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Anonymous wrote:Those of you who think OP shouldn't even ask, can you expand on your reasoning? Is it just because she didn't ask beforehand? I don't see how that leads to a conclusion it's rude to ask now. Or is it just DCUM assuming all OPs are always in the wrong?

One child paid for a hotel room. Kids paid for their own food. What more is owed?

No one paid her for the third hotel room.

Even if she didn't take the kids, she still would have gotten two rooms, one for her, and one for her child.

No she said she got beds for everyone, which required 3 rooms for 5 people. She already said her son would have slept in the room with her if he hadn't been invited by the other boy who refused payment.

Completely unnecessary. They are teen boys. Two rooms would have been plenty. Two boys could share or get a rollaway or an air mattress.

She made an assumption about the third room, yes, but the parents and boys who slept there also made assumptions. No way OP is more wrong than they are. And I make my kids sleep on the floor in hotel rooms with me sometimes, but there's no way I'd expect or think anyone would expect 3 boys to stay with a mom they don't even know....

Op child stay with her. Other kids share the paid for room.

Sure, that would have been fine, but those boys took the third room instead of saying we were expecting to stay three in a room.

Even if they’d stayed 3 to a room, wouldn’t they still need to pay 1/3 of the room each?

I was happy to have my kid stay with me. When the other kid invited him, I let him choose, but if we had been alone or had an even number of guests he would have stayed with me.

I would not have been OK with him on the floor. My kid has pretty heavy scholarship support for both school and sport, and the ID camp was a gift from a family member, but we still spend a large portion of our budget on sports because they matter to my kid. To pay hundreds of dollars for an ID camp, and gas, and leave from work, and training, and then have him not play his best when it counts because he didn’t sleep well seems penny wise and pound foolish.

— OP

I agree with you if they stayed 3 to a room they should have each paid 1/3, but then the outstanding financial issue would be between them and and the boy who did pay for that whole room. I was saying given that they didn't stay with him and instead took the other room, there's not any possible excuse for them not paying.

It would be super entitled for anyone to expect your kid to sleep on the floor. If anyone should have, it would be one of the 2 non-paying kids.

It’s common kids share beds on school trips. Op choose not to communicate and complain. One family paid, so the issue is the cost of the unnecessary third room.

But the boys chose to take the third room, therefore they owe for it. Worse, they chose that when watching the other kid pay.

The boys did not choose anything. Op decided and booked the rooms.

The boy who paid for a room chose to have one roommate, OP's son. He did not ask the others, which means they needed to buy their own room. Otherwise, OP's son could have stayed with OP. No one was under any obligation to pay for the other two boys.

The parents were told three rooms. Stands to reason the two sets of parents should have expected to pay for their kids to share one room. Baffling they didn't quickly reach out to OP to ask the amount and how she'd like their portion paid. Agree you should text them, OP. If they don't respond, you know to have nothing to do with the grifters moving forward. At least you know you have one polite set of parents to deal with!

If op expected it, you day thus is your share and they can decline. Who gets three rooms for five. Two was plenty. You arrange it in advance. Op needs to reimburse the family for the room her son shared that the other family paid for.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't invite if you don't intend to pay.

Don’t assume someone else will pay unless it’s is specifically said so, eg “it’s my treat”. If someone says, “I’ll take my kids to the aquarium, let me know if you and your kid want to join us”, does not also mean “and I’ll pay for you”. Always the default is you’ll have to pay your share. That’s just common sense. If you’re not sure on the intent and can’t afford it, politely decline.

She’s wealthy. Who takes teens to a $100 aquarium. Most of these camos have housing.

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Anonymous wrote:Those of you who think OP shouldn't even ask, can you expand on your reasoning? Is it just because she didn't ask beforehand? I don't see how that leads to a conclusion it's rude to ask now. Or is it just DCUM assuming all OPs are always in the wrong?

One child paid for a hotel room. Kids paid for their own food. What more is owed?

No one paid her for the third hotel room.

Even if she didn't take the kids, she still would have gotten two rooms, one for her, and one for her child.

No she said she got beds for everyone, which required 3 rooms for 5 people. She already said her son would have slept in the room with her if he hadn't been invited by the other boy who refused payment.

Completely unnecessary. They are teen boys. Two rooms would have been plenty. Two boys could share or get a rollaway or an air mattress.

She made an assumption about the third room, yes, but the parents and boys who slept there also made assumptions. No way OP is more wrong than they are. And I make my kids sleep on the floor in hotel rooms with me sometimes, but there's no way I'd expect or think anyone would expect 3 boys to stay with a mom they don't even know....

