'll use condoms.

Why do people get so upset when they realize I won't accept the same nonsense that they will?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. I don't want an STI that can lead to cancer.

And when you get divorced are you going to live a sexless life?

No, I'll use condoms.

Why do people get so upset when they realize I won't accept the same nonsense that they will?

You realize that the STIs that cause cancer aren’t prevented by condoms, right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. I don't want an STI that can lead to cancer.

And when you get divorced are you going to live a sexless life?

No, I'll use condoms.

Why do people get so upset when they realize I won't accept the same nonsense that they will?

You realize that the STIs that cause cancer aren’t prevented by condoms, right?

You realize you can get testing for STIs and likely would if you’re not whoring around?!!!
Good grief! -NP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. I don't want an STI that can lead to cancer.

And when you get divorced are you going to live a sexless life?

No, I'll use condoms.

Why do people get so upset when they realize I won't accept the same nonsense that they will?

You realize that the STIs that cause cancer aren’t prevented by condoms, right?

You realize you can get testing for STIs and likely would if you’re not whoring around?!!!
Good grief! -NP

There is no test for HPV in men. So if you divorce your cheating DH, your risk of getting “the cancer causing” STD is going to increase as you date and have sex with different partners

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. I don't want an STI that can lead to cancer.

And when you get divorced are you going to live a sexless life?

No, I'll use condoms.

Why do people get so upset when they realize I won't accept the same nonsense that they will?

You realize that the STIs that cause cancer aren’t prevented by condoms, right?

You realize you can get testing for STIs and likely would if you’re not whoring around?!!!
Good grief! -NP

There is no test for HPV in men. So if you divorce your cheating DH, your risk of getting “the cancer causing” STD is going to increase as you date and have sex with different partners

NP. At least I’d be going into it with my eyes open, instead of being the only monogamous one in a marriage, and letting someone else decide my fate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. I don't want an STI that can lead to cancer.

And when you get divorced are you going to live a sexless life?

No, I'll use condoms.

Why do people get so upset when they realize I won't accept the same nonsense that they will?

You realize that the STIs that cause cancer aren’t prevented by condoms, right?

You realize you can get testing for STIs and likely would if you’re not whoring around?!!!
Good grief! -NP

There is no test for HPV in men. So if you divorce your cheating DH, your risk of getting “the cancer causing” STD is going to increase as you date and have sex with different partners

1. Not likely if I get regularly tested which I would do if I were sleeping around.

2. If my DH were to cheat I wouldn't have the info I need to protect myself and to have up to date testing.

3. Why are you so annoyed that my standards are different than yours? We get it, you would accept cheating, that doesn't mean we all have to.

4. I'd rather just deal with an open marriage, but men find out pretty quickly that it's easier for women to find a sex partner. Every weekend for a man in a open marriage means watching the kids while his wife has a threesome. That's why men lie. The smart ones know if the marriage were opened up he'd be on the losing side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. I don't want an STI that can lead to cancer.

And when you get divorced are you going to live a sexless life?

She can use condoms unlike her spouse.

+100

I think the most unconscionable thing with married partners cheating is that they never use condoms with APs and are unwittingly exposing their unsuspecting spouses to all kinds of harm, some disease with no cure. I has regular sex 3-4 times per week with my spouse and I felt like I was raped when I found out this persons germs were in me now.