Date has no online presence

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This would not be the reason I didn’t go on a 2nd date with someone. I work with a lot of police officers and they use fake names for social media to protect themselves and their families.

But how would I develop this relationship with someone who I don't really know? He did attempt to hug me so I presume kissing would be expected soon. Shall I raise this issue at the dinner, or counter propose something less formal ?

It’s called “communication”

Did you read above I offered him to spend an afternoon together and he disappeared ? The guy did use his hands and kissed me on date one (and I reciprocated as I like him). I presume he expected more on date two, and got upset

I thought you said he only hugged you and you think kissing maybe next. Anyway, you not making nothing about this post makes sense.

[Anonymous]

OP is a quack. You make no sense. Likely not a match for anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you go for a second date ladies if the guy cannot be googled/no verifiable online presence? We exchanged numbers, I gave my actual one and I do have a pretty public presence online. His number gives nothing, neither does online name/location search. He did share the detail about his life, showed videos of his son and appeared a normal dmv guy.

But I am not comfortable going out for dinner with someone I don't really know. And it feels like we are on unequal footing from the beginning, me being transparent and him protecting privacy. If he thinks I am a nutcase, why offer dinner date?

You're uncomfortable because you don't think the guy is rich. "normal dmv guy" i.e. he's a middle class schmuck with ex and kiddo baggage. You're looking for an excuse to ghost when the real reason you want to ghost is he isn't high-status and rich enough for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Would you go for a second date ladies if the guy cannot be googled/no verifiable online presence? We exchanged numbers, I gave my actual one and I do have a pretty public presence online. His number gives nothing, neither does online name/location search. He did share the detail about his life, showed videos of his son and appeared a normal dmv guy.

But I am not comfortable going out for dinner with someone I don't really know. And it feels like we are on unequal footing from the beginning, me being transparent and him protecting privacy. If he thinks I am a nutcase, why offer dinner date?

You're uncomfortable because you don't think the guy is rich. "normal dmv guy" i.e. he's a middle class schmuck with ex and kiddo baggage. You're looking for an excuse to ghost when the real reason you want to ghost is he isn't high-status and rich enough for you.

You see in it what you want to see. Maybe because you are are a middle class schmuck with an ex and kiddo buggage yourself. I simply turn on my impulse control with hot guys, after having couple of these types ghost me after sex in my 20s. I actually have hard time to keep my pants zipped with men I am attracted to. Yes, I sabotaged it with him as I felt it would go too fast without even me knowing him, and while he uses burner number. I would have slept with dozens of men without self damage control (and most OLD men are whores without any impulse control sleeping with multiple women).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you the same op as the video dates thread

Why would that matter? I do video dates sometimes, this guy said he wasn't comfortable with a video date. He was more attractive in real life than on photos. Btw I had a video date with someone else just recently who really liked me. He immediately offered his actual phone number, job place, position, connect on LinkedIn. Name matched the number and location on google, he is an involved dad. I liked that openness, and although he's not as tall/hot, he is more educated, has well established career and better mannered.

Men don't realize they also have a competition for female attention and we will drop out if they try to install privacy locks on everything about them online. We live in modern world: it's not like I expect everyone to twit or Facebook but something should come up about a person when you google IMHO.

This also comes from my experience in hospitality business; when you don't check an ID and someone's name doesn't match the phone number on google it ends up in 90% cases with credit card fraud.

I am not a stalker (god forbid never call men first, or text them first). But ultimate purpose of dating is to find a sexual and hopefully life partner, and I want that search to be transparent.

You sound crazy, OP, but I also wouldn't sleep with a man without knowing more about him. Back in the day, we went out on several dates and got to know a person that way. I once made a guy show me his ID because he said he name was "Tom Johnson" and I just couldn't believe that wasn't a made up name because it's so plain, LOL!

[Anonymous]

we will drop out if they try to install privacy locks on everything about them online. We live in modern world: it's not like I expect everyone to twit or Facebook but something should come up about a person when you google IMHO.

Your opinion is incorrect. You can’t Google me for instance, and that’s just me being less famous than other people with the same name.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Would you go for a second date ladies if the guy cannot be googled/no verifiable online presence? We exchanged numbers, I gave my actual one and I do have a pretty public presence online. His number gives nothing, neither does online name/location search. He did share the detail about his life, showed videos of his son and appeared a normal dmv guy.

But I am not comfortable going out for dinner with someone I don't really know. And it feels like we are on unequal footing from the beginning, me being transparent and him protecting privacy. If he thinks I am a nutcase, why offer dinner date?

You're uncomfortable because you don't think the guy is rich. "normal dmv guy" i.e. he's a middle class schmuck with ex and kiddo baggage. You're looking for an excuse to ghost when the real reason you want to ghost is he isn't high-status and rich enough for you.

You see in it what you want to see. Maybe because you are are a middle class schmuck with an ex and kiddo buggage yourself. I simply turn on my impulse control with hot guys, after having couple of these types ghost me after sex in my 20s. I actually have hard time to keep my pants zipped with men I am attracted to. Yes, I sabotaged it with him as I felt it would go too fast without even me knowing him, and while he uses burner number. I would have slept with dozens of men without self damage control (and most OLD men are whores without any impulse control sleeping with multiple women).

You’re a thirsty troll. Get a life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would actually prefer a man who doesn't waste his time on social media.

He's early 50s. No Linkedin either? That's very unusual I myself have no Instagram and very sleepy Facebook but active Linkedin.

He may have some blue collar job?

[Anonymous]

A person with a common name can be really hard to find on google. I'm almost ungoogle-able. It's great. A woman from NASA's PR department has my same name and all the returns are her, not me. I am on Facebook, instagram and LinkedIn but they don't tell you much. My ex isn't on social at all - he has a high clearance and is suspicious of it. Sometimes you just have to put in the time and work and assume someone is who they say they are. Most are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A person with a common name can be really hard to find on google. I'm almost ungoogle-able. It's great. A woman from NASA's PR department has my same name and all the returns are her, not me. I am on Facebook, instagram and LinkedIn but they don't tell you much. My ex isn't on social at all - he has a high clearance and is suspicious of it. Sometimes you just have to put in the time and work and assume someone is who they say they are. Most are.

Can you google based on a photo?