Op child stay with her. Other kids share the paid for room.

Sure, that would have been fine, but those boys took the third room instead of saying we were expecting to stay three in a room.

Even if they’d stayed 3 to a room, wouldn’t they still need to pay 1/3 of the room each?

I was happy to have my kid stay with me. When the other kid invited him, I let him choose, but if we had been alone or had an even number of guests he would have stayed with me.

I would not have been OK with him on the floor. My kid has pretty heavy scholarship support for both school and sport, and the ID camp was a gift from a family member, but we still spend a large portion of our budget on sports because they matter to my kid. To pay hundreds of dollars for an ID camp, and gas, and leave from work, and training, and then have him not play his best when it counts because he didn’t sleep well seems penny wise and pound foolish.

— OP

I agree with you if they stayed 3 to a room they should have each paid 1/3, but then the outstanding financial issue would be between them and and the boy who did pay for that whole room. I was saying given that they didn't stay with him and instead took the other room, there's not any possible excuse for them not paying.

It would be super entitled for anyone to expect your kid to sleep on the floor. If anyone should have, it would be one of the 2 non-paying kids.

It’s common kids share beds on school trips. Op choose not to communicate and complain. One family paid, so the issue is the cost of the unnecessary third room.

But the boys chose to take the third room, therefore they owe for it. Worse, they chose that when watching the other kid pay.

The boys did not choose anything. Op decided and booked the rooms.

The boy who paid for a room chose to have one roommate, OP's son. He did not ask the others, which means they needed to buy their own room. Otherwise, OP's son could have stayed with OP. No one was under any obligation to pay for the other two boys.

Op should pay half the room.

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Anonymous wrote:Those of you who think OP shouldn't even ask, can you expand on your reasoning? Is it just because she didn't ask beforehand? I don't see how that leads to a conclusion it's rude to ask now. Or is it just DCUM assuming all OPs are always in the wrong?

One child paid for a hotel room. Kids paid for their own food. What more is owed?

No one paid her for the third hotel room.

Even if she didn't take the kids, she still would have gotten two rooms, one for her, and one for her child.

No she said she got beds for everyone, which required 3 rooms for 5 people. She already said her son would have slept in the room with her if he hadn't been invited by the other boy who refused payment.

Completely unnecessary. They are teen boys. Two rooms would have been plenty. Two boys could share or get a rollaway or an air mattress.

She made an assumption about the third room, yes, but the parents and boys who slept there also made assumptions. No way OP is more wrong than they are. And I make my kids sleep on the floor in hotel rooms with me sometimes, but there's no way I'd expect or think anyone would expect 3 boys to stay with a mom they don't even know....

Op child stay with her. Other kids share the paid for room.

Sure, that would have been fine, but those boys took the third room instead of saying we were expecting to stay three in a room.

Even if they’d stayed 3 to a room, wouldn’t they still need to pay 1/3 of the room each?

I was happy to have my kid stay with me. When the other kid invited him, I let him choose, but if we had been alone or had an even number of guests he would have stayed with me.

I would not have been OK with him on the floor. My kid has pretty heavy scholarship support for both school and sport, and the ID camp was a gift from a family member, but we still spend a large portion of our budget on sports because they matter to my kid. To pay hundreds of dollars for an ID camp, and gas, and leave from work, and training, and then have him not play his best when it counts because he didn’t sleep well seems penny wise and pound foolish.

— OP

I agree with you if they stayed 3 to a room they should have each paid 1/3, but then the outstanding financial issue would be between them and and the boy who did pay for that whole room. I was saying given that they didn't stay with him and instead took the other room, there's not any possible excuse for them not paying.

It would be super entitled for anyone to expect your kid to sleep on the floor. If anyone should have, it would be one of the 2 non-paying kids.

It’s common kids share beds on school trips. Op choose not to communicate and complain. One family paid, so the issue is the cost of the unnecessary third room.

But the boys chose to take the third room, therefore they owe for it. Worse, they chose that when watching the other kid pay.

The boys did not choose anything. Op decided and booked the rooms.

The boy who paid for a room chose to have one roommate, OP's son. He did not ask the others, which means they needed to buy their own room. Otherwise, OP's son could have stayed with OP. No one was under any obligation to pay for the other two boys.

To be clear, I reserved 3 rooms with my credit card, with the parents' knowledge (assuming they read my text message), before we left home. One kid asked to have a room charged to his credit card, which the hotel did. But changing the number of rooms, at the hotel, at midnight, wasn't possible.

