I think I’m being taken advantage of and I want out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Three blocks does not equal 10 minutes. The fact that you are exaggerating means you don’t want to do this. So tell them that you can no longer make this work. It doesn’t make you a bad person.

3 blocks in traffic can be 10 minutes.

Sure, there are stretches of three blocks which at some times take ten minutes. Based on her words, it doesn't sound like it typically takes OP ten minutes on these three blocks.

"It takes me three blocks out of my way and only around five minutes, but it’s still something I have to factor into my morning time-wise and I do allow myself an extra 10 minutes, just in case."

[Anonymous]

If you want the time back just tell her that you see that the baby is consistently awake now before your arrival, and that you and your child would like to get back to your regular morning routine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not an imposition -- it is literally not being "imposed" on OP. She was asked and accepted. That's not to say she can't decline going forward (some people would find this easy, but OP clearly doesn't), but I don't get this idea that it is some terrible crime to even have asked. It makes life easier for this family, carpooling is better for the environment, and some people would find the burden of this negligible. Someone said this punishes less assertive people who don't like to say no, but come on. Grow up. If it works for you, great, if it doesn't, it doesn't. Say so. If someone balks at your "no," then fine, they're annoying, but there's no reason to believe these people would have been weird about it (or would be weird about OP having a sick day or whatever). It feels like there is so much resentment these days (f these guys for having three kids) and such weird social isolation (it is wrong for people to even ask me things).

This family apparently can't reciprocate with carpooling right now, but for all we know have every intention of trying to make themselves helpful to OP if the opportunity presents itself or when the baby gets older and their lives calm down.

It’s not “carpooling.” They aren’t driving OP’s kid anywhere. It’s using OP as a thrice a week unpaid Uber.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, you sound like a miserable misanthrope of a person. I can’t imagine not wanting to help a new mom. Maybe she imagines you will have a baby also soon and need help, who knows. But by all means, disabuse her of the notion that most fellow parents wouldn’t care about driving three blocks!!! Out of their way so their kid can ride to school with their friend. I would give zero thoughts about doing this, so I can’t help you. And I never ask for help myself. I just can’t fathom being this miserly. five minutes?!

OP you are not a miserable person. Don’t listen to this poster. If you don’t want to do it anymore don’t. I would let them know your schedule has changed & you can’t do it anymore. You should not have to be responsible for picking up someone’s kid everyday if you don’t want to. A month maybe, but the entire school year, nope.