I'm the OP of the "famous" my boyfriend is missing post- AMA!

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Anonymous wrote:Was he good in bed?

Op here: what makes you think we've ever even slept together?

Since you spent numerous weekends together and thought he might be "the one," I guess many of us just assumed you were in a sexual relationship. Well, now I'm asking. And... If you had not slept together, do you think that was a factor in his 5 day disappearance? (Was he getting some elsewhere?)

Op here: we have, I just was curious on what made you assume we had. So considering that we have, no I don't think that was a factor. Even though we didn't see each other as much as most normal couples would, we definitely made up for that in our late night oovoo convos

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why won't you answer about lying about your age? It's not a rude question and it's not accusing you of being a troll.

Op here: I'm not ignoring it at all. It honestly was to try and keep some stuff private and not make it obvious who I was to some people I know that read this site but they already know about my previous thread so now it doesn't matter. I really am 26 as I have stated a lot lately. I didn't think it was a big deal to have it be a 1 year difference. Not like I'm 26 and lied and said I was 30 or 22.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was he good in bed?

Op here: what makes you think we've ever even slept together?

Since you spent numerous weekends together and thought he might be "the one," I guess many of us just assumed you were in a sexual relationship. Well, now I'm asking. And... If you had not slept together, do you think that was a factor in his 5 day disappearance? (Was he getting some elsewhere?)

OP here: Ok fine, the sex was crazy good. Are you happy now?

[Anonymous]

I have followed all of the threads, I even saw the original one the night that OP first posted and I have to say that I do not think OP is lying. A lot of people responding are getting details wrong. If you are bored of this thread of think OP is seeking attention, stop following.

OP, I imagine you as a Jersey-style Italian-American who wears shimmery clothing and is slightly overweight. I think you have some insecurities about yourself that stem from either your physical appearance or daddy issues. I think you got overly involved with the bobcat hunter because you were kind of feeding off the intensity that came from the fights you referenced in previous threads. I think that is why you also continue to communicate with him instead of cutting it off.

I have enjoyed your threads. I so not think you are stupid, but I suspect you are needy. I hope you find an interest or hobby that leads you to a local guy after you have been single and cut off SV for at least six months.

[Anonymous]

PP, would also say you can tell someone is a DC black man with saggy pants and a grill?

I'd love to see how that would go over here.

[Anonymous]

OP,

1. Why didn't you go to college?

2. What made you decide to become a nanny instead of going to college?

3. What were your parents' reactions to your decision to become a nanny?

4. Why didn't your parents provide support for you to do something else after high school, if you weren't going to college? Why not a "gap year", or some kind of trade school? I find it very difficult to believe that someone with your alleged background would feel comfortable working as a nanny, or that your parents would feel comfortable about it.

5. I also find it difficult to believe that someone of your alleged background could feel comfortable in a relationship with someone from such a very different background (ie, the Bobcat Hunter). I have known people who dated individuals that came from vastly different socioeconomic backgrounds, but in each case, the couples somehow addressed the differences (they accepted their differences, but they couldn't ignore them, as was evidenced by jokes, etc. between them). I found your blase, matter-of-fact depiction of the Bobcat Hunter to be somewhat inauthentic...if what you say about your background is true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

1. Why didn't you go to college?

2. What made you decide to become a nanny instead of going to college?

3. What were your parents' reactions to your decision to become a nanny?

4. Why didn't your parents provide support for you to do something else after high school, if you weren't going to college? Why not a "gap year", or some kind of trade school? I find it very difficult to believe that someone with your alleged background would feel comfortable working as a nanny, or that your parents would feel comfortable about it.

5. I also find it difficult to believe that someone of your alleged background could feel comfortable in a relationship with someone from such a very different background (ie, the Bobcat Hunter). I have known people who dated individuals that came from vastly different socioeconomic backgrounds, but in each case, the couples somehow addressed the differences (they accepted their differences, but they couldn't ignore them, as was evidenced by jokes, etc. between them). I found your blase, matter-of-fact depiction of the Bobcat Hunter to be somewhat inauthentic...if what you say about your background is true.

Op here: I'm not going to respond to any of this because if you had actually read this thread, you'd know that I went to college and graduated so please go back and read and you'll have answers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have followed all of the threads, I even saw the original one the night that OP first posted and I have to say that I do not think OP is lying. A lot of people responding are getting details wrong. If you are bored of this thread of think OP is seeking attention, stop following.

OP, I imagine you as a Jersey-style Italian-American who wears shimmery clothing and is slightly overweight. I think you have some insecurities about yourself that stem from either your physical appearance or daddy issues. I think you got overly involved with the bobcat hunter because you were kind of feeding off the intensity that came from the fights you referenced in previous threads. I think that is why you also continue to communicate with him instead of cutting it off.

I have enjoyed your threads. I so not think you are stupid, but I suspect you are needy. I hope you find an interest or hobby that leads you to a local guy after you have been single and cut off SV for at least six months.

Op here: you're so off that it's not even funny. The jersey style Italian American thing made me laugh because I'm not even remotely close to that lol I don't think I've ever worn anything shimmery in my life. I literally live in leggings & uggs all winter and maxi skirts & maxi dresses all summer and I pretty much wear all darker colors because I hate Bright obnoxious clothes. I don't have a weight problem or daddy issues either so I'm sorry to say, you're incorrect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP,

1. Why didn't you go to college?

2. What made you decide to become a nanny instead of going to college?

3. What were your parents' reactions to your decision to become a nanny?

4. Why didn't your parents provide support for you to do something else after high school, if you weren't going to college? Why not a "gap year", or some kind of trade school? I find it very difficult to believe that someone with your alleged background would feel comfortable working as a nanny, or that your parents would feel comfortable about it.

