Who is right? Son accidentally took item - disagreement results

[Anonymous]

OP, it was your job to return the item your son took. Your son created the problem so it is your responsibility to fix it. The fact that you have a sleeping baby has nothing to do with it.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the other mom's request is unreasonable but I still would have driven to return the suit. Maybe she has other stressful things going on and this just put her over the edge?

I like the suggestions to either overnight the suit, uber it over or send her money to replace.

THIS. I would offer to overnight the suit to their hotel if they were staying longer than a weekend. Other wise return on Monday -- overnight to resort areas tend to take longer than usual.
OP unfortunately opened a negotiation by saying she would drive it. She should have just said no.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it was your job to return the item your son took. Your son created the problem so it is your responsibility to fix it. The fact that you have a sleeping baby has nothing to do with it.

OP should return the suit, but not on that crazy schedule. Other Mom is being too demanding and not understanding.

I'd offer to drop it off at the friend's house and they can pick it up in the morning.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you care what DCUM thinks?

Your child took someone's swimsuit, and you did not return it to the other person. Both these acts (your son taking something, and you not returning it in time) has already happened. Why do you need DCUM to approve or disapprove? We do not know you. The other person knows you somewhat, and she does not have a good impression of you. Worry about her impression because she knows you IRL.

I think once the crazy lady's request starts getting out there, she's going to be the one who has to worry what people think of her.

Over a bathing suit.

She sounds self-absorbed. There will be more stories, after this one, I imagine.

How can she be self-absorbed, when it wasn't her suit that was taken by mistake? I don't think there's anything crazy about asking for a stolen by accident item to be returned immediately. OP doesn't want to return it immediately, which means she should keep closer tabs on her child who takes other people's things, if she doesn't want to be doing this for the next 10 years.

Again the word stolen. The kid is 6/7 . Really you need to let it go and just enjoy your vacation.

Again- you don't read very well. Try it again. Sound it out.

The word stolen, by definition, requires intent. Grabbing the wrong swim suit by mistake is not stealing.

Seriously. I'm on the Jersey shore right now and I'm pretty sure I could WALK to the Target here in 15 minutes.

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The jersey shore isn't a town, people. I assure you that you won't find a Target or a kid's swim trunks for under $40 in Stone Harbor or Avalon. And you won't pass a target on the way there. Those beach towns don't have a boardwalk---just a little Main Street with upscale shops. And the family probably planned to leave at 6am and can't hit a local target on their way out of town.

Yes, that is true. There will not be a Target. And who wants to drive out to the Target (miles away) on a weekend. However, there are cheap suits on every boardwalk.

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Would any of you call in the late afternoon or evening to ask that your son's only swimsuit be returned that same day, knowing that your friend has a baby at home and lives far away?

My children only have one swimsuit apiece, and I would be highly annoyed if someone took their Speedos by mistake, but I wouldn't request an immediate return in these circumstances. It wouldn't even cross my mind to be so rude.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you care what DCUM thinks?

Your child took someone's swimsuit, and you did not return it to the other person. Both these acts (your son taking something, and you not returning it in time) has already happened. Why do you need DCUM to approve or disapprove? We do not know you. The other person knows you somewhat, and she does not have a good impression of you. Worry about her impression because she knows you IRL.

I think once the crazy lady's request starts getting out there, she's going to be the one who has to worry what people think of her.

Over a bathing suit.

She sounds self-absorbed. There will be more stories, after this one, I imagine.

How can she be self-absorbed, when it wasn't her suit that was taken by mistake? I don't think there's anything crazy about asking for a stolen by accident item to be returned immediately. OP doesn't want to return it immediately, which means she should keep closer tabs on her child who takes other people's things, if she doesn't want to be doing this for the next 10 years.

Again the word stolen. The kid is 6/7 . Really you need to let it go and just enjoy your vacation.

Again- you don't read very well. Try it again. Sound it out.

The word stolen, by definition, requires intent. Grabbing the wrong swim suit by mistake is not stealing.

