I can't handle the competition at K

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you love your daughter, you don't think the school recognizes what's special about her, and you think that the kid who got the award is far less deserving and a bully to boot (and apparently you're not too crazy about the little girl's family either).

Each and every child is special and should be treated as an individual.

I don't know who deserves this award. These are all kids who are just learning to function in the new system. I was in the room with them today and they're all great kids, I couldn't pick one over the other, they're all different and wonderful in his/her own way.

The girl who won the award deserves to some extent. She tries very very hard to do things perfectly and follows teacher's instructions to a tee. But she's not better than other kids in her class. She has issues and has to learn that her friends are not her possessions and she cannot control them. Knowing her family, I can tell she's picking up the dominating behavior at home. Which I find troubling for my DD, because I don't want her to be around such personalities.

I'll look into the best option for my DD. I think we should close this thread since there is no more to add.

Priceless - OP wants us to close the thread because she can't handle the fact that everyone doesn't agree with her. Hoo boy!

[Anonymous]

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However, he is well mannered and loves his teacher. Pleasing the teacher pleases him. He likes to achieve and get praise by both his teachers and parents.
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Well, I don't want my DC to please other people for a praise. I definitely do not.

[Anonymous]

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If your child is average, does not speak up, does not try to please the teacher, etc., she probably won't be winning any awards. That is fine too.

And that's fine. I just don't want her to think that the teacher prefers different children and she's not good enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
However, he is well mannered and loves his teacher. Pleasing the teacher pleases him. He likes to achieve and get praise by both his teachers and parents.
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Well, I don't want my DC to please other people for a praise. I definitely do not.

Oh hi, OP - you're back!! Read some research on early childhood development. Children NEED praise and positive reinforcement. It doesn't make them "sheep" or whatever other nonsense you need to make up to justify your irrational "arguments." Unlike you, early childhood teachers have studied this research. But of course you think you know better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
If your child is average, does not speak up, does not try to please the teacher, etc., she probably won't be winning any awards. That is fine too.

And that's fine. I just don't want her to think that the teacher prefers different children and she's not good enough.

Do you think that when Larla is an adult on the job that she will be treated the same as all of her co-workers by her boss? No. If you can't understand this now and help Larla understand how the world works, you are setting her up to be as insecure as you are.

Plus, which is it - do you need Larla to be praised by the teacher so she will feel "good enough" and "preferred" by him/her, or are you teaching her not to care? Just one more example of your muddled thinking.

[Anonymous]

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OP, just to put your behavior in this thread out there for you to see, you certainly DID call the other girl a "psychopath," if not directly than certainly by suggestion. You can't keep your stories straight here and you are demonizing a FIVE YEAR OLD CHILD who is still learning social skills, just like your daughter is. You need to take a hard look at yourself and figure out why you are having these utterly irrational, over the top reactions, and ask yourself what you think you are gaining for yourself and your daughter in the process.

My opinion is that the other little girl's family would do well to stop socializing with YOU.

I'm not calling the girl psychopath. I'm talking about a school system that encourages certain behavior - people pleasing and obedience and traits while quiet, introverted kids who play to their own drum get lost in there.

I think it's best if we stop socializing with that family because it's starting to look unhealthy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

OP, just to put your behavior in this thread out there for you to see, you certainly DID call the other girl a "psychopath," if not directly than certainly by suggestion. You can't keep your stories straight here and you are demonizing a FIVE YEAR OLD CHILD who is still learning social skills, just like your daughter is. You need to take a hard look at yourself and figure out why you are having these utterly irrational, over the top reactions, and ask yourself what you think you are gaining for yourself and your daughter in the process.

My opinion is that the other little girl's family would do well to stop socializing with YOU.

I'm not calling the girl psychopath. I'm talking about a school system that encourages certain behavior - people pleasing and obedience and traits while quiet, introverted kids who play to their own drum get lost in there.

I think it's best if we stop socializing with that family because it's starting to look unhealthy.

You are so full of shit, OP.

[Anonymous]

As a teacher, I tried very hard to show no preferences. But, teachers are people. Do you know the kids that annoyed me the most? The ones who were constantly demanding attention at the expense of the other kids in the class.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

OP, just to put your behavior in this thread out there for you to see, you certainly DID call the other girl a "psychopath," if not directly than certainly by suggestion. You can't keep your stories straight here and you are demonizing a FIVE YEAR OLD CHILD who is still learning social skills, just like your daughter is. You need to take a hard look at yourself and figure out why you are having these utterly irrational, over the top reactions, and ask yourself what you think you are gaining for yourself and your daughter in the process.

