If you are a mistress, do you feel ANY guilt?

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Anonymous wrote:So many of you are being so childish. Do you not understand that adults can become wildly attracted to one another? And that they often act on it? And that sometimes they fall in love? It happens. No one is a jezebel out here. You terrified wives need to put the blame on your DH if this happens to you -- their AP didn't take a vow before everyone to be faithful to you. And yeah, your DH did, but if he doesn't stick to it, maybe you should look in the mirror.

But it happens. I feel like mature adults understand this. .

It is immature to be unable to resist acting on your feelings. It is childish to say, “But I couldn’t help it!” An adult has a bit more self-control.

Try again.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve had multiple AP’s. Some were married and some were single. The married ones were all out and “looking” long before I met them. I never enticed a devoted faithful spouse into cheating. And no, I was not looking to marry any of these people. My marriage is great except we are not new lovers, and the excitement and thrill is not there. It was about finding something that was missing in my life. To think that a marriage is made or broken based on sex alone is short sighted and foolish.

What is your marriage based on? Trust?

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Most of us are also married and not looking for AP to divorce. My AP and I both have sex with our spouses and people would say we are in happy marriages. We do not want to divorce or blow up our lives, we just couldn’t deny our intense chemistry and emotional connection. We met at work and are both VPs in different departments. We both know this will end, but for the time being we enjoy each others company, we have a boyfriend/girlfriend type of relationship that is not just about sex.

You "couldn't" deny the intense chemistry - and have a boyfriend/girlfriend type of relationship? This sounds about right, because you clearly have the maturity of a teenager. Please update us on how you feel when you and AP are caught and you blow up two families and devastate the person you promised to be there for forever.

It will blow up when PP’s AP decides he’s done doing this but PP still has feelings and doesn’t want to stop the affair. It will mean much much more to PP as a woman than it does to her male AP and PP will be hurt and upset and blindsided. Eventually PP will slip up and the AP’s wife will be alerted. This is very dangerous ground.

It doesn’t mean more to me and I will not be blindsided when it ends. We went into this knowing there is an expiration date.

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Anonymous wrote:Ofc they don’t. Home wrecking cu—s have no moral compass.

Yep. lol I mean do you even have to ask? Does a person with zero moral compass and no empathy feel guilt? JFC

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Why would I feel guilt about the kids? My relationship has nothing to do with them. I have no interest in him leaving his family. I have no interest in “more” than we have now— I’m very busy with my career and friends and travel and do not want a marriage or even to have to deal with a man full time. I’m not hurting his kids.

You are literally trash in human form. How does anyone with a nominally typical upbringing become so morally hollow?

Of course you are hurting his kids, by hurting their mother if nothing else. But also - is he spending time with you that he could be spending with them? Is he spending money on you that should be spent on his family? Is he short-tempered at home and starting fights because he has cognitive dissonance over his affair with you (this happens all the time)?

He is spending time where he wants to. And money where he wants to. If there are fights at home, that is not my problem; there are no fights between us.

Haaaaaaa. Why would there be fights? /u see each other only a couple hours a month to bang.

We see each other almost every day.

NP. Not on Christmas, Thanksgiving, holidays, family events, birthdays, work functions, children’s birthdays, life events. Because you’re not fit for family, colleagues, or respected friends and neighbors. He may sneak off to see you after-hours, but you are hidden away for the main events. Not fit.

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Anonymous wrote:I met a man online that I didn’t know was married. We became friends, and talked about a lot of things. He helped me heal from my mentally ill/abusive ex. I finally opened myself to someone that I trusted. I found out later that he was married. He really wanted a loving relationship with his wife for his kids. He sent me pics of his son’s head after his wife shoved her son against a wall for not being tough enough. Who does that?

Not to justify violence, but the sort of person who's at her wits end trying to raise kids alone while her philandering spouse flirts with skanks like you who know she exists and think it's fine to insert themselves into her family anyway. It's not right, but it's understandable.

