Taking shoes off inside your home - are you offended?

[Anonymous]

I keep picturing those moms from 1950s sitcoms vacuuming in pearls and heels. Would that be pretty much a wash for most of the posters on this thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our family takes our shoes off when we get home. I am Asian (though I don't think that's relevant) - and have grown up this way and quite frankly, it grosses me out to think that the shoes you walk into public restrooms with would be inside your home. So we always take our shoes off once we are in the door.

Our close friends know the drill, and we don't need to ask. But when we have neighbors or friends we don't know as well stop by, I always feel weird asking them to take off their shoes.

If you don't normally do this, are you offended when you get asked to take off your shoes?
Is there a "polite" way to ask this of our guests?

Thanks for your thoughts!

I think its not respectful to ask someone to take their shoes off especially if you are invited for a party and wearing nice dress.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our family takes our shoes off when we get home. I am Asian (though I don't think that's relevant) - and have grown up this way and quite frankly, it grosses me out to think that the shoes you walk into public restrooms with would be inside your home. So we always take our shoes off once we are in the door.

Our close friends know the drill, and we don't need to ask. But when we have neighbors or friends we don't know as well stop by, I always feel weird asking them to take off their shoes.

If you don't normally do this, are you offended when you get asked to take off your shoes?
Is there a "polite" way to ask this of our guests?

Thanks for your thoughts!

I think its not respectful to ask someone to take their shoes off especially if you are invited for a party and wearing nice dress.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our family takes our shoes off when we get home. I am Asian (though I don't think that's relevant) - and have grown up this way and quite frankly, it grosses me out to think that the shoes you walk into public restrooms with would be inside your home. So we always take our shoes off once we are in the door.

Our close friends know the drill, and we don't need to ask. But when we have neighbors or friends we don't know as well stop by, I always feel weird asking them to take off their shoes.

If you don't normally do this, are you offended when you get asked to take off your shoes?
Is there a "polite" way to ask this of our guests?

Thanks for your thoughts!

I think its not respectful to ask someone to take their shoes off especially if you are invited for a party and wearing nice dress.

there is no mention of a party.

way to create your own scenario.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did so willingly, but of course, my pants, minus the heels, dragged on his hardwood floors, which were FILTHY! Ruined the suit. So...if you do ask people

Buy pants that are the right size
if you cannot do that, roll your sleaves up.
if you love your socks too much, take them off too

wash the pants in a hot cycle and hopefully they will shrink, or take the hem up yourself

or take the pants back to the store because they do not fit you, and you had thought that you were taller than what you are when you bought them

No need to be such a toad, nanny; I merely said if you ask folks to take off shoes, either have a clean house or tell people in advance. You have a problem with those simple requests? I am dying to know what you are like in real person. I mean, are you being sincere with these messages? If so, you're mental. But if you are a troll posting this stuff for your own comedy, I've got to hand it to you, you've got a keen sense of the absurd.

Anyway, lunatic friend, my pants fit precisely the way they were supposed to fit. I intend to wear them with heels. I have other pants that I intend to wear with flats. When I dress up, I like a heel, which is a choice and not a tailoring deficiency. When I take the heels off, they no longer fit the way they are supposed to fit. Now, you don't really mean to imply I ought to go so far as to hem my trousers for the convenience of the dingdong who mistakenly thinks my shoes were dirtier than his filthy floors? In my desire for brevity in my earlier post, I declined to mention that Mr. Shoes Off has a kitty cat. And the cat litter is in the bathroom, and kitty likes to kick the litter out, apparently, because it was tracked all over the house. I was not wearing socks underneat my stilettos, which was too bad, because when I went to put my shoes back on I had to unpeel a kernel of cat litter from the ball of my foot first. Nothing against kitty, of course, but that is really not my idea of a party.

I'm surprised I didn't ring in the new year with a nasty case of athlete's foot!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Anyway, lunatic friend, my pants fit precisely the way they were supposed to fit. I intend to wear them with heels. I have other pants that I intend to wear with flats. When I dress up, I like a heel, which is a choice and not a tailoring deficiency. When I take the heels off, they no longer fit the way they are supposed to fit.

Lunatic friend here.
Congratulations for buying the right size pants.
In the future, consider rolling your pants hem up, or telling the friend what wonderful pants you have and how you cannot take your shoes off.
Or, do not visit that friend.

Has no-one considered refusing to take off shoes? The request is taken as God's Word that THOU shalt not DISOBEY. That is why people are fighting, right?
So what is so wrong with refusing?
Or rolling up the hem of the pants?

