Men in your 50s, do you find women in their 50s attractive?

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Anonymous wrote:Eh, I’m an over 50 woman who is attractive, but clearly my age. If a man isn’t into me, I’m really fine and prefer if he moves along. That comment is to you 61 y.o. Guy dating 35 year olds. Really, I have no interest in you. I have to wonder about men who complain their first wife cut off sex. There are usually two sides to that story, and it raises red flags to me. I’m widowed from a good marriage that was not sexless or affectionless. Anyway, you can get through a lot with really good girlfriends. I’ve enjoyed keeping company with very pleasant, accomplished gentlemen around my age, and I’m not looking for a replacement spouse. There are a ton of women who are younger than me and more attractive than me. So what?

Voice of reason. I aspire to be as wise and self-assured as you.

PS this thread is depressing.

-32 yo woman

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is kind of timely - I just texted a pic of myself with a new haircut to DH, who is on travel. I'm 49. I believe him when he says he thinks I look sexy, but when I look at the pic, man do I look old .....

Did you cut it short? Some short cuts on some women can look good, but mostly they look matronly. Your girl friends will tell you it looks "cute," but probably your husband likes it longer.

Cutting off your hair like a typical middle-aged woman makes you look years older and less attractive. If you wish to be invisible to men go for it.

Why should she give a sh_t?

[Anonymous]

This thread is kind of timely - I just texted a pic of myself with a new haircut to DH, who is on travel. I'm 49. I believe him when he says he thinks I look sexy, but when I look at the pic, man do I look old .....


What did your hair look like before? And what does it look like now?

I'm sorry - I think I my post was confusing. It isn't the haircut that makes me look old - it's just a few inches shorter than the old haircut. The only reason I mentioned it is that I don't usually take pictures of my face and send them to DH. The haircut was the reason for doing that. My face looks old regardless of the hair.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is kind of timely - I just texted a pic of myself with a new haircut to DH, who is on travel. I'm 49. I believe him when he says he thinks I look sexy, but when I look at the pic, man do I look old .....

Are you in shape? Then believe him you look sexy. If not, the haircut is not hiding those un-sexy extra pounds.

+1000! I see this self delusion on display all the time in the +20 lb. set.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no comparision of a 50yo to my 27yo Thai sex machine GF. No comparison. I gave up everyday sex for so many years staying with my XW.

Probably perfected her craft working in Bangkok from 13-18.

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Anonymous wrote:To be fair, most men in their 50s don't look good either, especially white men.

Since we have established that women go for our money and career success, our looks are beside the point. Sorry older ladies!

Why not? You men only go for looks and youth, apparently. But, if you don't have money or success, and are old, then you'd better be good looking and fit if you want to attract younger women.

Long ago, on Access Hollywood, Billy Bush asked Melania Trump if she would've married Trump had he not been rich, to which she replied, "well, would he have married me if I didn't look like this?"

Most younger women would only date a much much older man, especially a not attractive man, if he has money, and old men will date young women if they can. Is this really a new concept?

[Anonymous]

My Dad is 64, handsome, wealthy and a great guy. He's a widower. He's in great physical shape and looks much younger even though he has a full head of silver hair. I've got single girlfriends who think he's hot and I'm sure some of my married friends think so to. We live near each other and I see him all the time and its a real hoot to see women in their early 40's hit on him. He really prefers women in their 50's or early 60's because they have a lot more in common with him. I bet his guy friends give him grief for not chasing after young ones but like I said, he's a great guy.

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It's just common sense. On a purely biological level, youth is more attractive. Aside from the aesthetics, older males have good reason to be drawn to younger females who can still reproduce. As women, we can't reproduce anyway after a certain age, so our pull to young mates is not strong. Our priorities in an attractive mate were different to begin with.

Beyond that, people do vary in how important physical attributes are to them. If you're all physical, so be it. If you're more drawn to brains or personality or common experiences, so be it. As long as people match each other.

