In-laws and their kids eat all our food

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Anonymous wrote:I tend to forget how WASPy this site is until a food/hosting thread. A holiday cookout is not the time to police how much your guests are eating. You're not supposed to guess how much people are going to eat and then make exactly that much food and hide the rest. It's a Memorial Day cookout, you should expect neighbors to wander over and people to tag along. You're supposed to make a huge spread of food, make sure everyone has enough, and send people home with plates. You should be thrilled if people go back for seconds and thirds. If you run out of food you figure out how to fill the gap right now and make a mental note to make much, much more of whatever went fastest next time.

I stg my DH would commit seppuku if our guests had to resort to eating cereal to fill up after he shut the grill off. The fact that this has happened in your house and you've decided the guests are the problem is bizarre.

This exactly. I am as WASPy as you can get, but I was raised in the Italian culture of North Jersey. If there aren't leftovers after you have people over, you haven't made enough food. I ALWAYS want to make more than people can eat.

OP, it's very simple. If your guests are raiding your fridge, etc. after the cookout, you aren't preparing enough food. Since it has happened n the past, now you know, and you can make more.

Even if she does not prepare enough food it is not a valid reason to be rude. Learn some manners and thank the host for what you were served. No one is going to starve to death in a few hours.

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

Did you seriously just ask what military has to do with Memorial Day??

No. What does a military family have to do with ops issue of rude guests that eat her out of the house? Rude.

Agree. This thread is discussing hosting and rude/not rude behavior….not the actual meaning of Memorial Day.

Right? We wouldn't want to bring that into the discussion. Tis the season and all that.

Haha
People lost their lives but let’s focus on OP’s snackies.

Well that is what the thread was about.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

Did you seriously just ask what military has to do with Memorial Day??

No. What does a military family have to do with ops issue of rude guests that eat her out of the house? Rude.

You seem dense. Remember the reason we celebrate Memorial Day. A few snacks seems trivial, doesn’t it?

People don’t really care about Memorial Day other than a day off work. Sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

Did you seriously just ask what military has to do with Memorial Day??

No. What does a military family have to do with ops issue of rude guests that eat her out of the house? Rude.

You seem dense. Remember the reason we celebrate Memorial Day. A few snacks seems trivial, doesn’t it?

The thread is not discussing the meaning of Memorial Day you moron. It is discussing a hosting issue. Read the thread.

I did. She addresses renaming it “Memorial Day” in memory of her missing food. No joke. I’m sorry you can’t see how tacky and petty the original post is.

Sorry you don’t understand her joke and the actual meaning/discussion of the thread.

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

Did you seriously just ask what military has to do with Memorial Day??

No. What does a military family have to do with ops issue of rude guests that eat her out of the house? Rude.

Agree. This thread is discussing hosting and rude/not rude behavior….not the actual meaning of Memorial Day.

Right? We wouldn't want to bring that into the discussion. Tis the season and all that.

Haha
People lost their lives but let’s focus on OP’s snackies.

Well that is what the thread was about.

Stop hosting people at BBQs if you can't be bothered to feed people. This is such a petty miserly thing to complain about especially when it's a tiny group of 8-10 people. Literally just OPs family and a few others. This should be extremely easy.

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

Did you seriously just ask what military has to do with Memorial Day??

No. What does a military family have to do with ops issue of rude guests that eat her out of the house? Rude.

You seem dense. Remember the reason we celebrate Memorial Day. A few snacks seems trivial, doesn’t it?

The thread is not discussing the meaning of Memorial Day you moron. It is discussing a hosting issue. Read the thread.

I did. She addresses renaming it “Memorial Day” in memory of her missing food. No joke. I’m sorry you can’t see how tacky and petty the original post is.

I thought it was funny.

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

Did you seriously just ask what military has to do with Memorial Day??

No. What does a military family have to do with ops issue of rude guests that eat her out of the house? Rude.

You seem dense. Remember the reason we celebrate Memorial Day. A few snacks seems trivial, doesn’t it?

People don’t really care about Memorial Day other than a day off work. Sorry.

Then don't invite your family over if you can't afford or don't know how to feed them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:ESH. The nieces and nephews for raiding someone else's pantry without permission, bro and SIL for showing up empty handed to a cookout with a pack of ravenous teens, and OP for being judgmental and inhospitable.

I have teens. I can't imagine showing up to a potluck or cookout without a pretty substantial contribution.

Adults shouldn't need to bring food to a family member's house. Grown ups don't potluck.

Personally if I knew she was stingy I'd stop to eat before going. Or, not go.

Grown ups don't potluck? That's news to me. It's pretty standard at just about every cookout I've ever attended for the host to provide the meat and the guests to provide sides, chips, drinks, etc.

If I had 3 teens who each are eating 3-4 times as much as a regular person, then yes, I'd bring food. It's not reasonable to expect the host to provide 12+ servings of food to feed a family of 5. If members of your party are going to go back for thirds and fourths, then you need to contribute something.

No, parties we go to the host services. Sounds like your family eats too much if they are going for 3/4ths. That's a bit much and you should contribute. The only time we have potlucks is for sports stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

Did you seriously just ask what military has to do with Memorial Day??

No. What does a military family have to do with ops issue of rude guests that eat her out of the house? Rude.

