Gene Hackman R.I.P.

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Tell me something you people who call your elderly parents every day: What do you talk about?

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Anonymous wrote:Tell me something you people who call your elderly parents every day: What do you talk about?

Enough of this move on. Off topic.

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Anonymous wrote:This is why you need a call button watch to call the authorities if you fall. They even have ones that detect if you fell and are not moving. They were very wealthy and could afford the best system. It's so sad what happened to them. They obviously needed more help. Such a terrible way to die. RIP.

Yep, if you have a call button watch you are guaranteed a peaceful, picturesque death!

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Anonymous wrote:Tell me something you people who call your elderly parents every day: What do you talk about?

I'm not one of the people who judges here, but I talk to an elderly parent every day. Sometimes it's a 1 minute call. "Hey Dad, just checking in, thought you'd want to know that Larlo scored two baskets in the game last night. What are your plans for today? Oh that sounds great! Have fun. The kids say hi. I love you." Sometimes one of us has bigger family news "I saw so and so's new baby. So cute, looks like his grandpa! Aunt Jane was there, she looked so thrilled!", or we're planning something upcoming "I'm thinking about Easter. What do you think we should serve? Any requests?" or we talk about current events.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell me something you people who call your elderly parents every day: What do you talk about?

I'm not one of the people who judges here, but I talk to an elderly parent every day. Sometimes it's a 1 minute call. "Hey Dad, just checking in, thought you'd want to know that Larlo scored two baskets in the game last night. What are your plans for today? Oh that sounds great! Have fun. The kids say hi. I love you." Sometimes one of us has bigger family news "I saw so and so's new baby. So cute, looks like his grandpa! Aunt Jane was there, she looked so thrilled!", or we're planning something upcoming "I'm thinking about Easter. What do you think we should serve? Any requests?" or we talk about current events.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell me something you people who call your elderly parents every day: What do you talk about?

I'm not one of the people who judges here, but I talk to an elderly parent every day. Sometimes it's a 1 minute call. "Hey Dad, just checking in, thought you'd want to know that Larlo scored two baskets in the game last night. What are your plans for today? Oh that sounds great! Have fun. The kids say hi. I love you." Sometimes one of us has bigger family news "I saw so and so's new baby. So cute, looks like his grandpa! Aunt Jane was there, she looked so thrilled!", or we're planning something upcoming "I'm thinking about Easter. What do you think we should serve? Any requests?" or we talk about current events.

His kids are 65, 63, and 58. I feel like this changes the dynamic a bit.

I thought this article was interesting. It has several quotes from Gene and he talks about loving his children but also describes distance. I think this is a story without villains. You have a dad who wasn’t super present and a family that loves him but they aren’t close either.

https://people.com/all-about-gene-hackman-kids-7968798

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Anonymous wrote:This is why you need a call button watch to call the authorities if you fall. They even have ones that detect if you fell and are not moving. They were very wealthy and could afford the best system. It's so sad what happened to them. They obviously needed more help. Such a terrible way to die. RIP.

Yep, if you have a call button watch you are guaranteed a peaceful, picturesque death!

No, it helps call for help and not leave your body to rot for ten days or have your dog eat your face.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell me something you people who call your elderly parents every day: What do you talk about?

"I love you, mom."

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Anonymous wrote:Tell me something you people who call your elderly parents every day: What do you talk about?

My parents are elderly and I talk or text with them most every day. Some days it’s simply a hey, just checking in to see how you’re doing and if you need anything. Other days we chat longer if we have things to share.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell me something you people who call your elderly parents every day: What do you talk about?

I'm not one of the people who judges here, but I talk to an elderly parent every day. Sometimes it's a 1 minute call. "Hey Dad, just checking in, thought you'd want to know that Larlo scored two baskets in the game last night. What are your plans for today? Oh that sounds great! Have fun. The kids say hi. I love you." Sometimes one of us has bigger family news "I saw so and so's new baby. So cute, looks like his grandpa! Aunt Jane was there, she looked so thrilled!", or we're planning something upcoming "I'm thinking about Easter. What do you think we should serve? Any requests?" or we talk about current events.