-- OP

Three boys could share the one room and your son in your room. You choose the extra room. This is bizzare.

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Anonymous wrote:Those of you who think OP shouldn't even ask, can you expand on your reasoning? Is it just because she didn't ask beforehand? I don't see how that leads to a conclusion it's rude to ask now. Or is it just DCUM assuming all OPs are always in the wrong?

One child paid for a hotel room. Kids paid for their own food. What more is owed?

No one paid her for the third hotel room.

Even if she didn't take the kids, she still would have gotten two rooms, one for her, and one for her child.

No she said she got beds for everyone, which required 3 rooms for 5 people. She already said her son would have slept in the room with her if he hadn't been invited by the other boy who refused payment.

Completely unnecessary. They are teen boys. Two rooms would have been plenty. Two boys could share or get a rollaway or an air mattress.

She made an assumption about the third room, yes, but the parents and boys who slept there also made assumptions. No way OP is more wrong than they are. And I make my kids sleep on the floor in hotel rooms with me sometimes, but there's no way I'd expect or think anyone would expect 3 boys to stay with a mom they don't even know....

Op child stay with her. Other kids share the paid for room.

Sure, that would have been fine, but those boys took the third room instead of saying we were expecting to stay three in a room.

Even if they’d stayed 3 to a room, wouldn’t they still need to pay 1/3 of the room each?

I was happy to have my kid stay with me. When the other kid invited him, I let him choose, but if we had been alone or had an even number of guests he would have stayed with me.

I would not have been OK with him on the floor. My kid has pretty heavy scholarship support for both school and sport, and the ID camp was a gift from a family member, but we still spend a large portion of our budget on sports because they matter to my kid. To pay hundreds of dollars for an ID camp, and gas, and leave from work, and training, and then have him not play his best when it counts because he didn’t sleep well seems penny wise and pound foolish.

— OP

I agree with you if they stayed 3 to a room they should have each paid 1/3, but then the outstanding financial issue would be between them and and the boy who did pay for that whole room. I was saying given that they didn't stay with him and instead took the other room, there's not any possible excuse for them not paying.

It would be super entitled for anyone to expect your kid to sleep on the floor. If anyone should have, it would be one of the 2 non-paying kids.

It’s common kids share beds on school trips. Op choose not to communicate and complain. One family paid, so the issue is the cost of the unnecessary third room.

But the boys chose to take the third room, therefore they owe for it. Worse, they chose that when watching the other kid pay.

The boys did not choose anything. Op decided and booked the rooms.

The boy who paid for a room chose to have one roommate, OP's son. He did not ask the others, which means they needed to buy their own room. Otherwise, OP's son could have stayed with OP. No one was under any obligation to pay for the other two boys.

The parents were told three rooms. Stands to reason the two sets of parents should have expected to pay for their kids to share one room. Baffling they didn't quickly reach out to OP to ask the amount and how she'd like their portion paid. Agree you should text them, OP. If they don't respond, you know to have nothing to do with the grifters moving forward. At least you know you have one polite set of parents to deal with!

If op expected it, you day thus is your share and they can decline. Who gets three rooms for five. Two was plenty. You arrange it in advance. Op needs to reimburse the family for the room her son shared that the other family paid for.

You can keep doubling down, but you're still wrong. The parents were alerted to three rooms, perfectly reasonable for each kid to get their own bed in order to be well rested, and for OP to have her own room. The other family already refused OP's contribution to half the room, because they are gracious humans who appreciated the time, gas, and toll fees OP already saved them!

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Anonymous wrote:Those of you who think OP shouldn't even ask, can you expand on your reasoning? Is it just because she didn't ask beforehand? I don't see how that leads to a conclusion it's rude to ask now. Or is it just DCUM assuming all OPs are always in the wrong?

One child paid for a hotel room. Kids paid for their own food. What more is owed?

No one paid her for the third hotel room.

Even if she didn't take the kids, she still would have gotten two rooms, one for her, and one for her child.

No she said she got beds for everyone, which required 3 rooms for 5 people. She already said her son would have slept in the room with her if he hadn't been invited by the other boy who refused payment.

Completely unnecessary. They are teen boys. Two rooms would have been plenty. Two boys could share or get a rollaway or an air mattress.

She made an assumption about the third room, yes, but the parents and boys who slept there also made assumptions. No way OP is more wrong than they are. And I make my kids sleep on the floor in hotel rooms with me sometimes, but there's no way I'd expect or think anyone would expect 3 boys to stay with a mom they don't even know....

