Love is Blind - Season 10

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Anonymous wrote:About Bri and Connor. I thought she was very honest. Too honest, maybe, but I don't think it's crazy to want to be with a man who lives like a grownup and has ambitions. He's a really good guy, but that doesn't mean they're compatible. My hope with them is that they continue to date, and he makes a modest effort to level up and she makes a modest effort to "level down." I wouldn't rule out their meeting in the middle and finding a way to make it work. But the disparities are too big right now to go to the altar. Maybe too big, period, but time will tell.

Objectively speaking, Connor dresses well, takes good care of himself, he has a FT good job and he owns a house. She is not doing better than him as their salaries are in the same ballpark, and she does not look better than him but she thinks she is better than him. And like most single women v. most single men, she cares more about decorating her house and about fashion.

So I think her put down was not actually "honest". It was cruel, twisted and just poor awareness of what a good man actually is. What she wants is the fake rich, big baller, all-talk superficial persona of the crypto bro "alpha" male type. Look at a guy like Chris: sure, his place looks nice. He is tens of thousands of dollars in debt and stays at the Four Seasons on credit. Ultimately it's her loss.

Agree, and the whole masculinity discussion is so dumb. Connor seems like an actual masculine man, doing a traditional man's job. Why should he dominate? He seems strong but also caring and living in reality. Most importantly he's not trying to be anything he's not.

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Anonymous wrote:Chris is just so terrible and disgusting. I predict he won’t go to the reunion b/c he comes across so irredeemable in this show. Unless he thinks coming with a [calculated] mea culpa will help his reputation, he ain’t coming. He is manipulative so maybe he thinks he can manage to look contrite. He’s the worst.

OMG!!! He tried to seduce a woman who was in a loving relationship with, “we could have been f&ck buddies.”

And the fact that he would take her to an expensive hotel. Is he used to impressing prostitutes??

She was completely into it right up until he said “f*** buddies”
Her face changed instantly from feeling flattered and turned on to feeling insulted.

Connor is too good for both of them

I don't know what episode you were watching. She was physically cringing away from him when he said he could have turned it up in the pods and won her over. There was a nervous laugh at one point but she was *not* completely into it.

Watch it back again.
She was not cringing. She was sailing “yeah” and “I know” waaaaay too much for a girl who claimed that she thought what he was saying was inappropriate .
She stayed to listen to his smarmy pitch way too long. And it was only after he said the phrase “f$&# buddies” that she physically recoiled.

+100.

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Anonymous wrote:Can we talk about Emma’s sister who has kids and claims to love that she has kids but then says if she got to the end of life and had the chance to do it all over she would not have the kids?
Uummmmm. Girl. It’s one thing to say that to your therapist or even in a private confessional moment to your close girlfriends, but this was on TV! Those children you have are actual people who are going to see this one day.
Keep those inside thoughts INSIDE.

One of the most damaging things to a person’s self worth is feeling that you are unwanted and unloved by your own mother. She may think that that isn’t what she was expressing, but her kids won’t see it that way. And it’s such a painfully unnecessary thing to say to the world for your kids to hear. Just makes me sad for their future selves.

I think a lot of people feel that way. It's also really easy to say AFTER you have kids, because the implication would be that you get to do life "both ways". I don't think it's that bad of a comment. Parents always brag about getting to experience both CF life (before kids) and parent life (after kids). Admitting and acknowledging that parenting is hard is admirable, not shameful imo. And it IS hard! CF life, living for yourself is objectively much easier.

But still, very strange to say it that way in her 2 minutes on national TV. It's not like we got to see her and know the complexities she's dealing with.

It was a nuanced statement, and she was trying to support her sister. I have zero problem with it.

That wasn’t nuance.
That was “omg I can’t stand this life I
chose. Parenting is hard and if I had known it was this hard I would never have done it—and want a do-over….but I live my kids though”
No nuance in that.
Just heartbreak sh|t you can’t take back.

