Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Loud and proud. Look, I dont post every one of them (and there were a lot of them so far) but once my son decided where he was going...it was time to shout from the mountaintops loud and proud.

Dont like it? Too bad.

We just think you are pathetic having to brag that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Loud and proud. Look, I dont post every one of them (and there were a lot of them so far) but once my son decided where he was going...it was time to shout from the mountaintops loud and proud.

Dont like it? Too bad.

We just think you are pathetic having to brag that way.

We just think you wish you had something to brag about. Because if you did, you definitely would mention it the "understated", social register approved way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow this thread amazes ! You do know the kids post on social media instantly and start looking for roommates the next day right? But you are going to hold back until May because …
Other parents might be nauseated?
DCUM has such a faux old money pretense. “We Cabot’s and Lodge’s NEVER announce because of course it’s all Ivy and we are still in the 19th century here.”

We're talking about parents, not kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Loud and proud. Look, I dont post every one of them (and there were a lot of them so far) but once my son decided where he was going...it was time to shout from the mountaintops loud and proud.

Dont like it? Too bad.

So utterly, completely, and miserably pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

If I am of the "do post"/"don't throw the roommate" camp, what does it make me?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow this thread amazes ! You do know the kids post on social media instantly and start looking for roommates the next day right? But you are going to hold back until May because …

Kids telling other kids what's they've accomplished and planned is fine. Parents living through their kids is just weird and sad.

I posted pictures from the drop-off trip because that was about my life, too. But parents who gave a blow-by-blow from admissions test to get into TJHSST to each admission and whether it was the honors college or a full scholarship or whatever -- calm. down.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

[Anonymous]

I can’t wait to post DDs decision on Facebook. I wish she would make up her mind but she will probably hold out til the spring

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the Venn diagram of the “don’t post on Facebook” parents with the “don’t even ask your roommate for a couple hours per week privacy in the dorm room so you can do online tutoring” parents from the other day. I bet it would be close to 100%. Very bizarre views here on DCUM….

Yea, me too. The "don't post" / "don't throw the roommate" out are the ones who care about the feelings of other and look outward. As opposed to being self-centered and self-absorbed.

And we wonder why we’ve got a generation of delicate snowflakes with parents who think like this….

So respecting others makes you a snowflake?

Saying that this is "respecting others" is conclusory. Viewing everyone and their feelings as unbelievably fragile is what makes you a snowflake.

Let me be clear: I'm not against parents posting college acceptances/choices on social media because I worry about the "fragility" of the readers. I'm against it because I think it it makes the parent look pathetic and because it's probably embarrassing (or should embarrass) the kid. In the case of the roommate, again, there's no concern about fragility -- it's just an obnoxious thing to do.

The common thread with both is that you're being self-centered. You're not really posting about the college because you think the whole world will be happy and thrilled for you -- you're doing it to say "look at me, look at me!" And it's just pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t wait to post DDs decision on Facebook. I wish she would make up her mind but she will probably hold out til the spring

Why can't you wait? Seriously, why? Do you honestly think the whole world is waiting with baited breath? Do you really think anybody gives a flying fig? Seriously -- explain the psychology behind your impatience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Loud and proud. Look, I dont post every one of them (and there were a lot of them so far) but once my son decided where he was going...it was time to shout from the mountaintops loud and proud.

Dont like it? Too bad.

So utterly, completely, and miserably pathetic.

Yep. Especially the bolded. You just know people run when they see her coming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Loud and proud. Look, I dont post every one of them (and there were a lot of them so far) but once my son decided where he was going...it was time to shout from the mountaintops loud and proud.

Dont like it? Too bad.

So utterly, completely, and miserably pathetic.

Yep. Especially the bolded. You just know people run when they see her coming.

I mean, seriously . . .