Words that turn me off another mother

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Anonymous wrote:I won’t be friends with moms who don’t use babysitters. The ones who only use family. It’s not the babysitting thing per se - but it’s akways so indicative of the kind of mom I can’t stand.


I’m curious about the mom who hates the wine in sippy cup jokes. I don’t make those jokes and I definitely don’t wear a Rose All Day t-shirt (!!) but why does that bother you?

What other qualities do you associate with people who only use family to babysit? Just curious? Wine jokes bother me because they normalize alcohol as a coping mechanism and that can be disastrous for people vulnerable to addiction. If you have seen an alcoholic destroy themselves and their family you would not think it’s funny every time someone says “but first, wine”. Coffee jokes are ok with me though. Bring ALL the coffee jokes.

https://www.khou.com/mobile/article/news/nation-world/worse-than-opioids-alcohol-deaths-soar-among-the-middle-aged-women/507-615574973?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook

Oh ok that makes sense. Hadn’t thought of that.
People who won’t use babysitters are always terribly annoying helicopter parents. Usually they like to bring their kids everywhere, even where no one wants them, and they hover and meddle and micromanage.
Sometimes people just don’t prioritize adult time - like when another mom says “I can’t have dinner next Thursday when everyone else can - DH has to work.” Get a sitter!! But people who don’t prioritize adult time aren’t evil or something - they are just not my type of people. So I don’t want to waste my time on them because I don’t have that much free time. I prefer people who do but some priority on adult relationships and friendships. Luckily there are enough of us around so we can just leave those other people at home.

Some of us are too broke for sitters in a whim. I’m ok with you not being ok with that. Truly.

Or even if it's not a whim, sometimes DH and our roster of babysitters aren't available. Or when looking at my budget, I think I'd love to spend time with my friends but with x,y and z expense, to add another $60+ for dinner and a few hours with the babysitter it's not worth it.

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Anonymous wrote:I won’t be friends with moms who don’t use babysitters. The ones who only use family. It’s not the babysitting thing per se - but it’s akways so indicative of the kind of mom I can’t stand.


I’m curious about the mom who hates the wine in sippy cup jokes. I don’t make those jokes and I definitely don’t wear a Rose All Day t-shirt (!!) but why does that bother you?

What other qualities do you associate with people who only use family to babysit? Just curious? Wine jokes bother me because they normalize alcohol as a coping mechanism and that can be disastrous for people vulnerable to addiction. If you have seen an alcoholic destroy themselves and their family you would not think it’s funny every time someone says “but first, wine”. Coffee jokes are ok with me though. Bring ALL the coffee jokes.

https://www.khou.com/mobile/article/news/nation-world/worse-than-opioids-alcohol-deaths-soar-among-the-middle-aged-women/507-615574973?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook

Oh ok that makes sense. Hadn’t thought of that.
People who won’t use babysitters are always terribly annoying helicopter parents. Usually they like to bring their kids everywhere, even where no one wants them, and they hover and meddle and micromanage.
Sometimes people just don’t prioritize adult time - like when another mom says “I can’t have dinner next Thursday when everyone else can - DH has to work.” Get a sitter!! But people who don’t prioritize adult time aren’t evil or something - they are just not my type of people. So I don’t want to waste my time on them because I don’t have that much free time. I prefer people who do but some priority on adult relationships and friendships. Luckily there are enough of us around so we can just leave those other people at home.

Some of us are too broke for sitters in a whim. I’m ok with you not being ok with that. Truly.

Or even if it's not a whim, sometimes DH and our roster of babysitters aren't available. Or when looking at my budget, I think I'd love to spend time with my friends but with x,y and z expense, to add another $60+ for dinner and a few hours with the babysitter it's not worth it.

And sometimes a kid has special needs and it’s hard to find a sitter to trust. So I don’t get a sitter, I miss a get-together I would have enjoyed, I get judged by you and ultimately further isolated. Cheers to you, though.

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Anonymous wrote:If you say #boymom or #girlmom, attribute personality traits to gender or sexualize preschoolers by calling my son a ladykiller or a catch, ewwww gross. No we are not friends.

If you dress your kid in Cleveland Indians or Redskins gear (super common at our preschool) then I assume you are either racist or clueless and I don’t want to know you.

