H is not happy with sex only once a week

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Anonymous wrote:Ah, people and their statistics to prove why they don't need to up their sex game. The low drive partners will grasp at ANYTHING to not only not have sex, but to suggest they're normal for being that way.

They are normal for being that way. They aren't a good match for their high drive partner (who is also normal). "Normal" covers a lot of ground.

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Anonymous wrote:Saying so doesn't make it so.

I'd say that a high drive spouse who is obsessed with sucking and fucking like he/she is 20, when he/she is really 40, is a pervert and a freak who should be engaged in more productive adult past times. That doesn't make it so, though.

Pissing away your marriage with all of the financial issues and kid issues involved is not the best idea. Doing it because you are trying to recapture the sex life you had in your 20s is folly.

That's just the thing, I didn't have sex when I was 20. I got married at 27, very inexperienced. Now, at almost 40, I do not think I can live with only vanilla sex for the rest of my marriage. There's so much more out there that I never even knew existed. And what is a more productive adult pastime? I'd rather have sex than watch TV, surf the 'net or drink. Is that wrong?

If that's your definition of "productive," then you are not just wrong, you're socially retarded. No wonder you didn't have sex until you were 27.

I work 45 hours a week and am raising two children. Is that what you think is more important and incompatible with sex at 40?

You need a hobby. Have you considered gardening?

I would like sex to be my hobby (I do volunteer and exercise also).

You should ask your wife to swing, then. She can hang out by the buffet while you get it on.

Why do you assume the poster is a man? I'm a woman who enjoys sex with my spouse, but don't need to swing. He's ready to go at it whenever I am.

Why are you people so scared of sexual people? they hit SUCH a nerve every time. Why so concerned with people who consider sex fun and not s a chore?

[Anonymous]

Agree with PP. There is no reason to be scared or embarrassed when it comes to sex. Especially when you are an adult.

I have a friend whose wife is a very sexual person. After a few drinks, once in a while she'll let something slip about her preferences or toys. Her husband gets very uncomfortable and sometimes upset. I want to tell him: "Calm down. She is yours and she makes it sound like you guys have a great sex life. Embrace it man. Because there are guys out there wishing they were getting it once a week and weren't the ones always initiating."

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I would say that there are more women over-30 who are the high-drive partners. A lot of men start slowing down after their 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say that there are more women over-30 who are the high-drive partners. A lot of men start slowing down after their 20s.

I don't know whose those guys are. But I'd be good with once a day and I'm in my mid 30s

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Anonymous wrote:Saying so doesn't make it so.

I'd say that a high drive spouse who is obsessed with sucking and fucking like he/she is 20, when he/she is really 40, is a pervert and a freak who should be engaged in more productive adult past times. That doesn't make it so, though.

Pissing away your marriage with all of the financial issues and kid issues involved is not the best idea. Doing it because you are trying to recapture the sex life you had in your 20s is folly.

That's just the thing, I didn't have sex when I was 20. I got married at 27, very inexperienced. Now, at almost 40, I do not think I can live with only vanilla sex for the rest of my marriage. There's so much more out there that I never even knew existed. And what is a more productive adult pastime? I'd rather have sex than watch TV, surf the 'net or drink. Is that wrong?

If that's your definition of "productive," then you are not just wrong, you're socially retarded. No wonder you didn't have sex until you were 27.

I work 45 hours a week and am raising two children. Is that what you think is more important and incompatible with sex at 40?

You need a hobby. Have you considered gardening?

I would like sex to be my hobby (I do volunteer and exercise also).

You should ask your wife to swing, then. She can hang out by the buffet while you get it on.

Why do you assume the poster is a man? I'm a woman who enjoys sex with my spouse, but don't need to swing. He's ready to go at it whenever I am.

Why are you people so scared of sexual people? they hit SUCH a nerve every time. Why so concerned with people who consider sex fun and not s a chore?

I'm not scared of sexual people. I just get annoyed when they yell at other people for NOT being highly sexual. Go. Have fun. Ask your husband to swing.

PP reminds me of one of my more annoying sorority sisters, who was very, very Christian and called me a slut on a pretty regular basis, and who then went hog wild in her late 20s and wanted to lecture everyone else about how great sex is.

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Anonymous wrote:Saying so doesn't make it so.

I'd say that a high drive spouse who is obsessed with sucking and fucking like he/she is 20, when he/she is really 40, is a pervert and a freak who should be engaged in more productive adult past times. That doesn't make it so, though.

Pissing away your marriage with all of the financial issues and kid issues involved is not the best idea. Doing it because you are trying to recapture the sex life you had in your 20s is folly.

That's just the thing, I didn't have sex when I was 20. I got married at 27, very inexperienced. Now, at almost 40, I do not think I can live with only vanilla sex for the rest of my marriage. There's so much more out there that I never even knew existed. And what is a more productive adult pastime? I'd rather have sex than watch TV, surf the 'net or drink. Is that wrong?

If that's your definition of "productive," then you are not just wrong, you're socially retarded. No wonder you didn't have sex until you were 27.