Agree. This thread is discussing hosting and rude/not rude behavior….not the actual meaning of Memorial Day.

Right? We wouldn't want to bring that into the discussion. Tis the season and all that.

Haha
People lost their lives but let’s focus on OP’s snackies.

Blah blah sacrifice blah blah some gave all blah blah blah. Start your own thread if you want everyone to kiss your military ass.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I tend to forget how WASPy this site is until a food/hosting thread. A holiday cookout is not the time to police how much your guests are eating. You're not supposed to guess how much people are going to eat and then make exactly that much food and hide the rest. It's a Memorial Day cookout, you should expect neighbors to wander over and people to tag along. You're supposed to make a huge spread of food, make sure everyone has enough, and send people home with plates. You should be thrilled if people go back for seconds and thirds. If you run out of food you figure out how to fill the gap right now and make a mental note to make much, much more of whatever went fastest next time.

I stg my DH would commit seppuku if our guests had to resort to eating cereal to fill up after he shut the grill off. The fact that this has happened in your house and you've decided the guests are the problem is bizarre.

This exactly. I am as WASPy as you can get, but I was raised in the Italian culture of North Jersey. If there aren't leftovers after you have people over, you haven't made enough food. I ALWAYS want to make more than people can eat.

OP, it's very simple. If your guests are raiding your fridge, etc. after the cookout, you aren't preparing enough food. Since it has happened n the past, now you know, and you can make more.

Even if she does not prepare enough food it is not a valid reason to be rude. Learn some manners and thank the host for what you were served. No one is going to starve to death in a few hours.

My focus is on the OP, not the guests. OP claims that he (and it's definitely a he) is making more than enough food. That is demonstrably false. People are still hungry after the food is gone. Yes, it's rude to raid someone's pantry without asking, but OP can avoid the entire problem by making enough.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

Did you seriously just ask what military has to do with Memorial Day??

No. What does a military family have to do with ops issue of rude guests that eat her out of the house? Rude.

Agree. This thread is discussing hosting and rude/not rude behavior….not the actual meaning of Memorial Day.

Right? We wouldn't want to bring that into the discussion. Tis the season and all that.

Haha
People lost their lives but let’s focus on OP’s snackies.

Well that is what the thread was about.

Stop hosting people at BBQs if you can't be bothered to feed people. This is such a petty miserly thing to complain about especially when it's a tiny group of 8-10 people. Literally just OPs family and a few others. This should be extremely easy.

Sounds like op is feeding them but they are inclined to eat like wild horses.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

Did you seriously just ask what military has to do with Memorial Day??

No. What does a military family have to do with ops issue of rude guests that eat her out of the house? Rude.

You seem dense. Remember the reason we celebrate Memorial Day. A few snacks seems trivial, doesn’t it?

People don’t really care about Memorial Day other than a day off work. Sorry.

Then don't invite your family over if you can't afford or don't know how to feed them.

I don’t, baby! I won’t even be in the country this year.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

Did you seriously just ask what military has to do with Memorial Day??

No. What does a military family have to do with ops issue of rude guests that eat her out of the house? Rude.

You seem dense. Remember the reason we celebrate Memorial Day. A few snacks seems trivial, doesn’t it?

People don’t really care about Memorial Day other than a day off work. Sorry.

Then don't invite your family over if you can't afford or don't know how to feed them.

I don’t, baby! I won’t even be in the country this year.

Glad you stopped by to give out your useless advice. What would we do without you here?

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Anonymous wrote:So, it is Memorial Day (almost) and my bro and sis in law and their three kids are coming over. It should be called "Memorial Day" because by the team they leave I have a vague memory of when we used to have food in the house. Of course, we are planning ( prob gonna rain) to make burgers and dogs and all, and that's cool . We expect them to eat that. But you have never seen anything like their kids. They are big boys 9 16 year old twins) and a younger girl who is a gymnast, and they are RAVENOUS. Every time they come over, they leave our house more barren than the surface of the moon. The cereal is gone, the candy is gone, the soda is gone, the chips are gone, any baked good is gone, hell even our dog gets nervous. The thing is- they never offer to pay for their children's assaults on our pantry.
I know this sounds trivial to some, but we aren't rich and their visits seriously wipe out an entire grocery run. Is there a tactful way to say "Hey, can you help replace the stuff your children devour?" or do you think we are just stuck ?

This isn’t funny. At all.

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

Did you seriously just ask what military has to do with Memorial Day??

No. What does a military family have to do with ops issue of rude guests that eat her out of the house? Rude.

Agree. This thread is discussing hosting and rude/not rude behavior….not the actual meaning of Memorial Day.

Right? We wouldn't want to bring that into the discussion. Tis the season and all that.

Haha
People lost their lives but let’s focus on OP’s snackies.

Well that is what the thread was about.

Stop hosting people at BBQs if you can't be bothered to feed people. This is such a petty miserly thing to complain about especially when it's a tiny group of 8-10 people. Literally just OPs family and a few others. This should be extremely easy.

Sounds like op is feeding them but they are inclined to eat like wild horses.

We really don't know what OP is feeding them. Or for how long. A fruit salad and some burgers doesn't really go that far. And nobody is going to touch that nasty potato salad that's been sitting out all day.