I drink. I don’t care if you drink. But if you make “mommy needs wine” jokes or talk about putting wine in sippy cups or have shirts with alcohol jokes like “Rose all day”, we’re probably not going to be friends.

My kids don’t have allergies, but if you roll your eyes about safety precautions for kids with allergies in our kids’ classroom and act all put out that someone else wants you make a few small changes to keep their kid safe, then I assume you are a selfish bitch who probably texts when you drive and doesn’t give a shit about anyone else’s kid but her own.

So are people just not allowed to root for those teams? Is no Redskins paraphernalia acceptable to you? You must be loads of fun.

I'm not the PP, but yes, that's right. They need to ditch their "mascots" and I AM tons of fun, TYSM! I don't hate those people, but no, I don't like it, and it puts at least a bit of distance between me and them.

I find it ridiculous that you put "distance" between yourself and people who have grown up rooting for a particular sports team, but then again you're probably just doing us all a favor.

I guess you can root for whatever team you want in your own home, but if you don’t understand why the teams I named have racist mascots that are hurtful to some people, then I think it’s fair we’re not friends. If I was black and you constantly made subtle comments that stereotyped black people and black culture and reinforced negative tropes, I would not stay friends with you.

DP. I’m black and think you sound like a ridiculous biotch.

Uhhhh... for the record, I was the PP who puts "distance" between myself and people who actively wear Washington football team gear, and for the record, the person who made an analogy regarding black folks was NOT me, because I don't use black folks to make my points.

But also for the greater DCUM record-- I grew up in MoCo. I AM a person "who [grew] up rooting for a particular sports team." In fact, I can't bring myself to root for any OTHER NFL team because Washington was "my team."

But I know better, so I do better.

I read through this whole thread and nothing stuck out at me as more than the slightly annoying behaviors of new moms who are really into new parenthood. But then someone dropped the “know better, do better” bomb. And now I can confidently say, I would never be friends with someone who unironically says that. It’s the biggest cringe phrase ever - total nails on a chalkboard status.

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Lol'ing at everyone who freaks out about calling babies pigs/piggies. A common term in my family is "piggy wutzer" for a baby or kid demonstrating a good appetite. I think it's some bastardized Pennsylvania Dutch term.

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Anonymous wrote:If you say #boymom or #girlmom, attribute personality traits to gender or sexualize preschoolers by calling my son a ladykiller or a catch, ewwww gross. No we are not friends.

If you dress your kid in Cleveland Indians or Redskins gear (super common at our preschool) then I assume you are either racist or clueless and I don’t want to know you.

I drink. I don’t care if you drink. But if you make “mommy needs wine” jokes or talk about putting wine in sippy cups or have shirts with alcohol jokes like “Rose all day”, we’re probably not going to be friends.

My kids don’t have allergies, but if you roll your eyes about safety precautions for kids with allergies in our kids’ classroom and act all put out that someone else wants you make a few small changes to keep their kid safe, then I assume you are a selfish bitch who probably texts when you drive and doesn’t give a shit about anyone else’s kid but her own.

So are people just not allowed to root for those teams? Is no Redskins paraphernalia acceptable to you? You must be loads of fun.

I'm not the PP, but yes, that's right. They need to ditch their "mascots" and I AM tons of fun, TYSM! I don't hate those people, but no, I don't like it, and it puts at least a bit of distance between me and them.

I find it ridiculous that you put "distance" between yourself and people who have grown up rooting for a particular sports team, but then again you're probably just doing us all a favor.

I guess you can root for whatever team you want in your own home, but if you don’t understand why the teams I named have racist mascots that are hurtful to some people, then I think it’s fair we’re not friends. If I was black and you constantly made subtle comments that stereotyped black people and black culture and reinforced negative tropes, I would not stay friends with you.

DP. I’m black and think you sound like a ridiculous biotch.

Uhhhh... for the record, I was the PP who puts "distance" between myself and people who actively wear Washington football team gear, and for the record, the person who made an analogy regarding black folks was NOT me, because I don't use black folks to make my points.

But also for the greater DCUM record-- I grew up in MoCo. I AM a person "who [grew] up rooting for a particular sports team." In fact, I can't bring myself to root for any OTHER NFL team because Washington was "my team."

But I know better, so I do better.