I work 45 hours a week and am raising two children. Is that what you think is more important and incompatible with sex at 40?

You need a hobby. Have you considered gardening?

I would like sex to be my hobby (I do volunteer and exercise also).

You should ask your wife to swing, then. She can hang out by the buffet while you get it on.

Why do you assume the poster is a man? I'm a woman who enjoys sex with my spouse, but don't need to swing. He's ready to go at it whenever I am.

Why are you people so scared of sexual people? they hit SUCH a nerve every time. Why so concerned with people who consider sex fun and not s a chore?

I'm not scared of sexual people. I just get annoyed when they yell at other people for NOT being highly sexual. Go. Have fun. Ask your husband to swing.

PP reminds me of one of my more annoying sorority sisters, who was very, very Christian and called me a slut on a pretty regular basis, and who then went hog wild in her late 20s and wanted to lecture everyone else about how great sex is.

See your insecurity is really glaring right now. That poster was not yelling or even patronizing people who are low drive. You are reading it that way because you are uncomfortable right now.

YOU called him or her "socially retarded" that cheap shot came out of NOWHERE completely unprovoked. Maybe you had a college flashback...I dunno.

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Anonymous wrote:Saying so doesn't make it so.

I'd say that a high drive spouse who is obsessed with sucking and fucking like he/she is 20, when he/she is really 40, is a pervert and a freak who should be engaged in more productive adult past times. That doesn't make it so, though.

Pissing away your marriage with all of the financial issues and kid issues involved is not the best idea. Doing it because you are trying to recapture the sex life you had in your 20s is folly.

That's just the thing, I didn't have sex when I was 20. I got married at 27, very inexperienced. Now, at almost 40, I do not think I can live with only vanilla sex for the rest of my marriage. There's so much more out there that I never even knew existed. And what is a more productive adult pastime? I'd rather have sex than watch TV, surf the 'net or drink. Is that wrong?

If that's your definition of "productive," then you are not just wrong, you're socially retarded. No wonder you didn't have sex until you were 27.

I work 45 hours a week and am raising two children. Is that what you think is more important and incompatible with sex at 40?

You need a hobby. Have you considered gardening?

I would like sex to be my hobby (I do volunteer and exercise also).

You should ask your wife to swing, then. She can hang out by the buffet while you get it on.

Why do you assume the poster is a man? I'm a woman who enjoys sex with my spouse, but don't need to swing. He's ready to go at it whenever I am.

Why are you people so scared of sexual people? they hit SUCH a nerve every time. Why so concerned with people who consider sex fun and not s a chore?

I'm not scared of sexual people. I just get annoyed when they yell at other people for NOT being highly sexual. Go. Have fun. Ask your husband to swing.

PP reminds me of one of my more annoying sorority sisters, who was very, very Christian and called me a slut on a pretty regular basis, and who then went hog wild in her late 20s and wanted to lecture everyone else about how great sex is.

LOL, you are a woman, why does that not shock me?

[Anonymous]

np here. I'm not going ot read 14 pages of the same old boring argument. I just want to ask if OP has figured out yet that her husband has already cheated.

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Anonymous wrote:Saying so doesn't make it so.

I'd say that a high drive spouse who is obsessed with sucking and fucking like he/she is 20, when he/she is really 40, is a pervert and a freak who should be engaged in more productive adult past times. That doesn't make it so, though.

Pissing away your marriage with all of the financial issues and kid issues involved is not the best idea. Doing it because you are trying to recapture the sex life you had in your 20s is folly.

That's just the thing, I didn't have sex when I was 20. I got married at 27, very inexperienced. Now, at almost 40, I do not think I can live with only vanilla sex for the rest of my marriage. There's so much more out there that I never even knew existed. And what is a more productive adult pastime? I'd rather have sex than watch TV, surf the 'net or drink. Is that wrong?

If that's your definition of "productive," then you are not just wrong, you're socially retarded. No wonder you didn't have sex until you were 27.

I work 45 hours a week and am raising two children. Is that what you think is more important and incompatible with sex at 40?

You need a hobby. Have you considered gardening?

I would like sex to be my hobby (I do volunteer and exercise also).

You should ask your wife to swing, then. She can hang out by the buffet while you get it on.

I'm a womam (heterosexual too).

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I'd like to know why everyone assumes all the high drive posters are men. Several of us have already explained we're women.

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Anonymous wrote:Saying so doesn't make it so.

I'd say that a high drive spouse who is obsessed with sucking and fucking like he/she is 20, when he/she is really 40, is a pervert and a freak who should be engaged in more productive adult past times. That doesn't make it so, though.

Pissing away your marriage with all of the financial issues and kid issues involved is not the best idea. Doing it because you are trying to recapture the sex life you had in your 20s is folly.

That's just the thing, I didn't have sex when I was 20. I got married at 27, very inexperienced. Now, at almost 40, I do not think I can live with only vanilla sex for the rest of my marriage. There's so much more out there that I never even knew existed. And what is a more productive adult pastime? I'd rather have sex than watch TV, surf the 'net or drink. Is that wrong?

