Slim picking dating in your fifties

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:50 yo old women and fat women are invisible to me. Honestly they are an annoyance that they exist. All they do is creat more traffic and make lines longer.

The sentiment that women past 50 should not even exist isn’t really rare these days.. A lot of posts on X are dedicated specifically to the bashing of perimenopausal women who happen to find themselves single at that age for whatever reason (divorce, becoming a widow, never married, etc). It doesn’t matter what they look like or how they present themselves they cannot do anything right. Their entire existence somehow bothers people. Whether they wear tons of makeup and do surgeries to look as young as possible or go without makeup and natural like Pam Anderson, they are guaranteed to get flamed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a man in my 50s dating a smart, successful attractive woman in her 40s, more than 10 years younger. Yes, a woman in her 40s is more likely to be attractive to me than a woman in her 50s, but that's not the whole story.

Plenty of women in their 50s also are attractive and I've been turned down by attractive women in their 50s (and a few in their 60s) quite a few times. I'm a decent looking professional guy but I have plenty of competition .

I've also had relationships with women my age or older and they were great. Those women were attractive, sexual, etc. Other men were interested in them too.

Women in their 50s have options.

You sound very attractive I am 52, and I have been dating younger men. Tomorrow, I have a date with a 48 yr old man, who is handsome, fit, and smart. He already made a dinner reservation etc. and organized the night. I am excited.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:50 yo old women and fat women are invisible to me. Honestly they are an annoyance that they exist. All they do is creat more traffic and make lines longer.

The sentiment that women past 50 should not even exist isn’t really rare these days.. A lot of posts on X are dedicated specifically to the bashing of perimenopausal women who happen to find themselves single at that age for whatever reason (divorce, becoming a widow, never married, etc). It doesn’t matter what they look like or how they present themselves they cannot do anything right. Their entire existence somehow bothers people. Whether they wear tons of makeup and do surgeries to look as young as possible or go without makeup and natural like Pam Anderson, they are guaranteed to get flamed.

It is rare. Don't forget that social media is an echo chamber where the most raucous and provocative get rewarded by more attention. Normal men and women do not think like this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of this “unrealistic expectations” crap. I’m a 51 YO woman, ... if I’m going to sleep with you, you better be attractive!

Yes, both partners must be attractive.

Anonymous wrote:IME people who are looking for a relationship ... want to meet quickly in a low stakes situation- coffee or a drink. I definitely don’t want to plan an evening with someone new.

Single women want unlimited selection. If the men are asking and paying, then why not schedule a bunch of convenient free dates? The answer is that the men you want are quite different from 90% of the available men. Some women get a lot of dates and decide to do a quick meet-up to make sure the guy is not a loser.

Now think of the man's perspective. An attractive 51-year-old man can date an attractive young-looking 41-year-old woman. It displays bad attitude when the woman schedules a convenient coffee date, or is late, or dressed in gym clothes. I suggest a drink at the free daily Kennedy Center show. This gives you the option to upgrade to a second drink or dinner. It is rude when the woman treats the first meeting as an audition or a free-option instead of a real date.

Nobody ever fell in love over coffee. After 90+ coffee dates, D.C. dating author Erika Ettin finally met her fiance for an evening drink. My wife did this too, until I took her for an evening glass of wine. Be patient, and you might have the privilege of being my next ex-wife.

It sucks to dress up for a bunch of frogs, but you must always be prepared for a prince. Think of this as an interview, where you dress for the job you want. If you want the job of lover, then you had better be pleasant, punctual and dressed like a lover.

I’m married so I have no skin in this game. But this isn’t a pep talk for women. It’s Exhibit A on why most don’t want to get married again in middle age.

I know right? I am married and we’ll probably make it in the long run (already made it 25 years and are close to getting out youngest out of the house). But if I lose my DH to divorce or death, I am staying single. Imagine running into the PP or others like him?

[Anonymous]

Who are these old hos that want to date guys my sons’ ages???

It’s so fkn weird. What the fk are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:50 yo old women and fat women are invisible to me. Honestly they are an annoyance that they exist. All they do is creat more traffic and make lines longer.