Op child stay with her. Other kids share the paid for room.

Sure, that would have been fine, but those boys took the third room instead of saying we were expecting to stay three in a room.

Even if they’d stayed 3 to a room, wouldn’t they still need to pay 1/3 of the room each?

I was happy to have my kid stay with me. When the other kid invited him, I let him choose, but if we had been alone or had an even number of guests he would have stayed with me.

I would not have been OK with him on the floor. My kid has pretty heavy scholarship support for both school and sport, and the ID camp was a gift from a family member, but we still spend a large portion of our budget on sports because they matter to my kid. To pay hundreds of dollars for an ID camp, and gas, and leave from work, and training, and then have him not play his best when it counts because he didn’t sleep well seems penny wise and pound foolish.

— OP

I agree with you if they stayed 3 to a room they should have each paid 1/3, but then the outstanding financial issue would be between them and and the boy who did pay for that whole room. I was saying given that they didn't stay with him and instead took the other room, there's not any possible excuse for them not paying.

It would be super entitled for anyone to expect your kid to sleep on the floor. If anyone should have, it would be one of the 2 non-paying kids.

It’s common kids share beds on school trips. Op choose not to communicate and complain. One family paid, so the issue is the cost of the unnecessary third room.

But the boys chose to take the third room, therefore they owe for it. Worse, they chose that when watching the other kid pay.

The boys did not choose anything. Op decided and booked the rooms.

The boy who paid for a room chose to have one roommate, OP's son. He did not ask the others, which means they needed to buy their own room. Otherwise, OP's son could have stayed with OP. No one was under any obligation to pay for the other two boys.

To be clear, I reserved 3 rooms with my credit card, with the parents' knowledge (assuming they read my text message), before we left home. One kid asked to have a room charged to his credit card, which the hotel did. But changing the number of rooms, at the hotel, at midnight, wasn't possible.

-- OP

Three boys could share the one room and your son in your room. You choose the extra room. This is bizzare.

Not at all bizarre. Which kid should share a bed or sleep on the floor. Yours? The parents were alerted, and were FREE NOT TO SEND THEIR CHILD if they did not care for their arrangements. But expecting OP to pay for their stay, in addition to doing all the labor, is class A grifting. They already benefitted quite a bit from her generosity. OP, unfortunately those are the sorts of people who conveniently don't pay and also never reciprocate. So now you know. Only deal with the one boy's parents moving forward.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't invite if you don't intend to pay.

Don’t assume someone else will pay unless it’s is specifically said so, eg “it’s my treat”. If someone says, “I’ll take my kids to the aquarium, let me know if you and your kid want to join us”, does not also mean “and I’ll pay for you”. Always the default is you’ll have to pay your share. That’s just common sense. If you’re not sure on the intent and can’t afford it, politely decline.

She’s wealthy. Who takes teens to a $100 aquarium. Most of these camos have housing.

The OP is not the same person who went to the aquarium.

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Anonymous wrote:Those of you who think OP shouldn't even ask, can you expand on your reasoning? Is it just because she didn't ask beforehand? I don't see how that leads to a conclusion it's rude to ask now. Or is it just DCUM assuming all OPs are always in the wrong?

One child paid for a hotel room. Kids paid for their own food. What more is owed?

No one paid her for the third hotel room.

Even if she didn't take the kids, she still would have gotten two rooms, one for her, and one for her child.

No she said she got beds for everyone, which required 3 rooms for 5 people. She already said her son would have slept in the room with her if he hadn't been invited by the other boy who refused payment.

Completely unnecessary. They are teen boys. Two rooms would have been plenty. Two boys could share or get a rollaway or an air mattress.

She made an assumption about the third room, yes, but the parents and boys who slept there also made assumptions. No way OP is more wrong than they are. And I make my kids sleep on the floor in hotel rooms with me sometimes, but there's no way I'd expect or think anyone would expect 3 boys to stay with a mom they don't even know....

Op child stay with her. Other kids share the paid for room.

Sure, that would have been fine, but those boys took the third room instead of saying we were expecting to stay three in a room.

Even if they’d stayed 3 to a room, wouldn’t they still need to pay 1/3 of the room each?

I was happy to have my kid stay with me. When the other kid invited him, I let him choose, but if we had been alone or had an even number of guests he would have stayed with me.