You're part of her problems. You are. No excuses. Do not facilitate cheating and then act like the wife needs to be saintly. She's being abused, and you're complicit.

Right. The DW who violently hurt her child is “understandable” and the AP is a “skank.”

Ok. We see you.

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Why would I feel guilt about the kids? My relationship has nothing to do with them. I have no interest in him leaving his family. I have no interest in “more” than we have now— I’m very busy with my career and friends and travel and do not want a marriage or even to have to deal with a man full time. I’m not hurting his kids.

You are literally trash in human form. How does anyone with a nominally typical upbringing become so morally hollow?

Of course you are hurting his kids, by hurting their mother if nothing else. But also - is he spending time with you that he could be spending with them? Is he spending money on you that should be spent on his family? Is he short-tempered at home and starting fights because he has cognitive dissonance over his affair with you (this happens all the time)?

He is spending time where he wants to. And money where he wants to. If there are fights at home, that is not my problem; there are no fights between us.

Haaaaaaa. Why would there be fights? /u see each other only a couple hours a month to bang.

We see each other almost every day.

NP. Not on Christmas, Thanksgiving, holidays, family events, birthdays, work functions, children’s birthdays, life events. Because you’re not fit for family, colleagues, or respected friends and neighbors. He may sneak off to see you after-hours, but you are hidden away for the main events. Not fit.

You are so desperately jealous you can’t stand it. We will be together on Christmas, and we have our Valentines Day reservations already for a night out of town. Don’t know what he’s telling her. Don’t care. Went to St Lucia for my birthday.

I have zero interest in his “neighbors” lol. But I know his best friend, who has always disliked the DW.

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Why would I feel guilt about the kids? My relationship has nothing to do with them. I have no interest in him leaving his family. I have no interest in “more” than we have now— I’m very busy with my career and friends and travel and do not want a marriage or even to have to deal with a man full time. I’m not hurting his kids.

You are literally trash in human form. How does anyone with a nominally typical upbringing become so morally hollow?

Of course you are hurting his kids, by hurting their mother if nothing else. But also - is he spending time with you that he could be spending with them? Is he spending money on you that should be spent on his family? Is he short-tempered at home and starting fights because he has cognitive dissonance over his affair with you (this happens all the time)?

He is spending time where he wants to. And money where he wants to. If there are fights at home, that is not my problem; there are no fights between us.

Haaaaaaa. Why would there be fights? /u see each other only a couple hours a month to bang.

We see each other almost every day.

NP. Not on Christmas, Thanksgiving, holidays, family events, birthdays, work functions, children’s birthdays, life events. Because you’re not fit for family, colleagues, or respected friends and neighbors. He may sneak off to see you after-hours, but you are hidden away for the main events. Not fit.

You are so desperately jealous you can’t stand it. We will be together on Christmas, and we have our Valentines Day reservations already for a night out of town. Don’t know what he’s telling her. Don’t care. Went to St Lucia for my birthday.

I have zero interest in his “neighbors” lol. But I know his best friend, who has always disliked the DW.

So why doesn’t he want to be with you 24/7? There was the gloating AP on here that was a side piece for 10 years and always putting down the wife and how meant to be they were. Then one day was unceremoniously dumped. She was so upset and then angry.

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Anonymous wrote:I am married also and no, I do not feel guilt. I don’t want him to leave his family and I am not leaving mine.

Disgusting. Both of you. Why do either of you think you deserve your partners? The devaluing is something you do that is actually not real. It's just something you do in your head to justify your compulsions.

Who puts the value on something? I see this as something two people seem to have agreed to what brings them back to neutral. Some people need something. Some use alcohol or other drugs, this is their drug.

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Anonymous wrote:I know zero women that are affair partners. I have no idea who these people are so I just can't relate to how deprived you must be to do this.

You know them, you just don't know that they are.

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Look at it this way. If your husband spends hours playing golf he then comes home and talks about it for hours and hours.

If he's seeing someone else, he spends an hour or two with them and doesn't talk about it.

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Anonymous wrote:I know zero women that are affair partners. I have no idea who these people are so I just can't relate to how deprived you must be to do this.

