Words that turn me off another mother

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Anonymous wrote:If you say #boymom or #girlmom, attribute personality traits to gender or sexualize preschoolers by calling my son a ladykiller or a catch, ewwww gross. No we are not friends.

If you dress your kid in Cleveland Indians or Redskins gear (super common at our preschool) then I assume you are either racist or clueless and I don’t want to know you.

I drink. I don’t care if you drink. But if you make “mommy needs wine” jokes or talk about putting wine in sippy cups or have shirts with alcohol jokes like “Rose all day”, we’re probably not going to be friends.

My kids don’t have allergies, but if you roll your eyes about safety precautions for kids with allergies in our kids’ classroom and act all put out that someone else wants you make a few small changes to keep their kid safe, then I assume you are a selfish bitch who probably texts when you drive and doesn’t give a shit about anyone else’s kid but her own.

100% agree with all of this!

I disagree that a kid who wears Redskins gear comes from a racist family.

Can I buy your kid a shirt with the N word on it? Would that be ok to wear around town? Why put racist words and caricatures on children not old enough to read?

Now you’ve lost whatever credibility you may have had for your argument.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anything that hints at being an anti-vaxxer.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Until reading this thread, I’ve never considered what other mothers do and don’t say. I’m busy with my kid.
Most of the thing here wouldn’t even register for me.
I’m busy.

Exactly. Also, I have a solid sense of self.

We're all busy (but mysteriously with enough time to post here). Many of us have solid senses of self. That doesn't preclude being aware of what other people say and having the good judgment to recognize some things as anywhere from annoying to unacceptable. I mean, come on: if a parent tells you they don't believe in vaccinating their kids, are you just going to pretend that says nothing about them?

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Anonymous wrote:Until reading this thread, I’ve never considered what other mothers do and don’t say. I’m busy with my kid.
Most of the thing here wouldn’t even register for me.
I’m busy.

Exactly. Also, I have a solid sense of self.

We're all busy (but mysteriously with enough time to post here). Many of us have solid senses of self. That doesn't preclude being aware of what other people say and having the good judgment to recognize some things as anywhere from annoying to unacceptable. I mean, come on: if a parent tells you they don't believe in vaccinating their kids, are you just going to pretend that says nothing about them?

Omg. It must suck to live in your head. That’s not an opinion on vaccines, your general tone is completely tedious.

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Anonymous wrote:you are sad judgmental group of people.

So are you. You just judged posters and called them “sad”. Why are you so judgemental, PP?

I guess you win

I didn’t win but I did embarrass you - so that is something to make me smile!

This is just unnecessarily nasty and immature. What is wrong with you that thinking you "embarrassed" someone on DCUM makes you smile? Honestly, though. Please think about that. Why?

[Anonymous]

I can't with anti-vaxxers and hardcore pro-Trumpers that force that crap on their kids. I'm fairly moderate and have conservative/Republican friends but some stuff is just too far (like having your kids carve MAGA pumpkins for Halloween...barf).

Having or throwing a "sprinkle" or gender reveal party will get the side eye from me. I don't love the "littles" thing. #boymom is ridiculous as is all the other gender-prescriptive BS (my MIL is allll about that )

I wouldn't not be friends with most of the people, though. My best friend is one of the worst offenders of so many of the things people have listed, and sometimes it makes me cringe, but she's still my BFF. I just think she's a little clueless. She also probably doesn't care.

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Anonymous wrote:i run away from incessant narrating in a loud attention seeking voice that could cut glass.

Haha, yes! I know talking to your child is important (even when they are too young to understand everything/talk back) but is it really necessary to narrate your ENTIRE thought process through out the grocery store in a sing song voice?

“There are some apples! Should we get some apples? I know daddy likes apples & we haven’t had them in a while so let’s get some! How many should we get? How about 6? Ok, let’s pick out 6...1.2,that looks like a good one!,3...”

These people are THE WORST. They only do it when they see that someone is around to watch them be a good parent. I would bet that when another adult isn't around, they are just cruising their phone. "it's a BIG tree ARLO." (also, they make sure that you HEAR the incredibly cool and unique name that they gave their kid, that part is important too....)