I would not have been OK with him on the floor. My kid has pretty heavy scholarship support for both school and sport, and the ID camp was a gift from a family member, but we still spend a large portion of our budget on sports because they matter to my kid. To pay hundreds of dollars for an ID camp, and gas, and leave from work, and training, and then have him not play his best when it counts because he didn’t sleep well seems penny wise and pound foolish.

— OP

I agree with you if they stayed 3 to a room they should have each paid 1/3, but then the outstanding financial issue would be between them and and the boy who did pay for that whole room. I was saying given that they didn't stay with him and instead took the other room, there's not any possible excuse for them not paying.

It would be super entitled for anyone to expect your kid to sleep on the floor. If anyone should have, it would be one of the 2 non-paying kids.

It’s common kids share beds on school trips. Op choose not to communicate and complain. One family paid, so the issue is the cost of the unnecessary third room.

But the boys chose to take the third room, therefore they owe for it. Worse, they chose that when watching the other kid pay.

The boys did not choose anything. Op decided and booked the rooms.

The boy who paid for a room chose to have one roommate, OP's son. He did not ask the others, which means they needed to buy their own room. Otherwise, OP's son could have stayed with OP. No one was under any obligation to pay for the other two boys.

The parents were told three rooms. Stands to reason the two sets of parents should have expected to pay for their kids to share one room. Baffling they didn't quickly reach out to OP to ask the amount and how she'd like their portion paid. Agree you should text them, OP. If they don't respond, you know to have nothing to do with the grifters moving forward. At least you know you have one polite set of parents to deal with!

If op expected it, you day thus is your share and they can decline. Who gets three rooms for five. Two was plenty. You arrange it in advance. Op needs to reimburse the family for the room her son shared that the other family paid for.

You can keep doubling down, but you're still wrong. The parents were alerted to three rooms, perfectly reasonable for each kid to get their own bed in order to be well rested, and for OP to have her own room. The other family already refused OP's contribution to half the room, because they are gracious humans who appreciated the time, gas, and toll fees OP already saved them!

This. Ffs what is wrong with some of you people??

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Anonymous wrote:Don't invite if you don't intend to pay.

Don’t assume someone else will pay unless it’s is specifically said so, eg “it’s my treat”. If someone says, “I’ll take my kids to the aquarium, let me know if you and your kid want to join us”, does not also mean “and I’ll pay for you”. Always the default is you’ll have to pay your share. That’s just common sense. If you’re not sure on the intent and can’t afford it, politely decline.

She’s wealthy. Who takes teens to a $100 aquarium. Most of these camos have housing.

The OP is not the same person who went to the aquarium.

In any case, why would being able to afford a hotel or aquarium mean others are entitled to your money?

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Anonymous wrote:Don't invite if you don't intend to pay.

Don’t assume someone else will pay unless it’s is specifically said so, eg “it’s my treat”. If someone says, “I’ll take my kids to the aquarium, let me know if you and your kid want to join us”, does not also mean “and I’ll pay for you”. Always the default is you’ll have to pay your share. That’s just common sense. If you’re not sure on the intent and can’t afford it, politely decline.

She’s wealthy. Who takes teens to a $100 aquarium. Most of these camos have housing.

Have you ever been to a museum, zoo or aquarium? Outside of DC the tickets are at the minimum $20 and often $50, public transportation $10, snacks $10. Why are you shocked it costs $100 to take two kids out to a trip like this? I’m not surprised you expect OP to pack an inflatable mattress or sleep two athlete teenagers in one bed. The rest of the sane people would just make normal sleeping arrangements and expect to be reimbursed by the other parents. If you can’t afford it don’t send your kids to overnight trips. Or bring the mattress, sleep in the car if you’d like but don’t expect other parents to play along.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't invite if you don't intend to pay.

Don’t assume someone else will pay unless it’s is specifically said so, eg “it’s my treat”. If someone says, “I’ll take my kids to the aquarium, let me know if you and your kid want to join us”, does not also mean “and I’ll pay for you”. Always the default is you’ll have to pay your share. That’s just common sense. If you’re not sure on the intent and can’t afford it, politely decline.

She’s wealthy. Who takes teens to a $100 aquarium. Most of these camos have housing.

The OP is not the same person who went to the aquarium.

In any case, why would being able to afford a hotel or aquarium mean others are entitled to your money?

OP here,

I'm not the one who wrote about taking kids to the aquarium, but I am curious about this too. I also don't have a "big car" like someone posted. I borrowed one from a relative.