You know them, you just don't know that they are.

Yep. That frumpy middle aged mom teaching your exercise class and so “pro sisterhood” is a cheater. That mom that has a blog describing her unselfish role as a wife and mother and her virtues—-yep, another cheater.
You literally have no idea. People are phony.

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Anonymous wrote:Ofc they don’t. Home wrecking cu—s have no moral compass.

Yep. lol I mean do you even have to ask? Does a person with zero moral compass and no empathy feel guilt? JFC

why do so many stay married to someone with zero moral compass and no empathy? How can you forgive your DH if you believe this about cheaters?

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Why would I feel guilt about the kids? My relationship has nothing to do with them. I have no interest in him leaving his family. I have no interest in “more” than we have now— I’m very busy with my career and friends and travel and do not want a marriage or even to have to deal with a man full time. I’m not hurting his kids.

You are literally trash in human form. How does anyone with a nominally typical upbringing become so morally hollow?

Of course you are hurting his kids, by hurting their mother if nothing else. But also - is he spending time with you that he could be spending with them? Is he spending money on you that should be spent on his family? Is he short-tempered at home and starting fights because he has cognitive dissonance over his affair with you (this happens all the time)?

He is spending time where he wants to. And money where he wants to. If there are fights at home, that is not my problem; there are no fights between us.

Haaaaaaa. Why would there be fights? /u see each other only a couple hours a month to bang.

We see each other almost every day.

NP. Not on Christmas, Thanksgiving, holidays, family events, birthdays, work functions, children’s birthdays, life events. Because you’re not fit for family, colleagues, or respected friends and neighbors. He may sneak off to see you after-hours, but you are hidden away for the main events. Not fit.

You are so desperately jealous you can’t stand it. We will be together on Christmas, and we have our Valentines Day reservations already for a night out of town. Don’t know what he’s telling her. Don’t care. Went to St Lucia for my birthday.

I have zero interest in his “neighbors” lol. But I know his best friend, who has always disliked the DW.

So why doesn’t he want to be with you 24/7? There was the gloating AP on here that was a side piece for 10 years and always putting down the wife and how meant to be they were. Then one day was unceremoniously dumped. She was so upset and then angry.

He does.

I don’t want 24/7, and I made that clear from the beginning.

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Why would I feel guilt about the kids? My relationship has nothing to do with them. I have no interest in him leaving his family. I have no interest in “more” than we have now— I’m very busy with my career and friends and travel and do not want a marriage or even to have to deal with a man full time. I’m not hurting his kids.

You are literally trash in human form. How does anyone with a nominally typical upbringing become so morally hollow?

Of course you are hurting his kids, by hurting their mother if nothing else. But also - is he spending time with you that he could be spending with them? Is he spending money on you that should be spent on his family? Is he short-tempered at home and starting fights because he has cognitive dissonance over his affair with you (this happens all the time)?

He is spending time where he wants to. And money where he wants to. If there are fights at home, that is not my problem; there are no fights between us.

Haaaaaaa. Why would there be fights? /u see each other only a couple hours a month to bang.

We see each other almost every day.

NP. Not on Christmas, Thanksgiving, holidays, family events, birthdays, work functions, children’s birthdays, life events. Because you’re not fit for family, colleagues, or respected friends and neighbors. He may sneak off to see you after-hours, but you are hidden away for the main events. Not fit.

You are so desperately jealous you can’t stand it. We will be together on Christmas, and we have our Valentines Day reservations already for a night out of town. Don’t know what he’s telling her. Don’t care. Went to St Lucia for my birthday.

I have zero interest in his “neighbors” lol. But I know his best friend, who has always disliked the DW.

So why doesn’t he want to be with you 24/7? There was the gloating AP on here that was a side piece for 10 years and always putting down the wife and how meant to be they were. Then one day was unceremoniously dumped. She was so upset and then angry.

He does.

I don’t want 24/7, and I made that clear from the beginning.

You’re so believable. :lol: