Ladies, are you heavier than your mother?

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Anonymous wrote:No, we have completely different body shapes. She is 5'9 and has been obese/plus size for years, with a large frame. I'm 5'4 and have a petite frame, size 6. I have a daughter and her body shape mirrors my mom with the tall and big frame. I worry for her in the future.

Size 6 at your height is far from petite. Petite in your mind only!

Is there some weight obsessed weirdo replying to all of these? 5'4 size 6 is petite. It is literally petite sizing.

Literarily "petite" in let's make you think you are petite so you will buy more of our clothes, you are short, for sure, but not slim.

Oh just what DCUM needed, an anorexia troll.

If that makes you feel better, sure go ahead and think that. Is reality too hard and painful for you?

[Anonymous]

My mom has been overweight to obese my entire life. I don't know how much she weighs, so just guessing? but I'm 3 inches taller and I'd say 50 pounds lighter. We are built similarly, though I'm a bit smaller boned (smaller wrists e.g.). Love her to pieces and she always looks great to me.

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Obsession with weight is ridiculous. I judge people who are preoccupied with it. Good food is one of life’s great pleasures and I judge those who deprive themselves of that pleasure in an effort to look “thin”.

All things in moderation. As long as you exercise and try to eat a reasonably healthy diet, with occasional treats, who cares about the number on the scale.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do 5’4” people buy petite sizing? I’m 5’5” and have never bought petite sizing or thought about it.

I'd say 5'4" is borderline for petite, depending on the cut and how you are built. I am 5'4", petite jackets don't usually fit, but petite pants do - I have a longish torso.

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Yes, by about 4-6 pounds. I workout tho so I probably have a little more muscle + im taller than her

[Anonymous]

Of course. My dad is much bigger and I’m a product of both of them. I’m taller, stronger, better.

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Yes.

My mother is severely underweight. I'm normal weight. Keeping an eye on DD, though, who is tiny and for whom normal portions may be too large to keep her BMI in the normal range.

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No. My mom has been a size 8-10 since puberty. I’m a 0-2, take after my dad. Funny enough my dad loves to tell me I’m “skeletal” and my mom is just right!

[Anonymous]

My mother works in a gym and is in better shape than 95% of you (and me too). I work in an office and am plenty squishy.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes.

My mother is severely underweight. I'm normal weight. Keeping an eye on DD, though, who is tiny and for whom normal portions may be too large to keep her BMI in the normal range.

Please don’t.

[Anonymous]

I’m thinner. We are both 5’4 but have different body types. Shes about 150 whereas I’m 110. She is also a great cook and a big foodie whereas I am not.

[Anonymous]

Yes, by maybe 15 lbs, but I’m also 4” taller.

[Anonymous]

No, my mom is overweight and has been since I was a kid. I’m normal weight and healthy— don’t diet but try to eat reasonably well and get a lot of exercise. I have structured my life fir a lot of incidental exercise (limited car use, walkable neighborhood, etc.) because my mom is incredibly sedentary and I think it’s not only impacted her weight but her mental health and quality of life. We are both prone to depression and I think my increased exercise helps keep it at bay for me.

I think obesity is a lot more complex than just diet and exercise. I think my mom’s weight issues are driven by mental health issues and a traumatic childhood. Good and exercise play a role, but they aren’t the main culprits in my view.

One dynamic that is hard is that my mom views obesity snd a sedentary lifestyle (and depression) as inevitable. So she is always looking for me to join her in these things. She watches my weight closely, not to make sure I stay thin but because she wants me to start gaining so that we can commiserate over dieting and weight loss. She wants me to “slow down” and move to a suburb, drive more and adopt a lifestyle more like hers. It’s hard because I love her but she wants me to be unhealthy so that she doesn’t feel so alone. It’s a very toxic dynamic.

[Anonymous]

My entire mother’s side are obese people. Siblings included. I’m the smallest one by at least 50lbs, and the most athletic. I watch what I eat and am the most active.

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Yes, I am heavier than my mother, I took after my father. She never let me forget it. Talk about a major inferiority complex she gave me. Took me years in therapy to actually learn to love my size 10 body. She is size 0.