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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tell me something you people who call your elderly parents every day: What do you talk about?[/quote]

I'm not one of the people who judges here, but I talk to an elderly parent every day.  Sometimes it's a 1 minute call.  "Hey Dad, just checking in, thought you'd want to know that Larlo scored two baskets in the game last night.  What are your plans for today?  Oh that sounds great!  Have fun.  The kids say hi.  I love you."   Sometimes one of us has bigger family news "I saw so and so's new baby.  So cute, looks like his grandpa!  Aunt Jane was there, she looked so thrilled!", or we're planning something upcoming "I'm thinking about Easter.  What do you think we should serve?  Any requests?"  or we talk about current events.  [/quote]
His kids are 65, 63, and 58. I feel like this changes the dynamic a bit.

I thought this article was interesting. It has several quotes from Gene and he talks about loving his children but also describes distance. I think this is a story without villains. You have a dad who wasn’t super present and a family that loves him but they aren’t close either.

https://people.com/all-about-gene-hackman-kids-7968798[/quote]

How does the fact that the kids are in their sixties fundamentally change this?  I mean, obviously you have slightly different things to talk about.  People without kids who play basketball don't talk about the baskets their kids shot.  Jewish people don't call their relatives and make small talk about Easter, and noone calls and makes small talk about the new baby cousin if there isn't a new baby cousin.  I used examples from my own family, but assumed that people can figure out appropriate small talk for their own situation.  If you think your elder needs this support for their safety then "I can't think of something to say during this 1 minute phone call" isn't a great reason not to.

[b]This isn't a comment on Gene Hackman's children[/b].  I call one elder daily and not the other, because the other lives in an independent living community that has protocols so they notice if someone doesn't show up for meals.  I think his children probably thought, logically, that if something happened his wife would notice.  It seems like something really unusual happened here.  Likely when the whole story comes out, it will be clear that no one could have foreseen this exact set of circumstances.

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Ok, what is it?[/quote]

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