AA here. As I read this the first time, I thought, "Fried tuna? Must be a white thing I don't know about." Clearly that is not the case (assuming most other pps are white). I'm going with ethnic, too. Also OP - you and DH obviously have different desires as far as lifestyle. You also don't communicate well in crisis situations. Resolve these two things either by going to therapy/counseling or by working them out thru other means. Parents getting sick, dying, birthing babies, applying kids to school, finding daycare, buying a house, wasp nests in the backyard, dealing with a leaky roof, losing a job, car breaking down/getting towed, water main breaks, the flu, annoying in-laws and handling a toddler having two surgeries under the age of 3 are all examples (ranging in severity/impact) from my relatively young marriage where, had we acted like the two of you, we would have caved to stress and not survived. Get it together and, until you do, please use effective birth control methods. |
Pics or its not real!! |
I just read this entire thread and woke my sleeping child up because I was laughing so hard.
Simply amazing. |
It sounds like OP is really codependent on her husband.
Is she the same person who made a couple posts about what a catch she was and how her husband was so lucky to have her (and so lucky she put up with him) or was that someone else? |
I read your other thread and, while we are all dying laughing over your delicious sandwich recipe, I just want to say that I think you're one of those quirky cool people in real life. Don't take our seizing onto your recipe as a reflection that you shouldn't try to be social and make new friends! But I do think you may be missing a few social cues that I hope you learned from this thread - including the faux pas of bringing fish to the office and/or coming to the office smelling like fish! |
Oh my gosh, I had tears laughing when I read this. But so true. |
Op how often do you eat tuna per week? Sounds like too much mercury! |
I totally agree re: the quirky comment and think we are too quick to jump all over Pp. like a big group of bullies! OP, you do sound like you need to reconsider your decisions in terms of planning and time management. I agree you need to get up earlier and lunches should be done the night before. However, that's hard when you're out of the house what looks like 12+ hours a day and get home late and are then trying to cook dinner. I get it – being totally exhausted. Those of us who are single or don't have kids can also be exhausted. I think a lot of your frustration stems from the living situation which you're not happy with . Your earlier post said that the lease was up in April. Are you guys staying? Did you figure anything out? I think that's a very important soul-searching conversation that you need to have with him. Now. |
Op, it is possible to love someone and not be compatible at the same time, having different visions of the "perfect" life together and having an image of the other person in the mind that clashes with the reality of the person. At some point, you need to evaluate how much of yourself you are "losing" in your DH and if it's worth it for you. It looks like you have different visions of what life should be like and his vision seems to prevail for now. But it makes you unhappy. What are you going to do about it?
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That sounds so disgusting |
+1. Being serious for a moment, I think it was the combination of already running late and taking something everyday like tuna, spam, Bologna etc. and taking the time to spice it up, pun intended. There is nothing wrong with bringing Tuna for lunch provided you aren't in close quarters with your co-workers and your lunch has a strong smell. I went back and read the original thread and really hope you and your DH can find a compromise on where to live. I'm one of those people that lived in the suburbs pre-kids and never wanted to live in the city. I also didn't want a super long commute. Luckily my DH felt the same. As PPs uggested maybe one of the planned walkable places like renting in the Kentlands, Rockville town center, etc would work for you or being someplace suburban that is close to a mini-downtown area. I lived off Little River Turnpike in Annandale (in Pinecrest for awhile ) so I could easily get to Arlington, Old Town, and DC but felt like I was in the burbs and had the peace and quiet at home and none of the inconveniences of living in Old Town, Arlington, or DC. Once you work on the other areas like the commute, the mornings won't seem as awful when things go wrong like oversleeping. |
Do you put the fried tuna in a wrap? Have you considered frying the tuna and then frying corn tortillas in coconut oil to make fried tuna tostidas? |
*tostadas.
Add some lime and they'd be great!! Without the fried tuna of course. Use tilapia. Canned tuna is disgusting. |
This is why I only date guys who live on DC and like living in DC. I do not date guys who live in the suburbs, basically I do not ever want to live in the suburbs.
Op's commute sounds like a nightmare to me too. No way on hell would I sign up for that. |