I'm the OP of the "famous" my boyfriend is missing post- AMA!

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Anonymous wrote:Do you believe his reason?

OP here: Do I believe he actually was in PA? Yes. Do I believe his reason of "not wanting anyone to know"? No, not at all. I wasn't the only one he lied to, he didn't tell anyone else where he was going (besides his grandparents I guess- but only told them he was going to PA for a "job"). But no, I don't believe his reason at all.

I agree. Sounds an awful lot like there's an OW or criminal activity. You dodged a bullet.

Why do you think you picked him in the first place?

OP here: Sadly, a couple of months back I had my cop friend run a background check on him and absolutely nothing came back but obviously that doesn't mean he hasn't done anything. As far as the "OW" thing- I'm still up in the air about that. I think back to all of our texts and phone calls and video chats and I just don't see how he could have gotten away with it, especially with us video chatting late at night and I could see he was in his house, etc. but I guess you never know.

As far as why did I pick him to begin with- that's not too complicated. I had been in a 6 year relationship from the time I was 17-23. The last 2 years, he was very emotionally abusive and I put up with a lot in that relationship. I dated a couple of guys the last 2 years but nothing super serious. Decided to go online and try it that way and met him and he was EVERYTHING that my ex wasn't. He treated me amazing, complimented me, texted me every morning saying "good morning beautiful", was always showing that he cared, etc. So it was a complete 180 from what I was used to and I fell for him hard. Obviously some red flags came along but I think I pushed those aside because ultimately, he was still treating me really good.

OP, I want to congratulate you. You may have pulled one of the greatest DCUM hoax threads ever. You had me right up until this post.

OP here- not too sure what I said in this reply that makes you think that but ok.

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Anonymous wrote:OP: is your ex-boyfriend a country boy (redneck)? Are you one too? Not trying to be hateful, just curious because if you are not, how did you meet him?

OP here: Yes, he's VERY country and I am not AT ALL. We are literally complete opposites when it comes to our lifestyles and that's actually something that always made him nervous. It comes from a very small town in NY thats literally in the middle of no where and he grew up going hunting and fishing and camping and four wheeling and all that. I grew up in Rhode Island in a wealthy town. My family is very wealthy and I grew up spending summers on the Vineyard at our families house and taking vacations and going to the beach, etc. So our lifestyles are completely opposite and it made him very nervous knowing how different our families were and our upbringing was.

As far as how we met- it was online on okcupid.

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How do you feel about all of us finding out who he really is and snooping on him and his family?

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Anonymous wrote:How do you feel about all of us finding out who he really is and snooping on him and his family?

OP here: Well I was the one who *stupidely* gave out the uncles last name which then made it easy for everyone so I can't really be upset about it. I do appreciate the help I got from some people regarding numbers, info, etc. and that wouldn't have been possible unless I did give out certain info. It does however creep me out alittle bit that some people felt the need to facebook him and message him. It wasn't just a couple of people either. I can get that people were curious, etc. but I think it's funny that the people who actually attempted to add him and his uncle on facebook, actually assumed they would be accepted...which they weren't.

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Did you start this thread as a way to continue to obsess about him and talk about him ad nauseum?

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Anonymous wrote:OP: is your ex-boyfriend a country boy (redneck)? Are you one too? Not trying to be hateful, just curious because if you are not, how did you meet him?

OP here: Yes, he's VERY country and I am not AT ALL. We are literally complete opposites when it comes to our lifestyles and that's actually something that always made him nervous. It comes from a very small town in NY thats literally in the middle of no where and he grew up going hunting and fishing and camping and four wheeling and all that. I grew up in Rhode Island in a wealthy town. My family is very wealthy and I grew up spending summers on the Vineyard at our families house and taking vacations and going to the beach, etc. So our lifestyles are completely opposite and it made him very nervous knowing how different our families were and our upbringing was.

As far as how we met- it was online on okcupid.

If you are so wealthy why aren't you meeting people from your social set? Sorry, but wealthy people who summer on the Vineyard don't hook up with coonhound farmers on okcupid, you meet appropriate people at the club.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you start this thread as a way to continue to obsess about him and talk about him ad nauseum?

OP here: Nope, not at all. Like I said in my first comment, I had some PP's from the other threads email me asking for an update or to see if I was ok. I also notice that people continue to comment on the other post so I figured I could do a AMA and answer some questions people may have now that it's been over a week and he's back, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you start this thread as a way to continue to obsess about him and talk about him ad nauseum?

PP here. If it keeps you from actually contacting HIM, cool.

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Anonymous wrote:OP: is your ex-boyfriend a country boy (redneck)? Are you one too? Not trying to be hateful, just curious because if you are not, how did you meet him?

OP here: Yes, he's VERY country and I am not AT ALL. We are literally complete opposites when it comes to our lifestyles and that's actually something that always made him nervous. It comes from a very small town in NY thats literally in the middle of no where and he grew up going hunting and fishing and camping and four wheeling and all that. I grew up in Rhode Island in a wealthy town. My family is very wealthy and I grew up spending summers on the Vineyard at our families house and taking vacations and going to the beach, etc. So our lifestyles are completely opposite and it made him very nervous knowing how different our families were and our upbringing was.

As far as how we met- it was online on okcupid.

If you are so wealthy why aren't you meeting people from your social set? Sorry, but wealthy people who summer on the Vineyard don't hook up with coonhound farmers on okcupid, you meet appropriate people at the club.