His kids are 65, 63, and 58. I feel like this changes the dynamic a bit.

I thought this article was interesting. It has several quotes from Gene and he talks about loving his children but also describes distance. I think this is a story without villains. You have a dad who wasn’t super present and a family that loves him but they aren’t close either.

https://people.com/all-about-gene-hackman-kids-7968798

How does the fact that the kids are in their sixties fundamentally change this? I mean, obviously you have slightly different things to talk about. People without kids who play basketball don't talk about the baskets their kids shot. Jewish people don't call their relatives and make small talk about Easter, and noone calls and makes small talk about the new baby cousin if there isn't a new baby cousin. I used examples from my own family, but assumed that people can figure out appropriate small talk for their own situation. If you think your elder needs this support for their safety then "I can't think of something to say during this 1 minute phone call" isn't a great reason not to.

This isn't a comment on Gene Hackman's children. I call one elder daily and not the other, because the other lives in an independent living community that has protocols so they notice if someone doesn't show up for meals. I think his children probably thought, logically, that if something happened his wife would notice. It seems like something really unusual happened here. Likely when the whole story comes out, it will be clear that no one could have foreseen this exact set of circumstances.

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My mom is in her 70s, we talk daily about what's going on in life. Whats for dinner, family news, weather, current events.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell me something you people who call your elderly parents every day: What do you talk about?

I'm not one of the people who judges here, but I talk to an elderly parent every day. Sometimes it's a 1 minute call. "Hey Dad, just checking in, thought you'd want to know that Larlo scored two baskets in the game last night. What are your plans for today? Oh that sounds great! Have fun. The kids say hi. I love you." Sometimes one of us has bigger family news "I saw so and so's new baby. So cute, looks like his grandpa! Aunt Jane was there, she looked so thrilled!", or we're planning something upcoming "I'm thinking about Easter. What do you think we should serve? Any requests?" or we talk about current events.

His kids are 65, 63, and 58. I feel like this changes the dynamic a bit.

I thought this article was interesting. It has several quotes from Gene and he talks about loving his children but also describes distance. I think this is a story without villains. You have a dad who wasn’t super present and a family that loves him but they aren’t close either.

https://people.com/all-about-gene-hackman-kids-7968798

How does the fact that the kids are in their sixties fundamentally change this? I mean, obviously you have slightly different things to talk about. People without kids who play basketball don't talk about the baskets their kids shot. Jewish people don't call their relatives and make small talk about Easter, and noone calls and makes small talk about the new baby cousin if there isn't a new baby cousin. I used examples from my own family, but assumed that people can figure out appropriate small talk for their own situation. If you think your elder needs this support for their safety then "I can't think of something to say during this 1 minute phone call" isn't a great reason not to.

This isn't a comment on Gene Hackman's children. I call one elder daily and not the other, because the other lives in an independent living community that has protocols so they notice if someone doesn't show up for meals. I think his children probably thought, logically, that if something happened his wife would notice. It seems like something really unusual happened here. Likely when the whole story comes out, it will be clear that no one could have foreseen this exact set of circumstances.

Ok, what is it?

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I don’t call my elderly parents daily but I absolutely text with them daily or almost so. I think there are lots of elderly parent-middle aged child relationships like that.

But I can also see that if my dad had left my mom forty years ago, I probably wouldn’t have even weekly contact with him. Especially if he had a young wife looking out for him.

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Anonymous wrote:My mom is in her 70s, we talk daily about what's going on in life. Whats for dinner, family news, weather, current events.

70's is much more conversational than mid 90s.

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Anonymous wrote:Sad that he was 95 and none of his three kids checked up on him for over two weeks.

I would not judge. If all the children are out of contact, that could be due to his behavior. None of us know why they didn't call more often, so let's not assume who is the guilty party for that.

Just lame excuses.

Found the abusive/neglectful parent who nevertheless feels entitled to absolute fealty from her children!