Nearly half the kids in my kids private have a diagnosis
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Anonymous
They don’t pull records. They ask for a report that your current school gives them. You are not under any obligation to disclose your personal info beyond what they ask for until after you have a decision precisely bc schools are not allowed to discriminate. If after you are accepted you disclose and they say hey we can’t support then that’s a different story. But they’d aren’t saying that for the most part |
Anonymous
If you’re going from private to private there is no iep. There is no record. You keep being told this |
Anonymous
look, if your kid is going from private to private with no record of support needs why are we even talking about this? you can’t have it both ways. either your kid has a real disability or they don’t. but you’re just reinforcing what’s apparent to everyone: when you want your kid to have a diagnosis they do; when you don’t, they don’t. |
Anonymous
What? An iep is not what makes someone have a disability. A diagnosis is. No one wants their kid to have a disability. The point of the post is that the diagnostic criteria is now extremely wide to the point where not only is the stereotype of neurodiversity being a barrier to entry for mainstream privates, mainstream privates are now the ones seeing neurodiversity everywhere. There is even a club at my kids private. Good for them too |
Anonymous
An IEP is what demonstrates that your kid has needs that require supports and modifications in the classroom. Yes, the whole point of this conversation is that the supposed “neurodiverse” kids at these supposedly “competitive” privates don’t actually have any sort of meaningful claim to being disabled. And that’s frankly insulting to those of us with very smart kids who are shut out of many educational opportunities. I frankly do not want to hear about the “neurodiversity” of your Larla who you’ve been stuffing with Ritalin since 9, gets great grades, has tons of friends, and is applying to T20s. And you know why? Because in fact you’d be the first to ostracize my kid who doesn’t have the picturesque version of “neurodiversity” that apparently poses minimal challenges. |
Anonymous
You’re not describing my child. Many kids who are on the spectrum are able to keep up academically but are very socially awkward. These kids might have supports but there is no reason they can’t thrive in a competitive school where they might find other kids who are very smart but awkward. Other kids with adhd might have gone through years with a school where they knew something was wrong and work with the family as they get them on the right meds. And then again once the kid grows and meds need to be adjusted. Again with the right meds, can be just as successful at school. Privates actually flag more kids for diagnoses early probably so they can optimize the kid’s potential. What you’re asking is if even with supports, a kid is lagging behind academically or is behaviorally problematic can get into a top tier private? No - in the same way that any nt would also not get in. |
Anonymous
and those “socially awkward” kids on the spectrum are not getting admitted to top private HS and MS, even with good grades. The ones with severe ADHD and the bad grades to show it are not either. They just are not. |
Anonymous
| My kid's existence is not an "insult" to kids with higher support needs. My kid exists, her diagnosis and support needs are real. Thankfully she can can currently be supported through supports outside of school (that wasn't the case 2 years ago, it was really rough going during the pandemic, thanks for asking, and the public school services did not help at all which is why we went private). Support needs change through the lifespan. Denying the diagnoses of kids you've never met because they do well in the classroom specifically is low and trashy. |
Anonymous
Your kid’s existence isn’t an insult. You pretending that she has a neurodevelopmental disability is. |
Anonymous
(This is assuming that you are claiming your child goes to a top private. If she goes to a SN private or small noncompetitive one, different story.) |
Anonymous
| I’ve never met an “neurotypical” person in my life. Most people would receive a diagnosis of one kind or another if tested, and everyone could benefit from medication and accommodations. If your child doesn’t have these, you are doing them a disservice. Go find out what is wrong with them and get it addressed before it’s too late. |
Anonymous
Insane trolling. Why would someone pretend this? |
Anonymous
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Where do you think Elon musk, bill gates, mark zuckerberg, Daryl Hannah went to school? Mainstream privates. |
Anonymous
I'm not pretending anything. She was diagnosed by an expert and receives appropriate private supports. Because she receives these supports, she functions well in a classroom right now and is not eligible for an IEP. She doesn't attend a "top private" but your definition of "disability" as "having an IEP" is incorrect. |
Anonymous
| Yes, the ones that leave public school are largely the neurodiverse ones who feel that the public schools are not able to adequately address their special needs. They feel that the privates will give them more personalized attention, smaller class sizes, etc. |