Would you look the other way on cheating if everything else was perfect?

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Anonymous wrote:No. I don't want an STI that can lead to cancer.

And when you get divorced are you going to live a sexless life?

No, I'll use condoms.

Why do people get so upset when they realize I won't accept the same nonsense that they will?

You realize that the STIs that cause cancer aren’t prevented by condoms, right?

You realize you can get testing for STIs and likely would if you’re not whoring around?!!!
Good grief! -NP

There is no test for HPV in men. So if you divorce your cheating DH, your risk of getting “the cancer causing” STD is going to increase as you date and have sex with different partners

1. Not likely if I get regularly tested which I would do if I were sleeping around.

2. If my DH were to cheat I wouldn't have the info I need to protect myself and to have up to date testing.

3. Why are you so annoyed that my standards are different than yours? We get it, you would accept cheating, that doesn't mean we all have to.

4. I'd rather just deal with an open marriage, but men find out pretty quickly that it's easier for women to find a sex partner. Every weekend for a man in a open marriage means watching the kids while his wife has a threesome. That's why men lie. The smart ones know if the marriage were opened up he'd be on the losing side.

Not at all annoyed by anyone's choice. But it is ignorant to say "enjoy your STIs" if someone doesn't think they would divorce over cheating. Since you are more likely/equally likely to be exposed to an STI while divorced and dating- testing and condom use doesn't prevent all STDs

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Anonymous wrote:No. I don't want an STI that can lead to cancer.

And when you get divorced are you going to live a sexless life?

No, I'll use condoms.

Why do people get so upset when they realize I won't accept the same nonsense that they will?

You realize that the STIs that cause cancer aren’t prevented by condoms, right?

You realize you can get testing for STIs and likely would if you’re not whoring around?!!!
Good grief! -NP

There is no test for HPV in men. So if you divorce your cheating DH, your risk of getting “the cancer causing” STD is going to increase as you date and have sex with different partners

1. Not likely if I get regularly tested which I would do if I were sleeping around.

2. If my DH were to cheat I wouldn't have the info I need to protect myself and to have up to date testing.

3. Why are you so annoyed that my standards are different than yours? We get it, you would accept cheating, that doesn't mean we all have to.

4. I'd rather just deal with an open marriage, but men find out pretty quickly that it's easier for women to find a sex partner. Every weekend for a man in a open marriage means watching the kids while his wife has a threesome. That's why men lie. The smart ones know if the marriage were opened up he'd be on the losing side.

Not at all annoyed by anyone's choice. But it is ignorant to say "enjoy your STIs" if someone doesn't think they would divorce over cheating. Since you are more likely/equally likely to be exposed to an STI while divorced and dating- testing and condom use doesn't prevent all STDs

I didn't say "enjoy your STIs". I mentioned my perspective. I'm not tolerating potential STIs while I have to remain monogamous. It's OK if other women make different choices. You do seem upset,which is kind of weird.

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What if it resulted in a baby? Happens more often than you'd think.

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Anonymous wrote:No. I don't want an STI that can lead to cancer.

And when you get divorced are you going to live a sexless life?

She can use condoms unlike her spouse.

+100

I think the most unconscionable thing with married partners cheating is that they never use condoms with APs and are unwittingly exposing their unsuspecting spouses to all kinds of harm, some disease with no cure. I has regular sex 3-4 times per week with my spouse and I felt like I was raped when I found out this persons germs were in me now.

This. There's a very big difference between knowingly exposing yourself to something vs someone you love keeping you in the dark and exposing you to something dangerous.

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I would forgive an affair but I would have my own revenge affair.

Actually, I would sleep around without worry and only confess once caught.

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Anonymous wrote:No. I don't want an STI that can lead to cancer.

And when you get divorced are you going to live a sexless life?

She can use condoms unlike her spouse.

+100

I think the most unconscionable thing with married partners cheating is that they never use condoms with APs and are unwittingly exposing their unsuspecting spouses to all kinds of harm, some disease with no cure. I has regular sex 3-4 times per week with my spouse and I felt like I was raped when I found out this persons germs were in me now.

This. There's a very big difference between knowingly exposing yourself to something vs someone you love keeping you in the dark and exposing you to something dangerous.

Yes. Somebody you trust the most in the world taking your health for granted. It’s so disgusting, it’s almost criminal.

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Anonymous wrote:I would forgive an affair but I would have my own revenge affair.

Actually, I would sleep around without worry and only confess once caught.

Lovely.

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Anonymous wrote:I know it's a cardinal sin on DCUM to apply generalities.

I thought I could live like this and I did, for awhile. If your spouse is nothing more to you than a friend/roommate, or a meal ticket, you might be able to look the other way. Will your spouse look the other way if you choose to do the same? These cheaters want their cake, especially men. They don't want their wives sleeping around, of course. And they'll probably leave you if you do, even if they're throwing their dck all over town.

Do you like feeling less-than? Do you enjoy wondering what-if? Does living on pins and needles waiting for them to leave you, have another child, etc., give you a thrill? How about getting a message from an AP, or an AP's spouse?

