Words that turn me off another mother

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Anonymous wrote:If you say #boymom or #girlmom, attribute personality traits to gender or sexualize preschoolers by calling my son a ladykiller or a catch, ewwww gross. No we are not friends.

If you dress your kid in Cleveland Indians or Redskins gear (super common at our preschool) then I assume you are either racist or clueless and I don’t want to know you.

I drink. I don’t care if you drink. But if you make “mommy needs wine” jokes or talk about putting wine in sippy cups or have shirts with alcohol jokes like “Rose all day”, we’re probably not going to be friends.

My kids don’t have allergies, but if you roll your eyes about safety precautions for kids with allergies in our kids’ classroom and act all put out that someone else wants you make a few small changes to keep their kid safe, then I assume you are a selfish bitch who probably texts when you drive and doesn’t give a shit about anyone else’s kid but her own.

So are people just not allowed to root for those teams? Is no Redskins paraphernalia acceptable to you? You must be loads of fun.

I'm not the PP, but yes, that's right. They need to ditch their "mascots" and I AM tons of fun, TYSM! I don't hate those people, but no, I don't like it, and it puts at least a bit of distance between me and them.

I find it ridiculous that you put "distance" between yourself and people who have grown up rooting for a particular sports team, but then again you're probably just doing us all a favor.

I guess you can root for whatever team you want in your own home, but if you don’t understand why the teams I named have racist mascots that are hurtful to some people, then I think it’s fair we’re not friends. If I was black and you constantly made subtle comments that stereotyped black people and black culture and reinforced negative tropes, I would not stay friends with you.

DP. I’m black and think you sound like a ridiculous biotch.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't stand when people refer to their children as "little b**ch" - for ACTING THE AGE THEY ARE....

I can imagine there's some Jerry Springer-level ish where you could get away with it and it would be fitting, but calling a 10 year old girl that because she's acting like a 10 year old girl is just beyond.

When mine was young I heard mothers say "I gave you life and I can take it back"--didn't clue in that it was from Bill Cosby's routine in the 80s (which I had actually seen on HBO before I had kids and thought was hilarious). I was horrified. Still am.

So many of you are raising humorless kids. My kids are still young but I can’t wait to use “I brought you into this world... and I can take you out” said with an ice-cold stare at some appropriately serious time. Can’t. Wait.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't stand when people refer to their children as "little b**ch" - for ACTING THE AGE THEY ARE....

I can imagine there's some Jerry Springer-level ish where you could get away with it and it would be fitting, but calling a 10 year old girl that because she's acting like a 10 year old girl is just beyond.

When mine was young I heard mothers say "I gave you life and I can take it back"--didn't clue in that it was from Bill Cosby's routine in the 80s (which I had actually seen on HBO before I had kids and thought was hilarious). I was horrified. Still am.

So many of you are raising humorless kids. My kids are still young but I can’t wait to use “I brought you into this world... and I can take you out” said with an ice-cold stare at some appropriately serious time. Can’t. Wait.

I always tell my kid I’m going to sell her to the circus

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I won’t be friends with moms who don’t use babysitters. The ones who only use family. It’s not the babysitting thing per se - but it’s akways so indicative of the kind of mom I can’t stand.


I’m curious about the mom who hates the wine in sippy cup jokes. I don’t make those jokes and I definitely don’t wear a Rose All Day t-shirt (!!) but why does that bother you?

What other qualities do you associate with people who only use family to babysit? Just curious? Wine jokes bother me because they normalize alcohol as a coping mechanism and that can be disastrous for people vulnerable to addiction. If you have seen an alcoholic destroy themselves and their family you would not think it’s funny every time someone says “but first, wine”. Coffee jokes are ok with me though. Bring ALL the coffee jokes.

https://www.khou.com/mobile/article/news/nation-world/worse-than-opioids-alcohol-deaths-soar-among-the-middle-aged-women/507-615574973?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook

Oh ok that makes sense. Hadn’t thought of that.
People who won’t use babysitters are always terribly annoying helicopter parents. Usually they like to bring their kids everywhere, even where no one wants them, and they hover and meddle and micromanage.
Sometimes people just don’t prioritize adult time - like when another mom says “I can’t have dinner next Thursday when everyone else can - DH has to work.” Get a sitter!! But people who don’t prioritize adult time aren’t evil or something - they are just not my type of people. So I don’t want to waste my time on them because I don’t have that much free time. I prefer people who do but some priority on adult relationships and friendships. Luckily there are enough of us around so we can just leave those other people at home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I won’t be friends with moms who don’t use babysitters. The ones who only use family. It’s not the babysitting thing per se - but it’s akways so indicative of the kind of mom I can’t stand.