My opinion is that the other little girl's family would do well to stop socializing with YOU.

I'm not calling the girl psychopath. I'm talking about a school system that encourages certain behavior - people pleasing and obedience and traits while quiet, introverted kids who play to their own drum get lost in there.

And you know this after 2 months in kindergarten? Quiet, introverted kids succeed in school ALL THE TIME. I guess the difference is that those kids have parents who know how to support them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

OP, just to put your behavior in this thread out there for you to see, you certainly DID call the other girl a "psychopath," if not directly than certainly by suggestion. You can't keep your stories straight here and you are demonizing a FIVE YEAR OLD CHILD who is still learning social skills, just like your daughter is. You need to take a hard look at yourself and figure out why you are having these utterly irrational, over the top reactions, and ask yourself what you think you are gaining for yourself and your daughter in the process.

My opinion is that the other little girl's family would do well to stop socializing with YOU.

I'm not calling the girl psychopath. I'm talking about a school system that encourages certain behavior - people pleasing and obedience and traits while quiet, introverted kids who play to their own drum get lost in there.

And you know this after 2 months in kindergarten? Quiet, introverted kids succeed in school ALL THE TIME. I guess the difference is that those kids have parents who know how to support them.

Agreed. I would love to know what the "psychopath" who started this thread thinks the school/teacher should be doing, exactly, for her kid.

[Anonymous]

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Or how clueless YOU are. I too have a 5yo who just started K, and I don't believe every single thing that comes out of his mouth, because I know my child is prone to drama and that his reactions to things are not always the same as what actually happened or are not proportional to the situation. Instead of demonizing children and parents I don't know, and assuming that the teachers are incompetent idiots, I try to help my child work through his feelings and understand that life isn't fair and people aren't always nice but that you always have control over your own actions/reactions. A lesson YOU would do well to learn.

Thanks for the advice. Next time my child complains of bullying I'll say:
1. I don't believe you.
And
2. Life is not fair.

Awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Or how clueless YOU are. I too have a 5yo who just started K, and I don't believe every single thing that comes out of his mouth, because I know my child is prone to drama and that his reactions to things are not always the same as what actually happened or are not proportional to the situation. Instead of demonizing children and parents I don't know, and assuming that the teachers are incompetent idiots, I try to help my child work through his feelings and understand that life isn't fair and people aren't always nice but that you always have control over your own actions/reactions. A lesson YOU would do well to learn.

Thanks for the advice. Next time my child complains of bullying I'll say:
1. I don't believe you.
And
2. Life is not fair.

Awesome.

Yeah, THAT'S what I said. I have a hard time you are an adult parent. You write and think like a 12 year old child whose pre-frontal cortex is barely developed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Or how clueless YOU are. I too have a 5yo who just started K, and I don't believe every single thing that comes out of his mouth, because I know my child is prone to drama and that his reactions to things are not always the same as what actually happened or are not proportional to the situation. Instead of demonizing children and parents I don't know, and assuming that the teachers are incompetent idiots, I try to help my child work through his feelings and understand that life isn't fair and people aren't always nice but that you always have control over your own actions/reactions. A lesson YOU would do well to learn.

Thanks for the advice. Next time my child complains of bullying I'll say:
1. I don't believe you.
And
2. Life is not fair.

Awesome.

OP, I don't understand why you're still spending time on this thread on DCUM, arguing with anonymous posters, instead of focusing on getting your child out of this clearly intolerable situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Or how clueless YOU are. I too have a 5yo who just started K, and I don't believe every single thing that comes out of his mouth, because I know my child is prone to drama and that his reactions to things are not always the same as what actually happened or are not proportional to the situation. Instead of demonizing children and parents I don't know, and assuming that the teachers are incompetent idiots, I try to help my child work through his feelings and understand that life isn't fair and people aren't always nice but that you always have control over your own actions/reactions. A lesson YOU would do well to learn.

Thanks for the advice. Next time my child complains of bullying I'll say:
1. I don't believe you.
And
2. Life is not fair.

Awesome.

OP, I don't understand why you're still spending time on this thread on DCUM, arguing with anonymous posters, instead of focusing on getting your child out of this clearly intolerable situation.

It's only intolerable because OP's brain isn't wired straight. I'm sure her child is actually fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Plus, which is it - do you need Larla to be praised by the teacher so she will feel "good enough" and "preferred" by him/her, or are you teaching her not to care? Just one more example of your muddled thinking.

Don't you see? I'm teaching her that she's great the way she is while the school is teaching her that she's not fitting their cookie cutter.