You don't want this. Your children don't want this. You're not doing them any favors.

So much yes to this comment.

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Anonymous wrote:I know it's a cardinal sin on DCUM to apply generalities.

I thought I could live like this and I did, for awhile. If your spouse is nothing more to you than a friend/roommate, or a meal ticket, you might be able to look the other way. Will your spouse look the other way if you choose to do the same? These cheaters want their cake, especially men. They don't want their wives sleeping around, of course. And they'll probably leave you if you do, even if they're throwing their dck all over town.

Do you like feeling less-than? Do you enjoy wondering what-if? Does living on pins and needles waiting for them to leave you, have another child, etc., give you a thrill? How about getting a message from an AP, or an AP's spouse?

You don't want this. Your children don't want this. You're not doing them any favors.

So much yes to this comment.

Yes and genders can easily be flipped on this. Wife was throwing her vagina all over town and had 2 AM affairs. I was contacted by the AP’s spouse.

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I can’t believe that so many people think that earning more money makes a man more entitled to cheat on his wife. That just seems so messed up to me.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe that so many people think that earning more money makes a man more entitled to cheat on his wife. That just seems so messed up to me.

It's not the earning more money part. Neither is it the man who is acting entitled.
Statistically, tons of wives do not want sex with their husband: so all these men (no matter their earnings) are getting sex elsewhere.
Now here is where the man's earning comes into play: this sexless wife is more likely to want to stay in this room mate marriage if the HHI is high.
And I would call HER the entitled one: staying married to a man she does not even want sex with... because of his money.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe that so many people think that earning more money makes a man more entitled to cheat on his wife. That just seems so messed up to me.

It's not the earning more money part. Neither is it the man who is acting entitled.
Statistically, tons of wives do not want sex with their husband: so all these men (no matter their earnings) are getting sex elsewhere.
Now here is where the man's earning comes into play: this sexless wife is more likely to want to stay in this room mate marriage if the HHI is high.
And I would call HER the entitled one: staying married to a man she does not even want sex with... because of his money.

Oh you are back again. Not true, dude. Not true. So many are cheating even while banging their wives a few times per week. Mine was having even more sex with me during the affair.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe that so many people think that earning more money makes a man more entitled to cheat on his wife. That just seems so messed up to me.

It's not the earning more money part. Neither is it the man who is acting entitled.
Statistically, tons of wives do not want sex with their husband: so all these men (no matter their earnings) are getting sex elsewhere.
Now here is where the man's earning comes into play: this sexless wife is more likely to want to stay in this room mate marriage if the HHI is high.
And I would call HER the entitled one: staying married to a man she does not even want sex with... because of his money.

Oh you are back again. Not true, dude. Not true. So many are cheating even while banging their wives a few times per week. Mine was having even more sex with me during the affair.

Entitlement is a big issue with it. They think they can do what they want since they earn the $ and are used to people doing what they want and used to getting what they want. More women throw themselves at a successful guy with $.

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Anonymous wrote:I know it's a cardinal sin on DCUM to apply generalities.

I thought I could live like this and I did, for awhile. If your spouse is nothing more to you than a friend/roommate, or a meal ticket, you might be able to look the other way. Will your spouse look the other way if you choose to do the same? These cheaters want their cake, especially men. They don't want their wives sleeping around, of course. And they'll probably leave you if you do, even if they're throwing their dck all over town.

Do you like feeling less-than? Do you enjoy wondering what-if? Does living on pins and needles waiting for them to leave you, have another child, etc., give you a thrill? How about getting a message from an AP, or an AP's spouse?

You don't want this. Your children don't want this. You're not doing them any favors.

So much yes to this comment.

Yes and genders can easily be flipped on this. Wife was throwing her vagina all over town and had 2 AM affairs. I was contacted by the AP’s spouse.

So why are the women doing it? We only hear about the men. I think many are looking to upgrade lifestyle or have low self esteem and need to be validated by the male sex.

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Anonymous wrote:I know it's a cardinal sin on DCUM to apply generalities.

I thought I could live like this and I did, for awhile. If your spouse is nothing more to you than a friend/roommate, or a meal ticket, you might be able to look the other way. Will your spouse look the other way if you choose to do the same? These cheaters want their cake, especially men. They don't want their wives sleeping around, of course. And they'll probably leave you if you do, even if they're throwing their dck all over town.

Do you like feeling less-than? Do you enjoy wondering what-if? Does living on pins and needles waiting for them to leave you, have another child, etc., give you a thrill? How about getting a message from an AP, or an AP's spouse?

You don't want this. Your children don't want this. You're not doing them any favors.

So much yes to this comment.

Yes and genders can easily be flipped on this. Wife was throwing her vagina all over town and had 2 AM affairs. I was contacted by the AP’s spouse.

So why are the women doing it? We only hear about the men. I think many are looking to upgrade lifestyle or have low self esteem and need to be validated by the male sex.

Boredom since kids are older, in school all day and they no longer have a purpose in life. No job. Built up resentment of their spouse. They think they can do better. That and some have daddy issues and always were cheaters.