I’m curious about the mom who hates the wine in sippy cup jokes. I don’t make those jokes and I definitely don’t wear a Rose All Day t-shirt (!!) but why does that bother you?

What other qualities do you associate with people who only use family to babysit? Just curious? Wine jokes bother me because they normalize alcohol as a coping mechanism and that can be disastrous for people vulnerable to addiction. If you have seen an alcoholic destroy themselves and their family you would not think it’s funny every time someone says “but first, wine”. Coffee jokes are ok with me though. Bring ALL the coffee jokes.

https://www.khou.com/mobile/article/news/nation-world/worse-than-opioids-alcohol-deaths-soar-among-the-middle-aged-women/507-615574973?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook

Oh ok that makes sense. Hadn’t thought of that.
People who won’t use babysitters are always terribly annoying helicopter parents. Usually they like to bring their kids everywhere, even where no one wants them, and they hover and meddle and micromanage.
Sometimes people just don’t prioritize adult time - like when another mom says “I can’t have dinner next Thursday when everyone else can - DH has to work.” Get a sitter!! But people who don’t prioritize adult time aren’t evil or something - they are just not my type of people. So I don’t want to waste my time on them because I don’t have that much free time. I prefer people who do but some priority on adult relationships and friendships. Luckily there are enough of us around so we can just leave those other people at home.

Some of us are too broke for sitters in a whim. I’m ok with you not being ok with that. Truly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you say #boymom or #girlmom, attribute personality traits to gender or sexualize preschoolers by calling my son a ladykiller or a catch, ewwww gross. No we are not friends.

If you dress your kid in Cleveland Indians or Redskins gear (super common at our preschool) then I assume you are either racist or clueless and I don’t want to know you.

I drink. I don’t care if you drink. But if you make “mommy needs wine” jokes or talk about putting wine in sippy cups or have shirts with alcohol jokes like “Rose all day”, we’re probably not going to be friends.

My kids don’t have allergies, but if you roll your eyes about safety precautions for kids with allergies in our kids’ classroom and act all put out that someone else wants you make a few small changes to keep their kid safe, then I assume you are a selfish bitch who probably texts when you drive and doesn’t give a shit about anyone else’s kid but her own.

So are people just not allowed to root for those teams? Is no Redskins paraphernalia acceptable to you? You must be loads of fun.

I'm not the PP, but yes, that's right. They need to ditch their "mascots" and I AM tons of fun, TYSM! I don't hate those people, but no, I don't like it, and it puts at least a bit of distance between me and them.

I find it ridiculous that you put "distance" between yourself and people who have grown up rooting for a particular sports team, but then again you're probably just doing us all a favor.

I guess you can root for whatever team you want in your own home, but if you don’t understand why the teams I named have racist mascots that are hurtful to some people, then I think it’s fair we’re not friends. If I was black and you constantly made subtle comments that stereotyped black people and black culture and reinforced negative tropes, I would not stay friends with you.

DP. I’m black and think you sound like a ridiculous biotch.

Uhhhh... for the record, I was the PP who puts "distance" between myself and people who actively wear Washington football team gear, and for the record, the person who made an analogy regarding black folks was NOT me, because I don't use black folks to make my points.

But also for the greater DCUM record-- I grew up in MoCo. I AM a person "who [grew] up rooting for a particular sports team." In fact, I can't bring myself to root for any OTHER NFL team because Washington was "my team."

But I know better, so I do better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't stand when people refer to their children as "little b**ch" - for ACTING THE AGE THEY ARE....

I can imagine there's some Jerry Springer-level ish where you could get away with it and it would be fitting, but calling a 10 year old girl that because she's acting like a 10 year old girl is just beyond.