The sentiment that women past 50 should not even exist isn’t really rare these days.. A lot of posts on X are dedicated specifically to the bashing of perimenopausal women who happen to find themselves single at that age for whatever reason (divorce, becoming a widow, never married, etc). It doesn’t matter what they look like or how they present themselves they cannot do anything right. Their entire existence somehow bothers people. Whether they wear tons of makeup and do surgeries to look as young as possible or go without makeup and natural like Pam Anderson, they are guaranteed to get flamed.

Why do women still seek the validation of men when they reach a certain age? I am genuinely curious. If you walk into a space and no men pay attention to you and/or compliment you why does it matter? Or are they minding their own business and men still feel the need to bash them? When a younger beautiful woman walks into a room I will look, appreciate and maybe even compliment her. If an older woman walks in I probably won't even notice her. But that doesn't mean she isn't beautiful. It's just that I don't see her. And I think that's okay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:50 yo old women and fat women are invisible to me. Honestly they are an annoyance that they exist. All they do is creat more traffic and make lines longer.

The sentiment that women past 50 should not even exist isn’t really rare these days.. A lot of posts on X are dedicated specifically to the bashing of perimenopausal women who happen to find themselves single at that age for whatever reason (divorce, becoming a widow, never married, etc). It doesn’t matter what they look like or how they present themselves they cannot do anything right. Their entire existence somehow bothers people. Whether they wear tons of makeup and do surgeries to look as young as possible or go without makeup and natural like Pam Anderson, they are guaranteed to get flamed.

Why do women still seek the validation of men when they reach a certain age? I am genuinely curious. If you walk into a space and no men pay attention to you and/or compliment you why does it matter? Or are they minding their own business and men still feel the need to bash them? When a younger beautiful woman walks into a room I will look, appreciate and maybe even compliment her. If an older woman walks in I probably won't even notice her. But that doesn't mean she isn't beautiful. It's just that I don't see her. And I think that's okay.

Check your hormones if you don’t notice beautiful women your age

[Anonymous]

If you look at rankings like People magazine's "sexiest person", the man is always 40+ (Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Daniel Craig). The women are usually in their 20s (Kate Upton was 22 at the time for example). I wonder why?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:50 yo old women and fat women are invisible to me. Honestly they are an annoyance that they exist. All they do is creat more traffic and make lines longer.

The sentiment that women past 50 should not even exist isn’t really rare these days.. A lot of posts on X are dedicated specifically to the bashing of perimenopausal women who happen to find themselves single at that age for whatever reason (divorce, becoming a widow, never married, etc). It doesn’t matter what they look like or how they present themselves they cannot do anything right. Their entire existence somehow bothers people. Whether they wear tons of makeup and do surgeries to look as young as possible or go without makeup and natural like Pam Anderson, they are guaranteed to get flamed.

Why do women still seek the validation of men when they reach a certain age? I am genuinely curious. If you walk into a space and no men pay attention to you and/or compliment you why does it matter? Or are they minding their own business and men still feel the need to bash them? When a younger beautiful woman walks into a room I will look, appreciate and maybe even compliment her. If an older woman walks in I probably won't even notice her. But that doesn't mean she isn't beautiful. It's just that I don't see her. And I think that's okay.

Check your hormones if you don’t notice beautiful women your age

Like the PP said why are you seeking men's validation? If an old man doesn't notice another old woman so what? Seriously I am an old with wrinkly balls and I notice younger beautiful women first. But guess what they don't notice me at all. And I am okay with it. At some point in life you cease to be everyone's cup of tea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you look at rankings like People magazine's "sexiest person", the man is always 40+ (Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Daniel Craig). The women are usually in their 20s (Kate Upton was 22 at the time for example). I wonder why?

Bc men are so immature at 20 that a real woman can’t imagine it is even the same species. They have to mature at least 20 more years for us to even see them as worthy. Even then, many brains stay too dysfunctional to be worth it. We’ll sometimes make exceptions for an extremely hot body or face, but that’s purely for sex… sadly still not enough for a true companion if the brain is addled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you look at rankings like People magazine's "sexiest person", the man is always 40+ (Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Daniel Craig). The women are usually in their 20s (Kate Upton was 22 at the time for example). I wonder why?