OP here: I never said that I personally am wealthy. My FAMILY is wealthy. I am 26 and I don't live at home anymore and I haven't since I was 21. I don't vacation with my family anymore besides going to the Vinyard every summer for the week of the 4th. They are members of a local beach club that I do occasionaly visit in the summer and my parents have their boat at a local yacht club but now that I am in my mid 20s, I don't go out and socialize with my parents/siblings anymore.

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OP, you're practically 27--do you plan on growing up anytime soon?

(For example, demonstrating common sense when it comes to dating and not posting pictures and personal details of other people online?)

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Anonymous wrote:OP: is your ex-boyfriend a country boy (redneck)? Are you one too? Not trying to be hateful, just curious because if you are not, how did you meet him?

OP here: Yes, he's VERY country and I am not AT ALL. We are literally complete opposites when it comes to our lifestyles and that's actually something that always made him nervous. It comes from a very small town in NY thats literally in the middle of no where and he grew up going hunting and fishing and camping and four wheeling and all that. I grew up in Rhode Island in a wealthy town. My family is very wealthy and I grew up spending summers on the Vineyard at our families house and taking vacations and going to the beach, etc. So our lifestyles are completely opposite and it made him very nervous knowing how different our families were and our upbringing was.

As far as how we met- it was online on okcupid.

If you are so wealthy why aren't you meeting people from your social set? Sorry, but wealthy people who summer on the Vineyard don't hook up with coonhound farmers on okcupid, you meet appropriate people at the club.

OP here: I never said that I personally am wealthy. My FAMILY is wealthy. I am 26 and I don't live at home anymore and I haven't since I was 21. I don't vacation with my family anymore besides going to the Vinyard every summer for the week of the 4th. They are members of a local beach club that I do occasionaly visit in the summer and my parents have their boat at a local yacht club but now that I am in my mid 20s, I don't go out and socialize with my parents/siblings anymore.

Why not? Wouldn't you meet more appropriate people if you socialized with the set you grew up with? You must still have suitable friends in the area, or did you go to boarding school out of state? Or maybe St Georges? And if your family is very wealthy you must have money coming to you at some point. Is bobcat poacher a gold digger?

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Anonymous wrote:OP: is your ex-boyfriend a country boy (redneck)? Are you one too? Not trying to be hateful, just curious because if you are not, how did you meet him?

OP here: Yes, he's VERY country and I am not AT ALL. We are literally complete opposites when it comes to our lifestyles and that's actually something that always made him nervous. It comes from a very small town in NY thats literally in the middle of no where and he grew up going hunting and fishing and camping and four wheeling and all that. I grew up in Rhode Island in a wealthy town. My family is very wealthy and I grew up spending summers on the Vineyard at our families house and taking vacations and going to the beach, etc. So our lifestyles are completely opposite and it made him very nervous knowing how different our families were and our upbringing was.

As far as how we met- it was online on okcupid.

If you are so wealthy why aren't you meeting people from your social set? Sorry, but wealthy people who summer on the Vineyard don't hook up with coonhound farmers on okcupid, you meet appropriate people at the club.

OP here: I never said that I personally am wealthy. My FAMILY is wealthy. I am 26 and I don't live at home anymore and I haven't since I was 21. I don't vacation with my family anymore besides going to the Vinyard every summer for the week of the 4th. They are members of a local beach club that I do occasionaly visit in the summer and my parents have their boat at a local yacht club but now that I am in my mid 20s, I don't go out and socialize with my parents/siblings anymore.

Why not? Wouldn't you meet more appropriate people if you socialized with the set you grew up with? You must still have suitable friends in the area, or did you go to boarding school out of state? Or maybe St Georges? And if your family is very wealthy you must have money coming to you at some point. Is bobcat poacher a gold digger?

OP here: No, I didnt go to boarding school. I went to two private Catholic school from kindergarten through 6th grade and then 7th grade-12th grade I went to another one. I've been in this area since I was 10 so yes, I do still have friends in this area although a lot of them have moved away to other areas (CT, Boston, etc.). I'm not going to discuss the money aspect of it as that's completely getting away from the point of this thread but no, I don't think he was a gold digger. He didn't know how wealthy my family is, just saw their house and knew about me going to private schools, etc.

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Where is your family from originally. I have always pictured you with a slight eastern European accent. The wealthy/vineyard things throws a whole new angle on things.

Are you an only child?

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Anonymous wrote:How do you feel about all of us finding out who he really is and snooping on him and his family?

OP here: Well I was the one who *stupidely* gave out the uncles last name which then made it easy for everyone so I can't really be upset about it. I do appreciate the help I got from some people regarding numbers, info, etc. and that wouldn't have been possible unless I did give out certain info. It does however creep me out alittle bit that some people felt the need to facebook him and message him. It wasn't just a couple of people either. I can get that people were curious, etc. but I think it's funny that the people who actually attempted to add him and his uncle on facebook, actually assumed they would be accepted...which they weren't.

You "stupidly" gave out the uncle's last name, so you can't really be upset about it? WTF?

Can you take responsibility for the mistakes you make? (Follow up: Do you feel stupid that you can't even spell stupidly correctly?)

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Anonymous wrote:Where is your family from originally. I have always pictured you with a slight eastern European accent. The wealthy/vineyard things throws a whole new angle on things.

Are you an only child?

OP here: My family is from Rhode Island although my grandparents are from Sicily if that matters at all. I'm not an only child, I have two younger siblings.