Agree, Emma’s sister really rubbed me the wrong way as well. It felt like she came in specifically with an agenda to take a controversial stance and it was extremely off putting.

Yes of course parenting young children can be tough and if she were a main character cast in in an extended reality show about being in the trenches as a young parent it would be more natural for some of those sentiments of doubt/regret to occasionally surface and for the audience to sympathize.

However as a briefly appearing supporting family member on the show, to devote 90% of her “30 seconds of fame” to complaining about the woes of being a mother and her regrets for making the choice to do so (all of which obviously will eventually be viewed by her own children) seems a poor choice.

[Anonymous]

I feel like Emma’s sister is getting too much heat. She was standing up for Emma. Mike was pressuring her throughout the pods (if I were Mike, Emma would be a huge red flag and vice versa). Even though I don’t say it in public, I feel similarly to Emma’s sister. Not every mom enjoys motherhood. Some of us have kids with special needs and cannot catch a break.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like Emma’s sister is getting too much heat. She was standing up for Emma. Mike was pressuring her throughout the pods (if I were Mike, Emma would be a huge red flag and vice versa). Even though I don’t say it in public, I feel similarly to Emma’s sister. Not every mom enjoys motherhood. Some of us have kids with special needs and cannot catch a break.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Can we talk about Emma’s sister who has kids and claims to love that she has kids but then says if she got to the end of life and had the chance to do it all over she would not have the kids?
Uummmmm. Girl. It’s one thing to say that to your therapist or even in a private confessional moment to your close girlfriends, but this was on TV! Those children you have are actual people who are going to see this one day.
Keep those inside thoughts INSIDE.

One of the most damaging things to a person’s self worth is feeling that you are unwanted and unloved by your own mother. She may think that that isn’t what she was expressing, but her kids won’t see it that way. And it’s such a painfully unnecessary thing to say to the world for your kids to hear. Just makes me sad for their future selves.

I think a lot of people feel that way. It's also really easy to say AFTER you have kids, because the implication would be that you get to do life "both ways". I don't think it's that bad of a comment. Parents always brag about getting to experience both CF life (before kids) and parent life (after kids). Admitting and acknowledging that parenting is hard is admirable, not shameful imo. And it IS hard! CF life, living for yourself is objectively much easier.

But still, very strange to say it that way in her 2 minutes on national TV. It's not like we got to see her and know the complexities she's dealing with.

It was a nuanced statement, and she was trying to support her sister. I have zero problem with it.

That wasn’t nuance.
That was “omg I can’t stand this life I
chose. Parenting is hard and if I had known it was this hard I would never have done it—and want a do-over….but I live my kids though”
No nuance in that.
Just heartbreak sh|t you can’t take back.

Agree, Emma’s sister really rubbed me the wrong way as well. It felt like she came in specifically with an agenda to take a controversial stance and it was extremely off putting.

Yes of course parenting young children can be tough and if she were a main character cast in in an extended reality show about being in the trenches as a young parent it would be more natural for some of those sentiments of doubt/regret to occasionally surface and for the audience to sympathize.

However as a briefly appearing supporting family member on the show, to devote 90% of her “30 seconds of fame” to complaining about the woes of being a mother and her regrets for making the choice to do so (all of which obviously will eventually be viewed by her own children) seems a poor choice.

You people are so clueless.
The PRODUCERS decided how many seconds of fame she would get, and what to insert in those seconds.


That sentence was less than a minute. They may have recorded her for hours. You have no idea what the gist of her remarks were. Remember that.

[Anonymous]

In the long run, Connor is better off without Bri. She is condescending and immature. Connor is actually quietly confident and stable. Nothing like Chris who is insecure and immature.

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Anonymous wrote:In the long run, Connor is better off without Bri. She is condescending and immature. Connor is actually quietly confident and stable. Nothing like Chris who is insecure and immature.

Agree - when Chris texted Bri after the party, he was like "do you want me to respond?". So, he would have stepped in. But Bri said she would handle it and he trusts her. That seems like a great response. Who wants someone who is going to throw a table at a bar when there was no immediate threat?

