To my husband’s work AP

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Anonymous wrote:OP, your husband chose to cheat on you. I wonder why?

Because he’s a cheater with low morals and no respect for his wife or marriage vows.

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Anonymous wrote:Good for you OP. Actions have consequences. let her burn. Make sure you burn your husband also though.

OP: Oh, he will. This is going to destroy his career.

It should destroy his marriage.

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Anyone want to speculate her husband is also cheating on his AP?

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You sound evil and vicious to handle things this way. Just divorce and move forward. Otherwise, you are being pure evil...I will have sympathy for your husband and not you.

( Spoken from a man who has been recently cheated on by his wife, but is trying to handle things with dignity)

Anonymous wrote:You two work together. You should know after all these years that he’s sloppy and can be less than thorough when he’s distracted.

I found evidence of your affair from your recent work trip and dug deeper to find screenshots and other useful material. It really wasn’t even that hard. You chose to gamble your future on a fool who doesn’t cover his tracks. Like I said, after the myriad of hours you spend talking and the years you’ve worked together, you should know how he is.

I’m going to share these with your husband. I don’t know when yet. I’m sitting on it and deciding. Your home situation is delicate right now, and I know this is the last thing you need. I’m going to enjoy it. Your poor husband. He has no idea. He seems like a nice man too.

Hope it was worth it. Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm assuming you don't have kids if you're proposing going so public it ruins his career. I've been in your shoes, but had kids so chose to keep things private and divorce quietly. I don't want to ruin his career as that has financial consequences for the family, nor does making my children choose sides. You can be a good dad and a crappy unfaithful husband.

You are so logical.
Are you from another planet?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm assuming you don't have kids if you're proposing going so public it ruins his career. I've been in your shoes, but had kids so chose to keep things private and divorce quietly. I don't want to ruin his career as that has financial consequences for the family, nor does making my children choose sides. You can be a good dad and a crappy unfaithful husband.

Okay now we know you’re a bit off center.

OP: Ruining his career isn’t my intention. His business is set up in such a way that this will end it. The two of them are key players in a small business.

How does that happen? I can’t think of a business where its existence depends on two key people not having sex.

OP: I’m not really willing to fully disclose the business field or why it will cause an implosion because I think AP is on this thread. It’s one reason I started searching a little bit more diligently. There were responses to previous threads that just had a little too much information or seemed like they knew the situation a little too well.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone want to speculate her husband is also cheating on his AP?

There was a post complaining about it .

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Anonymous wrote:OP - I slept with your husband bc DH and I have an open marriage. Feel free to tell him. I honored the commitments I made to my DH, I'm sorry your spouse didn't do the same for you. Last I check - I was not part of your wedding vows and made no commitments to you about who I would or wouldn't sleep with

Good luck with your new job hunting!

Its fascinating you think people get fired over this. Unless there is a boss / subordinate dynamic....they're not. Workplaces don't get involved with whether someone should be morally sleeping with someone else - if dating is allowed (as it is almost everywhere now except where there are power differentials) then affairs are also allowed.

You missed where OP said, earlier in the thread, that her DH and the AP are both "key" players in a small firm with a small staff. Sounds like some entrepreneurial thing. If that's the case, well, two leaders out of a small staff, both with total s**tstorms breaking at home--that's going to play havoc with the whole business, possibly. It's funny to me how some here are so very insistent that an affair could never, ever tank a career or business unless it was a boss-subordinate relationship.

DP - I saw that part and that it made it less likely that there would be career fallout honestly. No one is getting rid of 2 key players in a small enterprise.

OP’s first thread should be recommended reading for y’all.

They are partners are talk hours per day?

Yup. I’m waiting for the third installment of this story, perhaps when OP hooks up with AP’s husband.

It will make a great movie.

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Tuning in tomorrow!

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OP- Be sure to tell AP’s husband before you let your husband know that you know. You don’t want to give AP a head’s up as to what’s coming. Let this catch her by surprise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So your DH cheats and instead of divorcing him or working it out privately you go after the OW? Maybe reconsider your strategy.

How about doing both? And then start disclosing to everyone. They reap what they sow

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Anonymous wrote:OP: I’m telling AP’s husband. There really isn’t any 1950s housewife “keep it contained in your own home” bullshit that is going to make a difference here.

She slept with my husband with the full knowledge we are married. It’s on. AP, please know it’s coming.

+1. True feminism is outing them to everyone. Days of the wronged wife being a martyr are over!

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Anonymous wrote:He probably already knows.

OP: I doubt it based on what I can gather. Even still, I’m happy to help him confirm if he is suspicious.

He will forgive her and will stay together.
Then what?

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There is a Taylor Jenkins Reed book about a similar premise. It’s called “Evidence of the Affair.”

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Anonymous wrote:OP, your husband chose to cheat on you. I wonder why?

Because he’s a cheater with low morals and no respect for his wife or marriage vows.

Yeah, right.