5. I also find it difficult to believe that someone of your alleged background could feel comfortable in a relationship with someone from such a very different background (ie, the Bobcat Hunter). I have known people who dated individuals that came from vastly different socioeconomic backgrounds, but in each case, the couples somehow addressed the differences (they accepted their differences, but they couldn't ignore them, as was evidenced by jokes, etc. between them). I found your blase, matter-of-fact depiction of the Bobcat Hunter to be somewhat inauthentic...if what you say about your background is true.

Op here: I'm not going to respond to any of this because if you had actually read this thread, you'd know that I went to college and graduated so please go back and read and you'll have answers

OP, if you DID go to college, it makes me even more incredulous at your early career choice (nanny). Also, can you answer #5?

[Anonymous]

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OP, I imagine you as a Jersey-style Italian-American who wears shimmery clothing and is slightly overweight. .

I laughed out loud! Perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP,

1. Why didn't you go to college?

2. What made you decide to become a nanny instead of going to college?

3. What were your parents' reactions to your decision to become a nanny?

4. Why didn't your parents provide support for you to do something else after high school, if you weren't going to college? Why not a "gap year", or some kind of trade school? I find it very difficult to believe that someone with your alleged background would feel comfortable working as a nanny, or that your parents would feel comfortable about it.

5. I also find it difficult to believe that someone of your alleged background could feel comfortable in a relationship with someone from such a very different background (ie, the Bobcat Hunter). I have known people who dated individuals that came from vastly different socioeconomic backgrounds, but in each case, the couples somehow addressed the differences (they accepted their differences, but they couldn't ignore them, as was evidenced by jokes, etc. between them). I found your blase, matter-of-fact depiction of the Bobcat Hunter to be somewhat inauthentic...if what you say about your background is true.

Op here: I'm not going to respond to any of this because if you had actually read this thread, you'd know that I went to college and graduated so please go back and read and you'll have answers

OP, if you DID go to college, it makes me even more incredulous at your early career choice (nanny). Also, can you answer #5?

Op here: I honestly didn't know what I wanted to do career wise until I was about 20. I went to school for Business because I figured eventually I could just go work for my dad at the family business. I became a nanny at 17, right after high school, just so I could make some money and also because I truly adore babies and kids. My family is not the type to spoil all the kids rotten and give us whatever we want just because they can. I had a really good education and both my younger brother and sister both go to very good private schools and my family focuses more on that then giving us anything we want so I was expected to work part time. Also, my sister was born when I was 12 and just having her around made me really love kids and love babysitting. Once I became a nanny, I truly loved it and continued to do it all through college and after college. Around the time I was 20, i figured out a business that I really wanted to get into. I continued nannying because it gave me awesome money that I was able to save to help put towards starting my business. My dad DID help me with lawyer and accountant fees but everything else I have done myself.

As far as your number 5 question- I don't really have a good answer. My high school boyfriend came from a very similar background and we dated sophomore to senior year of high school. When I was 17, I met my other boyfriend who I was with until I was 23. We came from pretty different backgrounds. His family was not wealthy by any means and we just grew up very different. That was always a big issue for him as he always worried about making me happy if we ever got married and worried about me not having the lifestyle I grew up with (vacations, big house, etc.) but none of that matters to me. My mother is very into wealth and is the type of woman who likes people to know she has money from the car she drives to the clothes and jewelry she wears and that always bothered me. She makes it very obvious when she doesn't think someone is up to her standard and I've always told myself I'd never be like that- letting money and wealth get to my head. Also, my mom HATED me being a nanny as she never saw it as a career and it just made her angry, especially since my brother and sister had a nanny and that's what I was doing. So again, I don't really have an answer for you. Yes, SV and I are very different background wise but I never judged someone off stuff like that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
OP, I imagine you as a Jersey-style Italian-American who wears shimmery clothing and is slightly overweight. .

I laughed out loud! Perfect.

Yet your a middle aged woman with multiple kids....

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP. You just don't have the diction of someone with a "really good education", and throughout your posts, there are consistent nuances of the speech patterns typical of low socioeconomic groups (I'm not saying this is good or bad, but there ARE clear markers of SE status in any person's diction). I believed you were telling the truth as I followed your first thread; throughout that, your diction shaped your image in my mind. As soon as you mentioned your background, I felt you were a liar. It just doesn't ring true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP. You just don't have the diction of someone with a "really good education", and throughout your posts, there are consistent nuances of the speech patterns typical of low socioeconomic groups (I'm not saying this is good or bad, but there ARE clear markers of SE status in any person's diction). I believed you were telling the truth as I followed your first thread; throughout that, your diction shaped your image in my mind. As soon as you mentioned your background, I felt you were a liar. It just doesn't ring true.

OP here: You are free to have your opinion and I'm not going to sit here and beg for you to believe me as I truly don't care. You're trying to tell me that I am lying about my background, education, family, etc. just because of how I type and talk on an ONLINE forum. It's actually pretty comical to me to be honest. How I type or talk online, really has nothing to do with anything at all. I have to write many emails to clients daily and I can promise you that I know how to write and speak professionaly WHEN NEEDED. Half the time, I'm typing quick responses on my iPhone and don't really care how I come across. So again, have your opinion, that's completely fine but you are just making yourself sound dumb by judging someone off how they come across on the internet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
OP, I imagine you as a Jersey-style Italian-American who wears shimmery clothing and is slightly overweight. .

I laughed out loud! Perfect.

Yet your a middle aged woman with multiple kids....

Not PP, but isn't this site called DC Urban Moms?