I bet he has so many women in his DMs right now. He will find someone great. I also think Bri is misjudging his career. Every time he says he's "blue collar" people around him snicker.

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Can we talk about her haughty better-than-you cloak top she wore for her put down speech? She also wasn’t wearing her engagement ring. I found her overbearing and obnoxious and her voice was annoyingly nasal. Another one to break up out of nowhere. Maybe she has more in common with Chris and should go for it

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Anonymous wrote:Chris is just so terrible and disgusting. I predict he won’t go to the reunion b/c he comes across so irredeemable in this show. Unless he thinks coming with a [calculated] mea culpa will help his reputation, he ain’t coming. He is manipulative so maybe he thinks he can manage to look contrite. He’s the worst.

OMG!!! He tried to seduce a woman who was in a loving relationship with, “we could have been f&ck buddies.”

And the fact that he would take her to an expensive hotel. Is he used to impressing prostitutes??

She was completely into it right up until he said “f*** buddies”
Her face changed instantly from feeling flattered and turned on to feeling insulted.

Connor is too good for both of them

I don't know what episode you were watching. She was physically cringing away from him when he said he could have turned it up in the pods and won her over. There was a nervous laugh at one point but she was *not* completely into it.

Watch it back again.
She was not cringing. She was sailing “yeah” and “I know” waaaaay too much for a girl who claimed that she thought what he was saying was inappropriate .
She stayed to listen to his smarmy pitch way too long. And it was only after he said the phrase “f$&# buddies” that she physically recoiled.

DP but I felt her uncomfort. She was leaning back, away from him, crossing her arms across herself, nervously playing with her ring. Saying "yeah..." isn't actually agreeing, it's keeping the peace with a very drunk angry man.

I actually think one of the reasons she broke up with Connor was because he didn't "protect" her here. I think she wanted him to come save her, and he didn't.

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Anonymous wrote:Can we talk about Emma’s sister who has kids and claims to love that she has kids but then says if she got to the end of life and had the chance to do it all over she would not have the kids?
Uummmmm. Girl. It’s one thing to say that to your therapist or even in a private confessional moment to your close girlfriends, but this was on TV! Those children you have are actual people who are going to see this one day.
Keep those inside thoughts INSIDE.

One of the most damaging things to a person’s self worth is feeling that you are unwanted and unloved by your own mother. She may think that that isn’t what she was expressing, but her kids won’t see it that way. And it’s such a painfully unnecessary thing to say to the world for your kids to hear. Just makes me sad for their future selves.

I think a lot of people feel that way. It's also really easy to say AFTER you have kids, because the implication would be that you get to do life "both ways". I don't think it's that bad of a comment. Parents always brag about getting to experience both CF life (before kids) and parent life (after kids). Admitting and acknowledging that parenting is hard is admirable, not shameful imo. And it IS hard! CF life, living for yourself is objectively much easier.

But still, very strange to say it that way in her 2 minutes on national TV. It's not like we got to see her and know the complexities she's dealing with.

It was a nuanced statement, and she was trying to support her sister. I have zero problem with it.

That wasn’t nuance.
That was “omg I can’t stand this life I
chose. Parenting is hard and if I had known it was this hard I would never have done it—and want a do-over….but I live my kids though”
No nuance in that.
Just heartbreak sh|t you can’t take back.

I disagree. You seem to be taking this statement personally. It's not about you. People can feel different ways about their life after children, it's not illegal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can we talk about Emma’s sister who has kids and claims to love that she has kids but then says if she got to the end of life and had the chance to do it all over she would not have the kids?
Uummmmm. Girl. It’s one thing to say that to your therapist or even in a private confessional moment to your close girlfriends, but this was on TV! Those children you have are actual people who are going to see this one day.
Keep those inside thoughts INSIDE.

