If you are a mistress, do you feel ANY guilt?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Q is how do they feel about being with someone with so little honor? The ability to lie every day about something so significant is not something I value in a friend or an intimate.

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I suppose the AP and the cheater have the same values. Thus, the eyeroll above.

Correct. Gives me the ick.

[Anonymous]

No, I’m not the one choosing to cheat.

[Anonymous]

My sister could be dating a married guy. She introduced him to me last week. When I asked her jokingly if he was married she quickly changed the subject.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not cheating. I am single. He is cheating.

No, I don't think about it at all. It will end at some point.

Does he have kids? Does she know about you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I’m not the one choosing to cheat.

Ew. You are a part of it.

Not surprising that women who would do this are lacking in basic human decency. Excepting the ones who honestly dont know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why should they? They never made vows to anyone. The scorned wives in here need to direct their anger to the real culprit.

+1

So many wives try to move on and forgive their husbands and then heave rage upon the other woman.

In most cases, she doesn’t think of you at all. She enjoys the time and sex with your husband. That’s it.

[Anonymous]

No.

If the marriage were working he wouldn’t be in love with me. He is only still there for the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why should they? They never made vows to anyone. The scorned wives in here need to direct their anger to the real culprit.

Which is themselves, because their DH wouldn't cheat if they had been doing a good job as wives.

[Anonymous]

I feel sorry for my husband’s former affair partner there’s a great piece I’ll try to link on this topic. APs are almost always completely disposable. The vast majority of people try to rebuild their marriage.

https://medium.com/@restoringlove.com/shes-not-better-than-you-she-s-disposable-a-must-read-for-every-betrayed-wife-d8614a61c138

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to understand the psychology of a woman
Women are emotional. Many of them are driven by love more than lust. When a woman is in a relationship with a guy with whom she feels deep emotional connection (and perhaps love) nothing and I say this nothing will stand in the way. The guy could be married for 30 years 5 kids she doesn't give a f**k. In her mind he pursued her. In her mind he chose to cheat
In her mind he chose to betray her wife. In her mind he chose to potentially disturb his family life and kids.

Does she think she bear any responsibility? Nope. If he abandons his family and ask her to marry him she will say yes. She won't be worrying about the possibility he can do the same to her. She is in love now she thinks she is special she thinks he will change for her.

I recently attended a wedding that my wife was invited to and when I heard that the bride was the mistress and the guy who left his wife and family for her was married for 25 years and had 3 kids. Yet this woman was all smile happy and excited on her wedding day. Incredible.

Hey you could say the same thing about men. Some humans hide behind the fact that they are "not perfect" to make some very hurtful decisions

What was she supposed to be? Somber on her wedding day, mourning the crap marriage he was stuck in before?

[Anonymous]

I am married also and no, I do not feel guilt. I don’t want him to leave his family and I am not leaving mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No.

If the marriage were working he wouldn’t be in love with me. He is only still there for the kids.

Question. Do you feel guilt about the kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am married also and no, I do not feel guilt. I don’t want him to leave his family and I am not leaving mine.

Disgusting. Both of you. Why do either of you think you deserve your partners? The devaluing is something you do that is actually not real. It's just something you do in your head to justify your compulsions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No.

If the marriage were working he wouldn’t be in love with me. He is only still there for the kids.

If the marriage isn't working he should GET OUT OF IT! Not hide being in a marriage and cheat. Why can't you understand this basic fact?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.

If the marriage were working he wouldn’t be in love with me. He is only still there for the kids.

Question. Do you feel guilt about the kids?

What they don’t know won’t hurt them.