Nanny here. I frequently mistaken as the parent, and I do this constantly, but never with a sing-song tone. I do use quiet and low times to vary the stimulus, and I couldn’t care less about who listens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom made a cross stitch of three pigs holding forks and knives with our names underneath them!

I am pretty judgmental and I like other judgmental people. I like people with opinions and who think. I don't like people who try too hard to be nice or sweet or nonjudgmental. I don't like people who constantly toot their own horn.

I like the down to earth, life happens, laid back, live each day and as long as everyone's alive, thats a good day type people.

My grandmother crocheted the same!

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Anonymous wrote:you are sad judgmental group of people.

So are you. You just judged posters and called them “sad”. Why are you so judgemental, PP?

I guess you win

I didn’t win but I did embarrass you - so that is something to make me smile!

This is just unnecessarily nasty and immature. What is wrong with you that thinking you "embarrassed" someone on DCUM makes you smile? Honestly, though. Please think about that. Why?

NP here. Made me smile, too. Nothing is better than a sanctimonious prig getting called on it. I am glad you are embarrassed.

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Anonymous wrote:“He love the boob” or mothers who call their breasts “boobies”. When feeding another human, please call them breasts. “He loves nursing” is the same number of syllables and will keep me wanting to know you.

Yuck, anyone who talks about how much their kid likes to suck their boobs, in any verbiage, gets the friend boot...

I know someone who called them “nursies”. Ick.

A friend on FB updated her status: “Larla is X months old and loves cooing, drooling, her two big brothers and eating from Mommy.” WTF?! Can you either just say eating or breastfeeding if you must make sure everyone knows you are not FF’ing?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:i run away from incessant narrating in a loud attention seeking voice that could cut glass.

Haha, yes! I know talking to your child is important (even when they are too young to understand everything/talk back) but is it really necessary to narrate your ENTIRE thought process through out the grocery store in a sing song voice?

“There are some apples! Should we get some apples? I know daddy likes apples & we haven’t had them in a while so let’s get some! How many should we get? How about 6? Ok, let’s pick out 6...1.2,that looks like a good one!,3...”

These people are THE WORST. They only do it when they see that someone is around to watch them be a good parent. I would bet that when another adult isn't around, they are just cruising their phone. "it's a BIG tree ARLO." (also, they make sure that you HEAR the incredibly cool and unique name that they gave their kid, that part is important too....)

Nanny here. I frequently mistaken as the parent, and I do this constantly, but never with a sing-song tone. I do use quiet and low times to vary the stimulus, and I couldn’t care less about who listens.

I narrate for my kids constantly like that, although I don't think I do it in a loud "attention seeking" voice. It amazes me that someone would seriously think I'm putting on a show just for them. Either those people are REALLY crappy parents or they're REALLY self absorbed. Or both.

Believe it or not, some of us are focussed on our own kids and couldn't give a crap whether a random woman at the grocery store thinks I'm a good mom or not.

[Anonymous]

My sister does this! And she absolutely does it for people to hear. It sucks and it’s so embarrassing to be with her. And she tries to force random people to
Engage with her kids like “tell the nice grocery clerk why we got all these cans!” (For the soup kitchen.)Omg she’s the worst.

[Anonymous]

I don’t really care about most of this but I actually shudder a bit when my friend asks her baby if he wants a “chomp” as in “baby wa at a chomp chomp from mommy?????”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t really care about most of this but I actually shudder a bit when my friend asks her baby if he wants a “chomp” as in “baby wa at a chomp chomp from mommy?????”

That's actually really, really weird. Are you sure that's the only thing wrong with her?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“He love the boob” or mothers who call their breasts “boobies”. When feeding another human, please call them breasts. “He loves nursing” is the same number of syllables and will keep me wanting to know you.

Yuck, anyone who talks about how much their kid likes to suck their boobs, in any verbiage, gets the friend boot...

I know someone who called them “nursies”. Ick.

A friend on FB updated her status: “Larla is X months old and loves cooing, drooling, her two big brothers and eating from Mommy.” WTF?! Can you either just say eating or breastfeeding if you must make sure everyone knows you are not FF’ing?

“Eating from Mommy” is pretty vile!