Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?

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Anonymous wrote:Civilization ended a while ago. I am happy for you that you are just now noticing. How charming.

That’s your measure of civilization ending? Not wars? Climate change? Volatile politics? How charming.

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Anonymous wrote:So many of these replies focus on how other people should treat you respectfully, regardless of how slovenly your appearance (and for the record I agree).

However, very few will engage with the idea that by dressing like an absolute slob (not even being bothered to find the middle ground between slovenly and dressed to the nines), the slob is the one treating others disrespectfully.

“I want to dress however I want regardless of occasion AND I want to dictate how others should feel or not feel about that, and how they should react to me.”

I, I, I, me, me, me. This is the world we live in, folks.

Why do people keep saying this?
Wearing sweatpants is not disrespectful to you, periodt.

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Anonymous wrote:Are the pajama wearers putting on fresh pj pants in the morning or just rolling out of bed? Do they shower at night?

I’ve seen women at the grocery store that look like they literally just rolled out of bed and came to the store. And this is for afternoon grocery runs. Hair scarfs, pajama bottoms and slippers. I think this looks so trashy and low class. I cannot imagine that they bothered to take a shower and still come to the store dressed like that.

OMG someone showed up at the grocery store without full make-up and heels. Maybe that low class person just nursed a baby all night or is taking care of a terminally ill parent and they needed to run out for a quick errand. You just don’t know anyone else’s situation. What’s really trashy and low class is commenting on other people who you know nothing about. My mother is like this but then she is a complete idiot. She likes Trump’s kids because they are so “good-looking and well-groomed”. Appearance is not more important than character.

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I think people who put on makeup to garden are like people who put on makeup to go to the gym. They look like fools.

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I totally agree with you OP. It's less about makeup and more about non-stretchy, presentable clothes that fit.

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Anonymous wrote:Are the pajama wearers putting on fresh pj pants in the morning or just rolling out of bed? Do they shower at night?

I’ve seen women at the grocery store that look like they literally just rolled out of bed and came to the store. And this is for afternoon grocery runs. Hair scarfs, pajama bottoms and slippers. I think this looks so trashy and low class. I cannot imagine that they bothered to take a shower and still come to the store dressed like that.

Lol, I've never seen this myself but I'll take your word for it.

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Anonymous wrote:Because computers, answering emails, texts, etc. and being in front of screens all day drains the energy out of all of us.

Not only did my grandmother dress better, she sewed the clothes herself. But that’s because she wasn’t wasting time posting on instagram or on here.

We have to snap out of it! Me included!

True. My parents would be horrified by how much time we waste.

My mom could be over the top, but we had to be very dressy for church and looking pretty darn good for everything else.

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Like it or not, we are judged by the way we dress and look. You are also judged by how you dress your children. No one needs to be in designer clothes but at least wear clean and neat clothes and put on some lipstick and dress your children in clean and neat clothing. No stringy dirty hair.

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In my hometown in the 1970s women would wear curlers in their hair to the grocery store, and sometimes slippers. Because they were getting ready to go out to dinner or host a party. Not everyone dressed up for everything then either.

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Anonymous wrote:Like it or not, we are judged by the way we dress and look. You are also judged by how you dress your children. No one needs to be in designer clothes but at least wear clean and neat clothes and put on some lipstick and dress your children in clean and neat clothing. No stringy dirty hair.

Not sure how old you are but older women look like clowns in lipstick and make-up. Less is more the older you get.

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Anonymous wrote:You live in the DMV. This is why.

This is part of it. It's a frumpy crowd who doesn't care much about looks. Hit up Miami or LA and you'll see a higher percentage of people who at least avoided wearing stained clothing out that day.

I moved to Greenwich, CT a few years ago and it's like a different world. People dress up to go to the post office here. Or their friend's house for tea. A constant fashion show in town. It took me a while to get used to but I actually love it.

LOL. It’s easy to look good when you are wealthy and can focus all of your energy on personal care. If I could outsource all cleaning, laundry, children, errands, grocery shopping, cooking and landscaping I’d look fantastic!

My poor, uneducated immigrant mom always found a way to dress well, so there goes that excuse….

I think you've found the answer. People without privilege think they need to look and dress a certain way to be treated the way they want to be treated. Those who don't doubt their status have what I like to call slob privilege. Your poor immigrant mother probably worried that someone was going to ignore her or not treat her kindly - she dressed well to try to avoid that happening. Same with the ridiculous class anxiety you see on this board all the time - what do I wear to the country club? what will the private school moms think of me if i wear this dress or that one? how does old money dress to go to the horse stall?

The people who are comfortable in their status in life, dress how they like - that might be fancy, it might be slobby, it might depend on the day. But they aren't worried about not being allowed on the airplane if they don't have on the right outfit.

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Anonymous wrote:Because Americans are slobs?

Many Americans are slobs, fat, and lazy. "Convenience for me me me" attitude.
Europeans still put in more effort. It is self-respect and respect towards others. I am sure it is the same in South America, Africa, Middle East, Asia as well.

hahahahahaha

sorry

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Anonymous wrote:Like it or not, we are judged by the way we dress and look. You are also judged by how you dress your children. No one needs to be in designer clothes but at least wear clean and neat clothes and put on some lipstick and dress your children in clean and neat clothing. No stringy dirty hair.

Not sure how old you are but older women look like clowns in lipstick and make-up. Less is more the older you get.

I am over 59 and I do not look like a clown by wearing lipstick.

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Anonymous wrote:Like it or not, we are judged by the way we dress and look. You are also judged by how you dress your children. No one needs to be in designer clothes but at least wear clean and neat clothes and put on some lipstick and dress your children in clean and neat clothing. No stringy dirty hair.

No. Do not tell someone to wear lipstick just so they dont offend your delicate snowflake eyeballs.

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Anonymous wrote:Are the pajama wearers putting on fresh pj pants in the morning or just rolling out of bed? Do they shower at night?

I’ve seen women at the grocery store that look like they literally just rolled out of bed and came to the store. And this is for afternoon grocery runs. Hair scarfs, pajama bottoms and slippers. I think this looks so trashy and low class. I cannot imagine that they bothered to take a shower and still come to the store dressed like that.

OMG someone showed up at the grocery store without full make-up and heels. Maybe that low class person just nursed a baby all night or is taking care of a terminally ill parent and they needed to run out for a quick errand. You just don’t know anyone else’s situation. What’s really trashy and low class is commenting on other people who you know nothing about. My mother is like this but then she is a complete idiot. She likes Trump’s kids because they are so “good-looking and well-groomed”. Appearance is not more important than character.

No one has to go out with dirty clothes and dirty hair. Take some pride in how you look!