I read through this whole thread and nothing stuck out at me as more than the slightly annoying behaviors of new moms who are really into new parenthood. But then someone dropped the “know better, do better” bomb. And now I can confidently say, I would never be friends with someone who unironically says that. It’s the biggest cringe phrase ever - total nails on a chalkboard status.

+1

And it reminds me of Maya Angelou, who pimped out other women for profit yet is revered as some kind of goddess. Please don't say she didn't know better.

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Anonymous wrote:“He love the boob” or mothers who call their breasts “boobies”. When feeding another human, please call them breasts. “He loves nursing” is the same number of syllables and will keep me wanting to know you.

Yuck, anyone who talks about how much their kid likes to suck their boobs, in any verbiage, gets the friend boot...

I know someone who called them “nursies”. Ick.

A friend on FB updated her status: “Larla is X months old and loves cooing, drooling, her two big brothers and eating from Mommy.” WTF?! Can you either just say eating or breastfeeding if you must make sure everyone knows you are not FF’ing?

“Eating from Mommy” is pretty vile!

Breastfeeding is natural and normal, but somehow, there is a contingent out there that make it GROSS.

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Anonymous wrote:“He love the boob” or mothers who call their breasts “boobies”. When feeding another human, please call them breasts. “He loves nursing” is the same number of syllables and will keep me wanting to know you.

Yuck, anyone who talks about how much their kid likes to suck their boobs, in any verbiage, gets the friend boot...

I know someone who called them “nursies”. Ick.

A friend on FB updated her status: “Larla is X months old and loves cooing, drooling, her two big brothers and eating from Mommy.” WTF?! Can you either just say eating or breastfeeding if you must make sure everyone knows you are not FF’ing?

“Eating from Mommy” is pretty vile!

Breastfeeding is natural and normal, but somehow, there is a contingent out there that make it GROSS.

Calm down, buttercup. I am currently nursing an almost two year old. I post my reaction to the terminology “eating from mommy” and not breastfeeding itself. Untwist your panties.

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I guess this thread is cheaper than therapy.

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We never used sitters and neither did our friends. All kids were welcome to any house parties we have. There was one area set up with mattress, movie and food and the kids slept there or in one of the bedrooms if they needed to. We were a hard drinking, eating, dancing kind of group and we never let having kids stop us, but we never left kids alone in the house either. What kind of nonsense is that!!

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Anonymous wrote:“He love the boob” or mothers who call their breasts “boobies”. When feeding another human, please call them breasts. “He loves nursing” is the same number of syllables and will keep me wanting to know you.

Yuck, anyone who talks about how much their kid likes to suck their boobs, in any verbiage, gets the friend boot...

I know someone who called them “nursies”. Ick.

A friend on FB updated her status: “Larla is X months old and loves cooing, drooling, her two big brothers and eating from Mommy.” WTF?! Can you either just say eating or breastfeeding if you must make sure everyone knows you are not FF’ing?

“Eating from Mommy” is pretty vile!

Breastfeeding is natural and normal, but somehow, there is a contingent out there that make it GROSS.

Calm down, buttercup. I am currently nursing an almost two year old. I post my reaction to the terminology “eating from mommy” and not breastfeeding itself. Untwist your panties.

Pp was agreeing with you.

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Most of the things mentioned wouldn't bother me, but if I hear words like "paleo diet," "Weston A Price," or any other terms related to extreme or even dangerous food/diet choices, I run like the wind.

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The mother who constantly said "If I could offer some unsolicited advice". Um, don't.

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Anonymous wrote:We never used sitters and neither did our friends. All kids were welcome to any house parties we have. There was one area set up with mattress, movie and food and the kids slept there or in one of the bedrooms if they needed to. We were a hard drinking, eating, dancing kind of group and we never let having kids stop us, but we never left kids alone in the house either. What kind of nonsense is that!!

Um, leaving a kid with a babysitter is the opposite of "leaving them alone in the house." In fact, that is the point of babysitters.

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Anonymous wrote:I won’t be friends with moms who don’t use babysitters. The ones who only use family. It’s not the babysitting thing per se - but it’s akways so indicative of the kind of mom I can’t stand.


I’m curious about the mom who hates the wine in sippy cup jokes. I don’t make those jokes and I definitely don’t wear a Rose All Day t-shirt (!!) but why does that bother you?