People magazine is for dinosaurs. I would not look at them for trends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:50 yo old women and fat women are invisible to me. Honestly they are an annoyance that they exist. All they do is creat more traffic and make lines longer.

The sentiment that women past 50 should not even exist isn’t really rare these days.. A lot of posts on X are dedicated specifically to the bashing of perimenopausal women who happen to find themselves single at that age for whatever reason (divorce, becoming a widow, never married, etc). It doesn’t matter what they look like or how they present themselves they cannot do anything right. Their entire existence somehow bothers people. Whether they wear tons of makeup and do surgeries to look as young as possible or go without makeup and natural like Pam Anderson, they are guaranteed to get flamed.

Why do women still seek the validation of men when they reach a certain age? I am genuinely curious. If you walk into a space and no men pay attention to you and/or compliment you why does it matter? Or are they minding their own business and men still feel the need to bash them? When a younger beautiful woman walks into a room I will look, appreciate and maybe even compliment her. If an older woman walks in I probably won't even notice her. But that doesn't mean she isn't beautiful. It's just that I don't see her. And I think that's okay.

I don’t think they do. I think people really underestimate the weird energy men give off starting when you are really young and going through your 20s and 30s. Frankly, it’s a relief to be done with that.

I’m 49 still fit and attractive, but I understand that my 20s and 30s are over and I’m fine with that. I don’t miss that weird energy at all - not from all men of course, but for more than you think, honestly, people just treat me better now. Maybe some people would call it invisibility, but I just feel a lot more respected, whether it’s in my career, or just going about my day.

I have a teenage daughter, and she is beautiful. I have seen how it makes some men frankly just angry. I’m not gonna sit here and analyze what it is, maybe they are angry at the feelings that she brings out of them and knowing they can’t have her because they’re too old and it’s gross, I don’t know, but it’s there.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it would be that hard to find someone nice to date. Your cohort of other single women at that point is largely done with men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:50 yo old women and fat women are invisible to me. Honestly they are an annoyance that they exist. All they do is creat more traffic and make lines longer.

The sentiment that women past 50 should not even exist isn’t really rare these days.. A lot of posts on X are dedicated specifically to the bashing of perimenopausal women who happen to find themselves single at that age for whatever reason (divorce, becoming a widow, never married, etc). It doesn’t matter what they look like or how they present themselves they cannot do anything right. Their entire existence somehow bothers people. Whether they wear tons of makeup and do surgeries to look as young as possible or go without makeup and natural like Pam Anderson, they are guaranteed to get flamed.

Why do women still seek the validation of men when they reach a certain age? I am genuinely curious. If you walk into a space and no men pay attention to you and/or compliment you why does it matter? Or are they minding their own business and men still feel the need to bash them? When a younger beautiful woman walks into a room I will look, appreciate and maybe even compliment her. If an older woman walks in I probably won't even notice her. But that doesn't mean she isn't beautiful. It's just that I don't see her. And I think that's okay.

I don’t think they do. I think people really underestimate the weird energy men give off starting when you are really young and going through your 20s and 30s. Frankly, it’s a relief to be done with that.

I’m 49 still fit and attractive, but I understand that my 20s and 30s are over and I’m fine with that. I don’t miss that weird energy at all - not from all men of course, but for more than you think, honestly, people just treat me better now. Maybe some people would call it invisibility, but I just feel a lot more respected, whether it’s in my career, or just going about my day.

I have a teenage daughter, and she is beautiful. I have seen how it makes some men frankly just angry. I’m not gonna sit here and analyze what it is, maybe they are angry at the feelings that she brings out of them and knowing they can’t have her because they’re too old and it’s gross, I don’t know, but it’s there.

I totally agree with that. It’s such a relief not to be exposed to this awful energy that young attractive women get.

Also, the creeps that stare at my beautiful teenage daughter… she doesn’t notice yet but it’s not ok. Next time I’ll say something when a 40 or 50 year old stare at my daughter.

[Anonymous]

First time on OLD in my life - after just 2 days I have so many respectful and polite matches. I think I’ll go on a date next weekend. They’re all attractive, age appropriate with good careers (like me). I don’t see slim pickings at all.