Former Lt. Gov. Justin Fairfax - murder/suicide?

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People leave their spouses every single day. She could have moved out with an emergency custody order. I know people who got their spouse booted from the house and supervised visitation based on much, much less. I’m not saying this to criticize her but to correct the impression that people are stuck in the marital house with their abuser.


The thing is, she DID get him booted from their house. The time period between the decision to leave/divorce/make him leave and the actual leaving is easily the most dangerous for women..whether is an hour or a week. Look up the stats- sadly this fits an all to common pattern.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm really irritated by all the social media posts I'm seeing blaming the rape victims for this as though 1) they weren't actually telling the truth and 2) that somehow explains murder.

+1. The story goes that Justin Fairfax was so despondent over these “false allegations” that he “spiraled into mental illness” and then just had to kill the mother of his children. PUHLEESE. Murder suicide is not about mental illness, it’s about control. If I can’t have it, you can’t either.

Now that the 48 hours is up, let’s just say I had the ick on this guy and I feel vindicated. The way he made it absolutely clear that he felt entitled to the governorship after Northam’s blackface scandal came out as a matter of racial justice, all the while knowing he had multiple and more recent gender violence skeletons in his own closet, just struck me as so cynical and gross. This guy amplified Republican crap, lead the pile on, and went after an objectively decent man who was doing good for Virginians because it served his own ambitions.

Not to excuse what Northam did one bit, but the 80s in the South was a different time. The consensus on blackface being unequivocally bad is a relatively recent cultural development. He was caught flat footed and rightfully paid the price.

But we all knew rape and assault were bad in the 2000s.

Both men saw the end of their political careers, but Northam at least had a legacy of distinguished service to marginalized populations that he could fall back on. Fairfax apparently was a miserable, lying drunk whose own wife installed cameras in her home to protect herself.

It’s not like law firms shy away from aggressive lawyers with checkered pasts - people saw through this guy. All of his charm just hid the fact he was a narcissist who served no one it himself, and when people started to see that, he was cooked. Look at all the “friends” who wanted nothing to do with him after the scandal came out. Everyone suspected it was true.

All of this. He was a cowardly, rapey, murdering piece of sh*t. The mod of this site and other outlets are making up any and every excuse they can come up with because they too are tribal pieces of sh*t that will protect POC and Dems at all cost, even if that includes throwing women to their death.

+1 it’s gross.

[Anonymous]

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People leave their spouses every single day. She could have moved out with an emergency custody order. I know people who got their spouse booted from the house and supervised visitation based on much, much less. I’m not saying this to criticize her but to correct the impression that people are stuck in the marital house with their abuser.

The thing is, she DID get him booted from their house. The time period between the decision to leave/divorce/make him leave and the actual leaving is easily the most dangerous for women..whether is an hour or a week. Look up the stats- sadly this fits an all to common pattern.

She should have left. Much sooner. That’s the point.

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Do all of you people saying “she should have done this or that” really think she or anyone else really saw this coming?

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if there were cameras in the basement as that is where he killed her.

I hope there is a watershed of information on when he got his gun and other indications of violence escalation. Somehow I don't believe like others have suggested that he just "snapped." His world was crumbling and he wasn't going down alone. At least he spared his children, but to what a traumatized future at that.

He’s an anti gun champion so really interested on how he obtained the murder weapon

Now his fraternity brothers are mourning his loss and people are going after the women he raped/sexually assaulted.

Can people not see that this guy was a total piece of junk?

I read an article this morning about how Celina Fairfax was a wonderful mother. Her neighbor said she built her children a zip line and above ground pool in the backyard, by herself. And she did everything for the household and kids. Those poor kids.

The people who stood by him during the first SA accusations are as guilty as he. They all knew he is a predator, and continued to defend him for the politics sake.

A lot of them were on this site at the. The women came forward in such a public way years later when they had nothing to gain from it and were extremely credible, but saying that around here got you shouted down.