What other qualities do you associate with people who only use family to babysit? Just curious? Wine jokes bother me because they normalize alcohol as a coping mechanism and that can be disastrous for people vulnerable to addiction. If you have seen an alcoholic destroy themselves and their family you would not think it’s funny every time someone says “but first, wine”. Coffee jokes are ok with me though. Bring ALL the coffee jokes.

https://www.khou.com/mobile/article/news/nation-world/worse-than-opioids-alcohol-deaths-soar-among-the-middle-aged-women/507-615574973?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook

Oh ok that makes sense. Hadn’t thought of that.
People who won’t use babysitters are always terribly annoying helicopter parents. Usually they like to bring their kids everywhere, even where no one wants them, and they hover and meddle and micromanage.
Sometimes people just don’t prioritize adult time - like when another mom says “I can’t have dinner next Thursday when everyone else can - DH has to work.” Get a sitter!! But people who don’t prioritize adult time aren’t evil or something - they are just not my type of people. So I don’t want to waste my time on them because I don’t have that much free time. I prefer people who do but some priority on adult relationships and friendships. Luckily there are enough of us around so we can just leave those other people at home.

Some of us are too broke for sitters in a whim. I’m ok with you not being ok with that. Truly.

Yes this! All of my mom friends are like this. They won't leave the house without their children even though the father lives there too! It's ridiculous. I workout almost every evening while my dh takes over. What kind of men did they marry? I once invited my friend to a free Brazilian steakhouse dinner and she wanted to bring her 2 year old. I told her children are not allowed. She took it literally and called the restaurant! Women who do not see the value in relationships outside their children annoy me. It's very hard to find moms who are not like this! Most of my friends are childless and in theirs 20s. I am 31.

Yes this. Why can't the fathers take care of the children? Women always have lame excuses.

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Anonymous wrote:I won’t be friends with moms who don’t use babysitters. The ones who only use family. It’s not the babysitting thing per se - but it’s akways so indicative of the kind of mom I can’t stand.


I’m curious about the mom who hates the wine in sippy cup jokes. I don’t make those jokes and I definitely don’t wear a Rose All Day t-shirt (!!) but why does that bother you?

What other qualities do you associate with people who only use family to babysit? Just curious? Wine jokes bother me because they normalize alcohol as a coping mechanism and that can be disastrous for people vulnerable to addiction. If you have seen an alcoholic destroy themselves and their family you would not think it’s funny every time someone says “but first, wine”. Coffee jokes are ok with me though. Bring ALL the coffee jokes.

https://www.khou.com/mobile/article/news/nation-world/worse-than-opioids-alcohol-deaths-soar-among-the-middle-aged-women/507-615574973?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook?utm_campaign=trueAnthem%3A+Trending+Content&utm_content=5bf1707100bd470001633d3b&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook

Oh ok that makes sense. Hadn’t thought of that.
People who won’t use babysitters are always terribly annoying helicopter parents. Usually they like to bring their kids everywhere, even where no one wants them, and they hover and meddle and micromanage.
Sometimes people just don’t prioritize adult time - like when another mom says “I can’t have dinner next Thursday when everyone else can - DH has to work.” Get a sitter!! But people who don’t prioritize adult time aren’t evil or something - they are just not my type of people. So I don’t want to waste my time on them because I don’t have that much free time. I prefer people who do but some priority on adult relationships and friendships. Luckily there are enough of us around so we can just leave those other people at home.

Some of us are too broke for sitters in a whim. I’m ok with you not being ok with that. Truly.

Yes this! All of my mom friends are like this. They won't leave the house without their children even though the father lives there too! It's ridiculous. I workout almost every evening while my dh takes over. What kind of men did they marry? I once invited my friend to a free Brazilian steakhouse dinner and she wanted to bring her 2 year old. I told her children are not allowed. She took it literally and called the restaurant! Women who do not see the value in relationships outside their children annoy me. It's very hard to find moms who are not like this! Most of my friends are childless and in theirs 20s. I am 31.

Yes this. Why can't the fathers take care of the children? Women always have lame excuses.

Some of us are single or long term solo parenting. Also just as an aside, not everyone lives in a mom/dad/kid(s) family unit, get your head out of your bum and get current.