But I am very curious about the "she must be rich" line of thinking. If people feel that asking for reimbursement would or wouldn't be OK based on incomes, what would be the guidance? Is it absolute (e.g. if you are above X threshold) or relative (e.g. if I make more than the people I'm asking).

I have made my decision, so now I'm just really curious about how some of you are thinking about this.

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Op- did you get repaid?

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Anonymous wrote:Don't invite if you don't intend to pay.

She didn’t invite.

Ok change "host" to "invite". She should have said to her kid, let your friends know that I happy to take them, but they need to pay there share of the room and meals. If their parents are ok with that, then I will call and text them to confirm. She should have called and said "I just want to make sure that your kid conveyed the message that I am happy to take them as long as their portion of the travel is paid for, I will text you the information shortly." Then send a text (simply for the fact then you have something in "writing") with the estimated cost and say "feel free to apple pay, venmo, or send cash with the kid".

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Anonymous wrote:Op- did you get repaid?

14+ pages on this thread.

Update Op ?

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Anonymous wrote:Those of you who think OP shouldn't even ask, can you expand on your reasoning? Is it just because she didn't ask beforehand? I don't see how that leads to a conclusion it's rude to ask now. Or is it just DCUM assuming all OPs are always in the wrong?

One child paid for a hotel room. Kids paid for their own food. What more is owed?

No one paid her for the third hotel room.

Even if she didn't take the kids, she still would have gotten two rooms, one for her, and one for her child.

No she said she got beds for everyone, which required 3 rooms for 5 people. She already said her son would have slept in the room with her if he hadn't been invited by the other boy who refused payment.

Completely unnecessary. They are teen boys. Two rooms would have been plenty. Two boys could share or get a rollaway or an air mattress.

She made an assumption about the third room, yes, but the parents and boys who slept there also made assumptions. No way OP is more wrong than they are. And I make my kids sleep on the floor in hotel rooms with me sometimes, but there's no way I'd expect or think anyone would expect 3 boys to stay with a mom they don't even know....

Op child stay with her. Other kids share the paid for room.

Sure, that would have been fine, but those boys took the third room instead of saying we were expecting to stay three in a room.

Even if they’d stayed 3 to a room, wouldn’t they still need to pay 1/3 of the room each?

I was happy to have my kid stay with me. When the other kid invited him, I let him choose, but if we had been alone or had an even number of guests he would have stayed with me.

I would not have been OK with him on the floor. My kid has pretty heavy scholarship support for both school and sport, and the ID camp was a gift from a family member, but we still spend a large portion of our budget on sports because they matter to my kid. To pay hundreds of dollars for an ID camp, and gas, and leave from work, and training, and then have him not play his best when it counts because he didn’t sleep well seems penny wise and pound foolish.

— OP

I agree with you if they stayed 3 to a room they should have each paid 1/3, but then the outstanding financial issue would be between them and and the boy who did pay for that whole room. I was saying given that they didn't stay with him and instead took the other room, there's not any possible excuse for them not paying.

It would be super entitled for anyone to expect your kid to sleep on the floor. If anyone should have, it would be one of the 2 non-paying kids.

It’s common kids share beds on school trips. Op choose not to communicate and complain. One family paid, so the issue is the cost of the unnecessary third room.

But the boys chose to take the third room, therefore they owe for it. Worse, they chose that when watching the other kid pay.

The boys did not choose anything. Op decided and booked the rooms.

The boy who paid for a room chose to have one roommate, OP's son. He did not ask the others, which means they needed to buy their own room. Otherwise, OP's son could have stayed with OP. No one was under any obligation to pay for the other two boys.

The parents were told three rooms. Stands to reason the two sets of parents should have expected to pay for their kids to share one room. Baffling they didn't quickly reach out to OP to ask the amount and how she'd like their portion paid. Agree you should text them, OP. If they don't respond, you know to have nothing to do with the grifters moving forward. At least you know you have one polite set of parents to deal with!

If op expected it, you day thus is your share and they can decline. Who gets three rooms for five. Two was plenty. You arrange it in advance. Op needs to reimburse the family for the room her son shared that the other family paid for.

You can keep doubling down, but you're still wrong. The parents were alerted to three rooms, perfectly reasonable for each kid to get their own bed in order to be well rested, and for OP to have her own room. The other family already refused OP's contribution to half the room, because they are gracious humans who appreciated the time, gas, and toll fees OP already saved them!

If op isn’t rich as she says, no it’s not. We always share one room. Check your privilege. Teens don’t need their own room and most of these camps are on college campuses that have housing. Op need to pay for half her sons room.