One of the most damaging things to a person’s self worth is feeling that you are unwanted and unloved by your own mother. She may think that that isn’t what she was expressing, but her kids won’t see it that way. And it’s such a painfully unnecessary thing to say to the world for your kids to hear. Just makes me sad for their future selves.

I think a lot of people feel that way. It's also really easy to say AFTER you have kids, because the implication would be that you get to do life "both ways". I don't think it's that bad of a comment. Parents always brag about getting to experience both CF life (before kids) and parent life (after kids). Admitting and acknowledging that parenting is hard is admirable, not shameful imo. And it IS hard! CF life, living for yourself is objectively much easier.

But still, very strange to say it that way in her 2 minutes on national TV. It's not like we got to see her and know the complexities she's dealing with.

It was a nuanced statement, and she was trying to support her sister. I have zero problem with it.

That wasn’t nuance.
That was “omg I can’t stand this life I
chose. Parenting is hard and if I had known it was this hard I would never have done it—and want a do-over….but I live my kids though”
No nuance in that.
Just heartbreak sh|t you can’t take back.

Agree, Emma’s sister really rubbed me the wrong way as well. It felt like she came in specifically with an agenda to take a controversial stance and it was extremely off putting.

Yes of course parenting young children can be tough and if she were a main character cast in in an extended reality show about being in the trenches as a young parent it would be more natural for some of those sentiments of doubt/regret to occasionally surface and for the audience to sympathize.

However as a briefly appearing supporting family member on the show, to devote 90% of her “30 seconds of fame” to complaining about the woes of being a mother and her regrets for making the choice to do so (all of which obviously will eventually be viewed by her own children) seems a poor choice.

Again, you people are forgetting about editing. They were probably together for a few hours and only showed "30 seconds". It's not like she wrote a script and said "this is going to be what netflix shows and makes me famous forever". They showed what they wanted to for the best storyline.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like Emma’s sister is getting too much heat. She was standing up for Emma. Mike was pressuring her throughout the pods (if I were Mike, Emma would be a huge red flag and vice versa). Even though I don’t say it in public, I feel similarly to Emma’s sister. Not every mom enjoys motherhood. Some of us have kids with special needs and cannot catch a break.

It's actually so so common! I've heard many parents say the same thing. Being honest about parenthood shouldn't be so controversial, especially when discussing it with someone on the fence.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like Emma’s sister is getting too much heat. She was standing up for Emma. Mike was pressuring her throughout the pods (if I were Mike, Emma would be a huge red flag and vice versa). Even though I don’t say it in public, I feel similarly to Emma’s sister. Not every mom enjoys motherhood. Some of us have kids with special needs and cannot catch a break.

It's actually so so common! I've heard many parents say the same thing. Being honest about parenthood shouldn't be so controversial, especially when discussing it with someone on the fence.

In private, sure, on a message board, to friends...That's totally fine, but not on tv for your kids to watch. I think smart people are those like some family members in various reality shows who refuse to come and be on, like Bri's dad, Amber's ex...There is no upside to going on and being judged by strangers, or making hurtful comments like this one by accident or through shady editing by producers.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like Emma’s sister is getting too much heat. She was standing up for Emma. Mike was pressuring her throughout the pods (if I were Mike, Emma would be a huge red flag and vice versa). Even though I don’t say it in public, I feel similarly to Emma’s sister. Not every mom enjoys motherhood. Some of us have kids with special needs and cannot catch a break.

It's actually so so common! I've heard many parents say the same thing. Being honest about parenthood shouldn't be so controversial, especially when discussing it with someone on the fence.

In private, sure, on a message board, to friends...That's totally fine, but not on tv for your kids to watch. I think smart people are those like some family members in various reality shows who refuse to come and be on, like Bri's dad, Amber's ex...There is no upside to going on and being judged by strangers, or making hurtful comments like this one by accident or through shady editing by producers.

It's fine to talk about on TV. Not everyone wants to be hush hush about their very real feelings about parenthood, and that's fine. If it's not something you'd discuss, well that's your life. You don't get to dictate how everyone else lives theirs.