Men: How can us women make ourselves more attractive?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All of these complaints about how staying in shape and maintaining long hair are too difficult are undermined by all the times I've seen recently divorced women lose weight, grow their hair out, and generally improve their appearance. They didn't get younger or develop fewer responsibilities. They simply became motivated.

Don't be ridiculous, of course there is fewer responsibilities. No more cooking for a man, no more laundry, free evenings...OF COURSE there's more time.

Single mothers have more time? And not just more time - but so much more time that it's "ridiculous" to think otherwise. That's a revelation.

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I guess I don't speak for other guys, but I can't remember the last time I saw a woman with long hair and thought - that hair looks dry and old and makes her look worse. I've seen a lot of women with short hair and thought - that short hair makes her look worse.

So, if women are getting judged for keeping their hair long after they are, in some sense, too old for long hair; I have to think that almost all of that negative judging is coming from other women. Because I'm pretty sure it's one of those situations where men just don't see it and/or don't care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of these complaints about how staying in shape and maintaining long hair are too difficult are undermined by all the times I've seen recently divorced women lose weight, grow their hair out, and generally improve their appearance. They didn't get younger or develop fewer responsibilities. They simply became motivated.

Don't be ridiculous, of course there is fewer responsibilities. No more cooking for a man, no more laundry, free evenings...OF COURSE there's more time.

Single mothers have more time? And not just more time - but so much more time that it's "ridiculous" to think otherwise. That's a revelation.

I dunno about your life. My husband is about to travel for a week and I know I'll have massively more time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I don't speak for other guys, but I can't remember the last time I saw a woman with long hair and thought - that hair looks dry and old and makes her look worse. I've seen a lot of women with short hair and thought - that short hair makes her look worse.

So, if women are getting judged for keeping their hair long after they are, in some sense, too old for long hair; I have to think that almost all of that negative judging is coming from other women. Because I'm pretty sure it's one of those situations where men just don't see it and/or don't care.

That's because you only notice women who look good with long hair. Women with long, thinning, graying hair through which the scalp is shining brightly don't catch your eye so you believe they don't exist.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of these complaints about how staying in shape and maintaining long hair are too difficult are undermined by all the times I've seen recently divorced women lose weight, grow their hair out, and generally improve their appearance. They didn't get younger or develop fewer responsibilities. They simply became motivated.

Don't be ridiculous, of course there is fewer responsibilities. No more cooking for a man, no more laundry, free evenings...OF COURSE there's more time.

Single mothers have more time? And not just more time - but so much more time that it's "ridiculous" to think otherwise. That's a revelation.

I dunno about your life. My husband is about to travel for a week and I know I'll have massively more time.

Mine does 50% travel and I work as well. Yes, things sometimes are easier without him around. Throw in joint custody, I'm not sure what the hell I'd do with myself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All of these complaints about how staying in shape and maintaining long hair are too difficult are undermined by all the times I've seen recently divorced women lose weight, grow their hair out, and generally improve their appearance. They didn't get younger or develop fewer responsibilities. They simply became motivated.

Yup..it's called the divorce diet. I'm planning my exit and believe me you, I've lost weight, working out, wardrobe change, new tits, and a chemical peel...all on "our" time and money. I about to drop the bomb and I'm going to hit the ground running.

Good for you pp!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of these complaints about how staying in shape and maintaining long hair are too difficult are undermined by all the times I've seen recently divorced women lose weight, grow their hair out, and generally improve their appearance. They didn't get younger or develop fewer responsibilities. They simply became motivated.

Yup..it's called the divorce diet. I'm planning my exit and believe me you, I've lost weight, working out, wardrobe change, new tits, and a chemical peel...all on "our" time and money. I about to drop the bomb and I'm going to hit the ground running.

If I were your DH, I'd think you were having an affair.

Hes not that observant.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of these complaints about how staying in shape and maintaining long hair are too difficult are undermined by all the times I've seen recently divorced women lose weight, grow their hair out, and generally improve their appearance. They didn't get younger or develop fewer responsibilities. They simply became motivated.

Don't be ridiculous, of course there is fewer responsibilities. No more cooking for a man, no more laundry, free evenings...OF COURSE there's more time.

Single mothers have more time? And not just more time - but so much more time that it's "ridiculous" to think otherwise. That's a revelation.

I dunno about your life. My husband is about to travel for a week and I know I'll have massively more time.

Mine does 50% travel and I work as well. Yes, things sometimes are easier without him around. Throw in joint custody, I'm not sure what the hell I'd do with myself.

Obviously, grow your hair long and blow-dry it a la Kate Middleton every single morning.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of these complaints about how staying in shape and maintaining long hair are too difficult are undermined by all the times I've seen recently divorced women lose weight, grow their hair out, and generally improve their appearance. They didn't get younger or develop fewer responsibilities. They simply became motivated.