I am totally confused, I do not visit the homes of DCUM folks. Please enlighten me

[Anonymous]

Why do DCUM posters love the word McMansions? Is that to cover up for their lack of manners? Does it make them feel better?

I wouldn't dream of entering a new home with shoes, nor would I walk in with shoes if there are shoes by the door. Take a hint!

[Anonymous]

Haven't read through all the pages but is asking someone to take off their shoes similar to asking them not to smoke in your home?

[Anonymous]

Well, I do as I am asked, but generally don't take my shoes off. I get cold. (Will I get some slippers to wear?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Anyway, lunatic friend, my pants fit precisely the way they were supposed to fit. I intend to wear them with heels. I have other pants that I intend to wear with flats. When I dress up, I like a heel, which is a choice and not a tailoring deficiency. When I take the heels off, they no longer fit the way they are supposed to fit.

Lunatic friend here.
Congratulations for buying the right size pants.
In the future, consider rolling your pants hem up, or telling the friend what wonderful pants you have and how you cannot take your shoes off.
Or, do not visit that friend.

Has no-one considered refusing to take off shoes? The request is taken as God's Word that THOU shalt not DISOBEY. That is why people are fighting, right?
So what is so wrong with refusing?
Or rolling up the hem of the pants?

I am totally confused, I do not visit the homes of DCUM folks. Please enlighten me

Dear lunatic - are you stupid? Roll up my pants? Are you serious? I have pants that are properly hemmed and fit to my size - with heels. The materials will not stay cuffed and would look stupid cuffed. I'm supposed to walk around re-cuffing or looking ridiculous b/c someone can't deal with the fact that I'm walking on their floors. Unless you live in a museum, floors are meant to be walked on. Actually, in museums they are too. Here's a hint: after people walk on your floors, clean up. Better yet, just don't entertain.

As for refusing, that's a delicate matter and not quite as easy as you state. But you know that.

[Anonymous]

OP, I have not read everything, but my husband is disabled, and taking off shoes is a big big problem. What would you ask that he do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have not read everything, but my husband is disabled, and taking off shoes is a big big problem. What would you ask that he do?

Is he in a wheelchair? Clearly, he should just roll his wheels up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Anyway, lunatic friend, my pants fit precisely the way they were supposed to fit. I intend to wear them with heels. I have other pants that I intend to wear with flats. When I dress up, I like a heel, which is a choice and not a tailoring deficiency. When I take the heels off, they no longer fit the way they are supposed to fit.

Lunatic friend here.
Congratulations for buying the right size pants.
In the future, consider rolling your pants hem up, or telling the friend what wonderful pants you have and how you cannot take your shoes off.
Or, do not visit that friend.

Has no-one considered refusing to take off shoes? The request is taken as God's Word that THOU shalt not DISOBEY. That is why people are fighting, right?
So what is so wrong with refusing?
Or rolling up the hem of the pants?

I am totally confused, I do not visit the homes of DCUM folks. Please enlighten me

Loonie tunes,

Next time I will rely upon your sage advice and tell my friend that my pants are more wonderful than his floors. It is, after all, nothing less than the truth. As for rolling up my hem to accomodate his delusions about cleanliness, as another poster mentioned, floors are designed to be walked on but my wonderful pants, are not designed to be rolled. I won't be visiting his house again either way!

In any case, I'm sure most folks who ask people to remove their shoes are not as gross as this person was, but still. What if a person was wearing sandals? Must they walk around in their bare feet in a person's house? And I mean, who wins there, anyway? Multiple strangers walking around barefoot is not exactly clean and hygenic. I personally would prefer scuff marks over a wicked case of athlete's foot, but maybe that's just me. And of course, it's not like shoes in the house are really going to do that much damage anyway, now, are they?

And really, how well would "I'd rather not," go over? Most of us try to be polite, so when I was asked to take off my shoes, I did. I also made a mental note to never go back there again, and we haven't. Neither have about 90 percent of the others he invited to the party, and everyone still talks about the time he made us take off his shoes and walk all over the cat litter.

[Anonymous]

Haven't read through all the pages but is asking someone to take off their shoes similar to asking them not to smoke in your home?

It's like putting plastic covers on your furniture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
And really, how well would "I'd rather not," go over? Most of us try to be polite, so when I was asked to take off my shoes, I did. I also made a mental note to never go back there again, and we haven't. Neither have about 90 percent of the others he invited to the party, and everyone still talks about the time he made us take off his shoes and walk all over the cat litter.

I do not understand. You are willing to sacrifice a friendship because you do not want to be blunt, and then turn around and talk about this person behind his/her back.
All of that is OK, but it is not OK to be blunt.

All this in the name of being polite.
Me thinks you do not know what polite means