My mother called her granddaughter (my niece) that because she was being difficult at lunch one day........at 14 months old. My heart broke, and I knew I would never, ever trust my mother alone with my (at that point hypothetical) children. I also realized, no, I was not imagining things: my mother most certainly used those exact words to my face as a child, despite her vehement denials when I broached it as an adult.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I won’t be friends with moms who don’t use babysitters. The ones who only use family. It’s not the babysitting thing per se - but it’s akways so indicative of the kind of mom I can’t stand.


I’m curious about the mom who hates the wine in sippy cup jokes. I don’t make those jokes and I definitely don’t wear a Rose All Day t-shirt (!!) but why does that bother you?

What other qualities do you associate with people who only use family to babysit? Just curious? Wine jokes bother me because they normalize alcohol as a coping mechanism and that can be disastrous for people vulnerable to addiction. If you have seen an alcoholic destroy themselves and their family you would not think it’s funny every time someone says “but first, wine”. Coffee jokes are ok with me though. Bring ALL the coffee jokes.

https://www.khou.com/mobile/article/news/nation-world/worse-than-opioids-alcohol-deaths-soar-among-the-middle-aged-women/507-615574973?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook

Oh ok that makes sense. Hadn’t thought of that.
People who won’t use babysitters are always terribly annoying helicopter parents. Usually they like to bring their kids everywhere, even where no one wants them, and they hover and meddle and micromanage.
Sometimes people just don’t prioritize adult time - like when another mom says “I can’t have dinner next Thursday when everyone else can - DH has to work.” Get a sitter!! But people who don’t prioritize adult time aren’t evil or something - they are just not my type of people. So I don’t want to waste my time on them because I don’t have that much free time. I prefer people who do but some priority on adult relationships and friendships. Luckily there are enough of us around so we can just leave those other people at home.

Some of us are too broke for sitters in a whim. I’m ok with you not being ok with that. Truly.

Yes this! All of my mom friends are like this. They won't leave the house without their children even though the father lives there too! It's ridiculous. I workout almost every evening while my dh takes over. What kind of men did they marry? I once invited my friend to a free Brazilian steakhouse dinner and she wanted to bring her 2 year old. I told her children are not allowed. She took it literally and called the restaurant! Women who do not see the value in relationships outside their children annoy me. It's very hard to find moms who are not like this! Most of my friends are childless and in theirs 20s. I am 31.

[Anonymous]

If it was financial it would be different. But it’s not. None of these people have any financial constraints at all - trust me on that one. They just don’t place high value on female friendships - and that’s ok. Different strokes for different folks. For me, it’s very important so I prioritize it. And luckily many moms share this trait. My “village” is one of the most fun parts of my life.

[Anonymous]

Until reading this thread, I’ve never considered what other mothers do and don’t say. I’m busy with my kid.
Most of the thing here wouldn’t even register for me.
I’m busy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Until reading this thread, I’ve never considered what other mothers do and don’t say. I’m busy with my kid.
Most of the thing here wouldn’t even register for me.
I’m busy.

Exactly. Also, I have a solid sense of self.

[Anonymous]

The title of this post is really the worst. Def a thumbs down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate when a mother calls her baby a pig or little piggy. Just hate it.

Yes, I judge people too quickly and I am undoubtedly a b*tch but I hear a mother call her baby “little piggy” and I won’t start a friendship.

At least you are self-aware. Yep you are a bitch and a snowflake. You are judgmental now work on that. I don’t judge others but wont waste my time on people like you beyond two tries. Even people like you get two tries. Then I move on. Life is too short.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I try not to be judgmental about actual parenting choices, but there are some instagram hashtags that annoy me when deployed with NO irony or sense of humor: #boymom #blessed #momlife #adulting and when the parent hashtags their child's first and middle name #LaraPeony

Yes! I have two acquaintances on Instagram that hashtag every single picture with one or both of their kids with something like #dayswithdolly when with her daughter or #funwithfrank when with her son or #partyofthree when with both. I roll my eyes every time.

[Anonymous]

"she's very advanced for her age"