Where are you moving when you retire?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Will stay in DMV near friends.

Might change this based on where kids move and if I/we need assisted care at some point.

It’s expensive here but starting over with making all new friends is a lot to handle.

Your friends will likely move though. If you move to a 55+ community, then you'll have built-in friends. My mom did this in her 70's and has never been happier. She had tons of invitations the very first week and there are so many clubs to join.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To everyone who is saying they'll move away from DC but not necessarily to be near their kids, I have a question.

I have a list of about 10 places that I would just love to live. But while I've lived all over the world and have moved several times with our family, we've been settled here for a while now --- and I'd be too chickensh** to uproot myself at the age of 60 (when I plan to retire).

I just don't I have it in me to start from scratch to make new friends. And I really really don't want to be lonely. I've seen what it's done to my mom who moved when she was 70.

Isn't this a concern for all of you? Or when you say you'll move to Spain, Portugal, etc, are these just fantasties?

Moving away from DC? Sure, happens all the time. If you move to a retirement community, then you'll have friends who are all in the same situation as you.

Moving to a different country? Not as likely. Possibly if there's a large expat community from the US. Even then, you have to deal with cultural issues, paying for healthcare, etc. Moving to some small village where you're the only foreigner is unlikely to work out. If you see villagers taking care of the elderly, they're doing so because that elderly person was born and raised there and related to everyone in the village. They're not going to start taking care of some 70 year old expat who moves there without any ties.

[Anonymous]

The plan is at least part time in a small town in Norway along the fjords. It may change if/when we get grandchildren.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To everyone who is saying they'll move away from DC but not necessarily to be near their kids, I have a question.

I have a list of about 10 places that I would just love to live. But while I've lived all over the world and have moved several times with our family, we've been settled here for a while now --- and I'd be too chickensh** to uproot myself at the age of 60 (when I plan to retire).

I just don't I have it in me to start from scratch to make new friends. And I really really don't want to be lonely. I've seen what it's done to my mom who moved when she was 70.

Isn't this a concern for all of you? Or when you say you'll move to Spain, Portugal, etc, are these just fantasties?

I'm the PP who said Norway. We have been going once per year for the last 15+ years and have made a good deal of connections to prime us for the move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We will retire next year to our condo in Park City, Utah. Believe me, our kids and friends cannot wait to visit us as frequently as possible.

B'bye, D crappy C.

We have friends who are retiring to their house ion PC, and they also will never want for visitors. If you ski, it's truly one of the best year-round retirement spots you can think of.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We will retire next year to our condo in Park City, Utah. Believe me, our kids and friends cannot wait to visit us as frequently as possible.

B'bye, D crappy C.

They will visit less than you think. Count on it.

Written by someone who (i) doesn't ski, and (ii) has never been to PC.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We will retire next year to our condo in Park City, Utah. Believe me, our kids and friends cannot wait to visit us as frequently as possible.

B'bye, D crappy C.

We have friends who are retiring to their house ion PC, and they also will never want for visitors. If you ski, it's truly one of the best year-round retirement spots you can think of.

My older friends just sold their place there. Once they were too old to ski (younger than one of them expected), they moved to the NC shore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Will stay in DMV near friends.

Might change this based on where kids move and if I/we need assisted care at some point.

It’s expensive here but starting over with making all new friends is a lot to handle.

Your friends will likely move though. If you move to a 55+ community, then you'll have built-in friends. My mom did this in her 70's and has never been happier. She had tons of invitations the very first week and there are so many clubs to join.

That sounds truly, truly awful to me. I am glad those places exist for people who like them, but I'm going to do everything I can to avoid them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Northampton MA

Yes! My brother lives there and its great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We will retire next year to our condo in Park City, Utah. Believe me, our kids and friends cannot wait to visit us as frequently as possible.

B'bye, D crappy C.

We have friends who are retiring to their house ion PC, and they also will never want for visitors. If you ski, it's truly one of the best year-round retirement spots you can think of.

+1 If you move somewhere fun, then your friends and family will want to visit.

