Would you pay 200K for a baby that isn't biologically yours?

[Anonymous]

We adopted our amazing DD from foster care. Our entire out-of-pocket cost was about $1,500. This was for travel to family court to finalize her adoption. Healthcare costs are being covered even now, and depending on where she goes to college, that may be totally free (because she was once in foster care). Each to his or her own. We helped a little girl in need, and she is an incredible blessing to us.

[Anonymous]

What OP describes is basically me.

I am 100% at peace with the choices I made bc they were all rational when I made them.

Moving to donated eggs + advances in IVF actually revealed the problem that had contributed to previous failures (but that Drs thought unlikely bc of my advanced age). Weirdly explaining the failure helped me process it.

DC is 3 and brings me every joy and the fulfilled life I had dreamed of. I can sit here and regret the $$ or I can be happy with what I have and look forward.

Good luck to all the people struggling through IVF and infertility. Its easy to comment and judge from the sideline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What OP describes is basically me.

I am 100% at peace with the choices I made bc they were all rational when I made them.

Moving to donated eggs + advances in IVF actually revealed the problem that had contributed to previous failures (but that Drs thought unlikely bc of my advanced age). Weirdly explaining the failure helped me process it.

DC is 3 and brings me every joy and the fulfilled life I had dreamed of. I can sit here and regret the $$ or I can be happy with what I have and look forward.

Good luck to all the people struggling through IVF and infertility. Its easy to comment and judge from the sideline.

That’s wonderful. Congratulations!

I spent big $$$ trying to have a second child; never was able to carry to term again. I don’t think of that money as wasted. I had to try. That was the path I chose and I don’t regret trying. I’m happier now knowing that I gave it my best shot., but it wasn’t meant to be.

I’m conclusion, the only appropriate commentary on other people’s reproductive choices is either “congratulations!” or “I’m sorry.”