If that's your definition of "productive," then you are not just wrong, you're socially retarded. No wonder you didn't have sex until you were 27.

I work 45 hours a week and am raising two children. Is that what you think is more important and incompatible with sex at 40?

You need a hobby. Have you considered gardening?

I would like sex to be my hobby (I do volunteer and exercise also).

You should ask your wife to swing, then. She can hang out by the buffet while you get it on.

Why do you assume the poster is a man? I'm a woman who enjoys sex with my spouse, but don't need to swing. He's ready to go at it whenever I am.

Why are you people so scared of sexual people? they hit SUCH a nerve every time. Why so concerned with people who consider sex fun and not s a chore?

I'm not scared of sexual people. I just get annoyed when they yell at other people for NOT being highly sexual. Go. Have fun. Ask your husband to swing.

PP reminds me of one of my more annoying sorority sisters, who was very, very Christian and called me a slut on a pretty regular basis, and who then went hog wild in her late 20s and wanted to lecture everyone else about how great sex is.

See your insecurity is really glaring right now. That poster was not yelling or even patronizing people who are low drive. You are reading it that way because you are uncomfortable right now.

YOU called him or her "socially retarded" that cheap shot came out of NOWHERE completely unprovoked. Maybe you had a college flashback...I dunno.

Not really. Most of the high drive people on this thread are socially retarded. (Back to this again). Their sexual needs are on the high end of normal. Rather than recognizing that and trying to find someone to match their needs or find a compromise with their current partner, they are stomping their feet and insisting there is something wrong with their lower drive partners. That kind of whiney, entitled behavior is not going to begin to get them what they want, but even the mention of compromise sends them into another round of recrimination.

I'm not surprised that so many of the high drive posters on this thread are women. Women tend to feel especially entitled sexually. God forbid a guy tell a woman "no."

[Anonymous]

I am not socially retarded. I'm sure my lower drive H is still within the lower range of normal. Who cares? It may be normal but it doesn't work for me.

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Anonymous wrote:Saying so doesn't make it so.

I'd say that a high drive spouse who is obsessed with sucking and fucking like he/she is 20, when he/she is really 40, is a pervert and a freak who should be engaged in more productive adult past times. That doesn't make it so, though.

Pissing away your marriage with all of the financial issues and kid issues involved is not the best idea. Doing it because you are trying to recapture the sex life you had in your 20s is folly.

That's just the thing, I didn't have sex when I was 20. I got married at 27, very inexperienced. Now, at almost 40, I do not think I can live with only vanilla sex for the rest of my marriage. There's so much more out there that I never even knew existed. And what is a more productive adult pastime? I'd rather have sex than watch TV, surf the 'net or drink. Is that wrong?

If that's your definition of "productive," then you are not just wrong, you're socially retarded. No wonder you didn't have sex until you were 27.

I work 45 hours a week and am raising two children. Is that what you think is more important and incompatible with sex at 40?

You need a hobby. Have you considered gardening?

I would like sex to be my hobby (I do volunteer and exercise also).

You should ask your wife to swing, then. She can hang out by the buffet while you get it on.

Why do you assume the poster is a man? I'm a woman who enjoys sex with my spouse, but don't need to swing. He's ready to go at it whenever I am.

Why are you people so scared of sexual people? they hit SUCH a nerve every time. Why so concerned with people who consider sex fun and not s a chore?

I'm not scared of sexual people. I just get annoyed when they yell at other people for NOT being highly sexual. Go. Have fun. Ask your husband to swing.

PP reminds me of one of my more annoying sorority sisters, who was very, very Christian and called me a slut on a pretty regular basis, and who then went hog wild in her late 20s and wanted to lecture everyone else about how great sex is.

See your insecurity is really glaring right now. That poster was not yelling or even patronizing people who are low drive. You are reading it that way because you are uncomfortable right now.

YOU called him or her "socially retarded" that cheap shot came out of NOWHERE completely unprovoked. Maybe you had a college flashback...I dunno.

Not really. Most of the high drive people on this thread are socially retarded. (Back to this again). Their sexual needs are on the high end of normal. Rather than recognizing that and trying to find someone to match their needs or find a compromise with their current partner, they are stomping their feet and insisting there is something wrong with their lower drive partners. That kind of whiney, entitled behavior is not going to begin to get them what they want, but even the mention of compromise sends them into another round of recrimination.

I'm not surprised that so many of the high drive posters on this thread are women. Women tend to feel especially entitled sexually. God forbid a guy tell a woman "no."

Please bold in this exact thread that I'm quoting where what you are saying is true. You seem very agressive and agitated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not socially retarded. I'm sure my lower drive H is still within the lower range of normal. Who cares? It may be normal but it doesn't work for me.

Why did you marry him then?

Oh, yeah... because you didn't have any experience! Now you blame him because you didn't take the time to get to know your own needs when you were in college.

Completely socially retarded.