I'm the pp who said I'm probably retiring to Rehoboth Beach May-September and Florida the rest of the time. We know lots of retirees in Rehoboth Beach. Their adult children and grandchildren visit frequently, especially over the summer. Same with the retirees who retired to Florida at or near the beach. Plus you can go visit your children and grandchildren during the off season.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We will retire next year to our condo in Park City, Utah. Believe me, our kids and friends cannot wait to visit us as frequently as possible.

B'bye, D crappy C.

We have friends who are retiring to their house ion PC, and they also will never want for visitors. If you ski, it's truly one of the best year-round retirement spots you can think of.

+1 If you move somewhere fun, then your friends and family will want to visit.

I'm the pp who said I'm probably retiring to Rehoboth Beach May-September and Florida the rest of the time. We know lots of retirees in Rehoboth Beach. Their adult children and grandchildren visit frequently, especially over the summer. Same with the retirees who retired to Florida at or near the beach. Plus you can go visit your children and grandchildren during the off season.

I couldn’t stand the summer traffic there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Will stay in DMV near friends.

Might change this based on where kids move and if I/we need assisted care at some point.

It’s expensive here but starting over with making all new friends is a lot to handle.

Your friends will likely move though. If you move to a 55+ community, then you'll have built-in friends. My mom did this in her 70's and has never been happier. She had tons of invitations the very first week and there are so many clubs to join.

That sounds truly, truly awful to me. I am glad those places exist for people who like them, but I'm going to do everything I can to avoid them.

Different strokes for different folks. The point is that the plan to stay in the DC area where all your friends currently live might not work out. Almost every person I know who retired left the DC area within a few years of retirement. People say they'll stay but then their friends move away and they don't want to maintain their SFH anymore. Plus some don't want to deal with cold weather and high taxes.

Look around any UMC DMV neighborhood with SFH's and good schools. How many people age 70+ do you see still living there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We will retire next year to our condo in Park City, Utah. Believe me, our kids and friends cannot wait to visit us as frequently as possible.

B'bye, D crappy C.

We have friends who are retiring to their house ion PC, and they also will never want for visitors. If you ski, it's truly one of the best year-round retirement spots you can think of.

+1 If you move somewhere fun, then your friends and family will want to visit.

I'm the pp who said I'm probably retiring to Rehoboth Beach May-September and Florida the rest of the time. We know lots of retirees in Rehoboth Beach. Their adult children and grandchildren visit frequently, especially over the summer. Same with the retirees who retired to Florida at or near the beach. Plus you can go visit your children and grandchildren during the off season.

I couldn’t stand the summer traffic there.

That's only a problem for the weekend warriors. The locals know to do their errands during the week and stay put on Saturdays.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Will stay in DMV near friends.

Might change this based on where kids move and if I/we need assisted care at some point.

It’s expensive here but starting over with making all new friends is a lot to handle.

Your friends will likely move though. If you move to a 55+ community, then you'll have built-in friends. My mom did this in her 70's and has never been happier. She had tons of invitations the very first week and there are so many clubs to join.

That sounds truly, truly awful to me. I am glad those places exist for people who like them, but I'm going to do everything I can to avoid them.

Different strokes for different folks. The point is that the plan to stay in the DC area where all your friends currently live might not work out. Almost every person I know who retired left the DC area within a few years of retirement. People say they'll stay but then their friends move away and they don't want to maintain their SFH anymore. Plus some don't want to deal with cold weather and high taxes.

Look around any UMC DMV neighborhood with SFH's and good schools. How many people age 70+ do you see still living there?

We have no intention of staying here in retirement. But we're definitely not moving to one of those warehouse facilities for old people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We will retire next year to our condo in Park City, Utah. Believe me, our kids and friends cannot wait to visit us as frequently as possible.

B'bye, D crappy C.

We have friends who are retiring to their house ion PC, and they also will never want for visitors. If you ski, it's truly one of the best year-round retirement spots you can think of.

My older friends just sold their place there. Once they were too old to ski (younger than one of them expected), they moved to the NC shore.

That's okay. That's what I want to do - spend the winter in a ski town while I still can and then move to my beach house full time when I can't. I don't feel like retirement needs to be a forever home, although I acknowledge it will be harder to move later. But a ski house is often pretty turnkey - can be sold furnished so as long as you have a second place you can sell it and move on.