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Anonymous wrote:I believe his wife was a dentist. The best thing you can do is get out as fast as you can after you file if you're afraid for your life. File a restraining order and take the kids. Men are predators who will kill you while pregnant or going through a divorce. Virginia judges are not pro-women.

I was abused by my wife so women are predators as well. Thank you for ignoring me.

Are you really trying to center YOURSELF in this tragedy? Really?!

[Anonymous]

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People leave their spouses every single day. She could have moved out with an emergency custody order. I know people who got their spouse booted from the house and supervised visitation based on much, much less. I’m not saying this to criticize her but to correct the impression that people are stuck in the marital house with their abuser.

The thing is, she DID get him booted from their house. The time period between the decision to leave/divorce/make him leave and the actual leaving is easily the most dangerous for women..whether is an hour or a week. Look up the stats- sadly this fits an all to common pattern.

She should have left. Much sooner. That’s the point.


OMG-this is why we can’t have nice things. The point is that it is the LEAVING itself that triggers the violence. Had the court order come 30 days ago, we would just be reading about this a month earlier. I guess she should have left on their wedding day? My gosh the density. Dumb af.

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Anonymous wrote:Do all of you people saying “she should have done this or that” really think she or anyone else really saw this coming?

+1. I cannot believe the victim blaming here. Yes he sounds messed up. I doubt she had any idea he would do this. It might not even have been premeditated by him.

[Anonymous]

The patriarchy is alive and well! He was not mentally ill, he didn’t “snap,” he was abusive. The f**cker put his need for control above all else, including his own children. I hope he rots in hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do all of you people saying “she should have done this or that” really think she or anyone else really saw this coming?

Yes, of course she saw it. Drinking husband, who was an upraising politician, and who purchased the gun and who had a history of violence against the women it was written on the wall. If he is a narcissist, there is no way she did not see him displaying those characteristics over the years of their marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Do all of you people saying “she should have done this or that” really think she or anyone else really saw this coming?

+1. I cannot believe the victim blaming here. Yes he sounds messed up. I doubt she had any idea he would do this. It might not even have been premeditated by him.

You must be delusional.

[Anonymous]

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People leave their spouses every single day. She could have moved out with an emergency custody order. I know people who got their spouse booted from the house and supervised visitation based on much, much less. I’m not saying this to criticize her but to correct the impression that people are stuck in the marital house with their abuser.

The thing is, she DID get him booted from their house. The time period between the decision to leave/divorce/make him leave and the actual leaving is easily the most dangerous for women..whether is an hour or a week. Look up the stats- sadly this fits an all to common pattern.

She should have left. Much sooner. That’s the point.

She got a court order telling him to move out by April 30th, but she did not got him booted out of the house. He still was physically there and there were no protective order in place.

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Anonymous wrote:Do all of you people saying “she should have done this or that” really think she or anyone else really saw this coming?

There is a reason why she installed cameras all over the house.

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That he falsely accused her of abuse, disproved by cameras, shows the DV was an entrenched pattern. Family Court tends to protect abusers not women or children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

People leave their spouses every single day. She could have moved out with an emergency custody order. I know people who got their spouse booted from the house and supervised visitation based on much, much less. I’m not saying this to criticize her but to correct the impression that people are stuck in the marital house with their abuser.

The thing is, she DID get him booted from their house. The time period between the decision to leave/divorce/make him leave and the actual leaving is easily the most dangerous for women..whether is an hour or a week. Look up the stats- sadly this fits an all to common pattern.

She should have left. Much sooner. That’s the point.

She got a court order telling him to move out by April 30th, but she did not got him booted out of the house. He still was physically there and there were no protective order in place.

A protective order tends to provoke more than protect. Are you seriously suggesting it would have kept her safe with him entitled to live in the house until 4/30 and have access to his kids?

Genuine protection from abusive narcissistic men is a unicorn in most cases.