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[quote=Anonymous]No, my mom is overweight and has been since I was a kid. I’m normal weight and healthy— don’t diet but try to eat reasonably well and get a lot of exercise. I have structured my life fir a lot of incidental exercise (limited car use, walkable neighborhood, etc.) because my mom is incredibly sedentary and I think it’s not only impacted her weight but her mental health and quality of life. We are both prone to depression and I think my increased exercise helps keep it at bay for me.

I think obesity is a lot more complex than just diet and exercise. I think my mom’s weight issues are driven by mental health issues and a traumatic childhood. Good and exercise play a role, but they aren’t the main culprits in my view.

One dynamic that is hard is that my mom views obesity snd a sedentary lifestyle (and depression) as inevitable. So she is always looking for me to join her in these things. She watches my weight closely, not to make sure I stay thin but because she wants me to start gaining so that we can commiserate over dieting and weight loss. She wants me to “slow down” and move to a suburb, drive more and adopt a lifestyle more like hers. It’s hard because I love her but she wants me to be unhealthy so that she doesn’t feel so alone. It’s a very toxic dynamic.[/quote]

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