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Anonymous wrote:It's just common sense. On a purely biological level, youth is more attractive. Aside from the aesthetics, older males have good reason to be drawn to younger females who can still reproduce. As women, we can't reproduce anyway after a certain age, so our pull to young mates is not strong. Our priorities in an attractive mate were different to begin with.

Beyond that, people do vary in how important physical attributes are to them. If you're all physical, so be it. If you're more drawn to brains or personality or common experiences, so be it. As long as people match each other.

Err - go away. You are far too sensible to be on this crazy site

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is kind of timely - I just texted a pic of myself with a new haircut to DH, who is on travel. I'm 49. I believe him when he says he thinks I look sexy, but when I look at the pic, man do I look old .....

You are judging yourself through the eyes of others who don't matter. You are sexy to him and you need to believe it.

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Anonymous wrote:To answer OP's question, of course. It's been 25 years and I'm still very attracted to DW. Were something to happen, I think I would stay within a 10 yr window.

Then you are no different than I am. Make it 12 years and you are 60 dating 48.

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Anonymous wrote:My Dad is 64, handsome, wealthy and a great guy. He's a widower. He's in great physical shape and looks much younger even though he has a full head of silver hair. I've got single girlfriends who think he's hot and I'm sure some of my married friends think so to. We live near each other and I see him all the time and its a real hoot to see women in their early 40's hit on him. He really prefers women in their 50's or early 60's because they have a lot more in common with him. I bet his guy friends give him grief for not chasing after young ones but like I said, he's a great guy.

Can I meet him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh, I’m an over 50 woman who is attractive, but clearly my age. If a man isn’t into me, I’m really fine and prefer if he moves along. That comment is to you 61 y.o. Guy dating 35 year olds. Really, I have no interest in you. I have to wonder about men who complain their first wife cut off sex. There are usually two sides to that story, and it raises red flags to me. I’m widowed from a good marriage that was not sexless or affectionless. Anyway, you can get through a lot with really good girlfriends. I’ve enjoyed keeping company with very pleasant, accomplished gentlemen around my age, and I’m not looking for a replacement spouse. There are a ton of women who are younger than me and more attractive than me. So what?

That's me, but I didn't say I date 35 year olds. At the same time, I wouldn't exclude one should it happen, but I don't think that would work out well in the long run. I said I date women in their 40s and, truth be told, that's more late 40s. I don't exclude 50s either but the pickings are slim and saying that is what has so many riled up, but I was just answering the OPs question honestly. So my target is really about 15 years younger, plus/minus. I still don't understand what is so shocking about that.

Like you, I'm not looking for a replacement spouse. I'm dating and enjoying life.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is kind of timely - I just texted a pic of myself with a new haircut to DH, who is on travel. I'm 49. I believe him when he says he thinks I look sexy, but when I look at the pic, man do I look old .....

Did you cut it short? Some short cuts on some women can look good, but mostly they look matronly. Your girl friends will tell you it looks "cute," but probably your husband likes it longer.

Cutting off your hair like a typical middle-aged woman makes you look years older and less attractive. If you wish to be invisible to men go for it.

Why should she give a sh_t?

It's the topic of the thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a mid 50's male. I find significantly younger women -- younger by more than 10 years -- have had such a different life experience that conversations can get awkward. I remember watergate, the moon landing, etc. I remember Vietnam. Someone who was six or less when Reagan was elected just won't work for me.

They probably like 90's music (shudder).

Uh, how often do you talk about that ancient history with women your own age? If you do, that - and not their age - is the reason their vaginas are dry and they avoid intercourse with you.

I'm in my mid 50s, and I find that the key to an enjoyable conversation with a woman of any age - and more importantly, a conversation that leads to sex - is to shut up and let them talk. Surely you have learned by now to nod, smile, and feign interest in their incessant senseless prattle while you think about how they'll look when they're naked.

Wow. The contempt for women is palpable.