Seriously. I'm on the Jersey shore right now and I'm pretty sure I could WALK to the Target here in 15 minutes.

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The jersey shore isn't a town, people. I assure you that you won't find a Target or a kid's swim trunks for under $40 in Stone Harbor or Avalon. And you won't pass a target on the way there. Those beach towns don't have a boardwalk---just a little Main Street with upscale shops. And the family probably planned to leave at 6am and can't hit a local target on their way out of town.

You get to the Jersey shore by driving up 95 for hours. A big box store is not hard to find and don't most people stop for stuff along the way when going on a driving vacation? Come on. You can't possibly be arguing that it is impossible to replace a Target bathing suit while driving through the mid-Atlantic States.

It is an inconvience and the whole finding a target, pulling off, finding and buying a suit will probably take 50 minutes. Why should the other mom be subjected to this inconvience but not OP? OP is clearly outsourcing her childcare (see: she didn't go to party or maybe this wouldn't have happened) so of COURSE she thinks she shouldn't have to drive anywhere.

Because that is life with kids. Her kid went to a pool party, took off his suit, didn't immediately wrap it in a towel and put it in his bag, another kid had the same suit in a different size, the suits got switched. So, on the way to the beach she stops and picks up a new one along with some extra sunscreen. While they are stopped they get some lunch. No one stresses about it and everyone has a lovely weekend.

PP, I think you might be too sane and reasonable to be on DCUM.

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Anonymous wrote:People are under no obligation to own more than one suit per kid because other people are unwilling to make things right. Jeesh.

I'd have taken the baby and dropped the suit. Sure it would be nice if the other mom was willing to come get it, but she has her own schedule, and when it's your kid who messes up you fix it. Yeah waking a baby is a pain but it's also a pain and stressful to be packing a family to go on vacation and realize your kid's suit in no longer in residence through no fault of your own. So the woman who's packing has to stop, pack up her kids, drive to a store, find a suit, spend more money, drive home, and then hope that OP deigns to return the suit at some point because it doesn't appear from this thread that OP plans to do anything other than mock the woman and roll her eyes at her. And we wonder why our kids seem incapable of making the right decisions.

Sorry, OP is in the wrong.

signed, broke Sanctomommy

[Anonymous]

Now if it had been my size 16 fat suit, that would be another story !!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am going to post this thread next time someone asks why people hate the DMV. Here it is in a nutshell!

I think it is safe to say that everyone hates the Department of Motor Vehicles.

[Anonymous]

Good grief. This isn't worth a fight. If the mom doesn't want to buy another suit, she can just put her kid in a pair of shorts and let him swim in those.

[Anonymous]

I had something similar happen but was on the other side-another child mistakenly took something right before a vacation. The idea that I would have asked a mom to wake a sleeping baby and drive all over creation to return it immediately is so LOL I can't even believe it.

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Two things I learned from reading this thread:

1. Thank god my kids go to charter school (private school parents sound horrible)

2. I don't think any one from DC has been to the Jersey Shore, hotels? Target? Haha.

[Anonymous]

Op you should have told her when your baby wakes up at 4 am, you will drive to her house. Then go and ring the doorbell at 445 am and hand her the precious suit.

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I had one swimsuit growing up at a time, it worked out fine. I am not sure why a boy would have more than one. Kids grow at different rates.

As multiple people said, overnighting it to the hotel would be a good compromise.

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Question:

Would any of you call in the late afternoon or evening to ask that your son's only swimsuit be returned that same day, knowing that your friend has a baby at home and lives far away?

My children only have one swimsuit apiece, and I would be highly annoyed if someone took their Speedos by mistake, but I wouldn't request an immediate return in these circumstances. It wouldn't even cross my mind to be so rude.

Not OP's friend. OP didn't show up to the party. Presumably when she called she had no idea she had a baby and lived 50 minutes away. Not knowing that, I would call - and accept if OP offered to brig it as she did