Yup..it's called the divorce diet. I'm planning my exit and believe me you, I've lost weight, working out, wardrobe change, new tits, and a chemical peel...all on "our" time and money. I about to drop the bomb and I'm going to hit the ground running.

You sound pretty lazy and selfish, no wonder the marriage didn't work out for you.

Men take note: be sure to pay close attention to the divorced lady's size and appearance in the months/years before her divorce.
Better believe that's her "comfort zone" size and she will be right back there soon after she's reattached.
Do NOT be fooled by her temporary "divorce diet" figure.

Fair argument about comfort zone, but lazy and selfish? It's far from lazy to work full time and get up each morning to exercise at 5am. Selfish? How?

No biggie on the marriage not working out. Looking forward to being on my own, if you can't already tell.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I don't speak for other guys, but I can't remember the last time I saw a woman with long hair and thought - that hair looks dry and old and makes her look worse. I've seen a lot of women with short hair and thought - that short hair makes her look worse.

So, if women are getting judged for keeping their hair long after they are, in some sense, too old for long hair; I have to think that almost all of that negative judging is coming from other women. Because I'm pretty sure it's one of those situations where men just don't see it and/or don't care.

That's because you only notice women who look good with long hair. Women with long, thinning, graying hair through which the scalp is shining brightly don't catch your eye so you believe they don't exist.

hah - great post, pp.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I don't speak for other guys, but I can't remember the last time I saw a woman with long hair and thought - that hair looks dry and old and makes her look worse. I've seen a lot of women with short hair and thought - that short hair makes her look worse.

So, if women are getting judged for keeping their hair long after they are, in some sense, too old for long hair; I have to think that almost all of that negative judging is coming from other women. Because I'm pretty sure it's one of those situations where men just don't see it and/or don't care.

That's because you only notice women who look good with long hair. Women with long, thinning, graying hair through which the scalp is shining brightly don't catch your eye so you believe they don't exist.

hah - great post, pp.

Ok - I'm 51, my hair is past shoulder length - middle of back, it's got volume, waves, shine, BUT I'm getting more and more gray. Sometimes when I look in the mirror I can't see it, sometimes in the sunlight you see it, sometimes it looks like highlights. Right now it's @ 10% gray, mainly in the front closest to my face. I see women who've kept the long hair with more gray - Koo Stark is a good example, she was recently in the papers vis a vis Prince Andrew. SO ... Men, what do you think of the 10% gray moving to mostly grey long hair? Dye it at some point or go with it?

[Anonymous]

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Fair argument about comfort zone, but lazy and selfish? It's far from lazy to work full time and get up each morning to exercise at 5am. Selfish? How?

No biggie on the marriage not working out. Looking forward to being on my own, if you can't already tell.

Your 5am gym schedule is recent and your sole motivation is to look good after divorce.
Clearly you are able to diet and exercise when motivated.
But I'd say that also makes you lazy and selfish during a relationship, since apparently you gain weight, and don't much care, until the relationship ends and you need to look good (briefly) again while on the market.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Fair argument about comfort zone, but lazy and selfish? It's far from lazy to work full time and get up each morning to exercise at 5am. Selfish? How?

No biggie on the marriage not working out. Looking forward to being on my own, if you can't already tell.

Your 5am gym schedule is recent and your sole motivation is to look good after divorce.
Clearly you are able to diet and exercise when motivated.
But I'd say that also makes you lazy and selfish during a relationship, since apparently you gain weight, and don't much care, until the relationship ends and you need to look good (briefly) again while on the market.

NP here. Oh go away. There are more obese white men in the US than women, by a huge margin. There's not even much out there worth looking good for...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Fair argument about comfort zone, but lazy and selfish? It's far from lazy to work full time and get up each morning to exercise at 5am. Selfish? How?

No biggie on the marriage not working out. Looking forward to being on my own, if you can't already tell.

Your 5am gym schedule is recent and your sole motivation is to look good after divorce.
Clearly you are able to diet and exercise when motivated.
But I'd say that also makes you lazy and selfish during a relationship, since apparently you gain weight, and don't much care, until the relationship ends and you need to look good (briefly) again while on the market.

Your getting a bit carried away, did your ouija board tell you that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok - I'm 51, my hair is past shoulder length - middle of back, it's got volume, waves, shine, BUT I'm getting more and more gray. Sometimes when I look in the mirror I can't see it, sometimes in the sunlight you see it, sometimes it looks like highlights. Right now it's @ 10% gray, mainly in the front closest to my face. I see women who've kept the long hair with more gray - Koo Stark is a good example, she was recently in the papers vis a vis Prince Andrew. SO ... Men, what do you think of the 10% gray moving to mostly grey long hair? Dye it at some point or go with it?

Longer is hotter, short makes you look older. Not-gray makes you look hotter as well. 10%? We're guys; we see blue and green, not turquoise and aqua-marine and 18 other things.